Change are You Ready

When we struggle the pain can become debilitating. Finding yourself in bed, unplugging from the world. It’s not the answer. We know it’s not the answer, but we can’t find the courage to move. I wish I could tell you here is a magic potion that will lift you out of bed healthy and whole again. Natural is not what will get you out of a deep depression.

The reason it’s not easy is to build strength. If a change could occur with no real effort, it would be short-lived. Here is the thing, do you want it to be comfortable so later down the road you won’t have the strength to NOT get in this dark place? The easy answer is yes, the deep in your gut answer is, it will be painful and hard, but let’s go.change,God,peace

Real change comes through our pain. I know it hurts I do! Most of my life has been depressed. It’s torn my life to bits, cost me beautiful relationships, it’s cost me jobs, family, and a world of other troubles. So believe me, I get it. So this time, I chose the pain. The enemy has thrown wave after wave of garbage in my head. To the point, I have been screaming in my truck stop the pain cursing the world I could not move another step.

I did move another step. What we together must learn to do is live in our soul, not in our head. Our noodle will entirely turn our worlds upside down. Without a doubt, if you stay in your head, the pain will continue. So what do I mean about living in your soul?

Finding a spiritual connection to God, the universe, Devine source, you have to believe in a higher power than yourself. I choose God, but do understand if you don’t have a religious background this can be as though someone is speaking a foreign language to you that you have no clue what they’re saying. The beautiful thing is that’s okay. Together our journey begins.

My entire life, I may have stood at the door of a church a dozen times. Never understood this whole God thing as I called it. Happy to report at this juncture of my life I am entirely convinced that without a spiritual believe my life is stifled where it is. The last half of my life will have meaning and purpose found through God. Having faith in something bigger than ourselves.

One thing is for sure if we’re not ready for a change we won’t. Finding that level of commitment will most likely come from being so tired you merely give in to the fact that something has to give. It’s okay to be there, and it does get better. When a decision to change our lives is made you can be sure that your head is about to say “oh no you don’t we love our pain” you will have to fight with everything that is you do not fall back.

I wish I could tell you it will be easy. What we have to keep on our mind is a lifetime of a conditioned response to tribulation. That’s not going to change overnight or without a commitment to improving. You may have to get up, dust yourself off, and get back on the horse. This is a horse that won’t break easily.

Just when you think you can’t get up again, get up still! What successful people will tell you is the reason they’re successful is they’re willing to take one more step than you are. NO matter the pain of the action, they make it and win. You must adopt this mentality. I can hear many of you saying you don’t have the strength, I’m too young, too old, to set in my ways, I’m a girl, I’m “a,” I’m “a,” blah blah, blah!!! Stop IT!

We all have the strength to change. You can find the fight in you to move past whatever it is that binds you. Loss, finances, divorce, whatever the hell it is you can beat it. Yes, it hurts like hell, but YOU have the strength. Yell, scream, get mad, and tell the world that by God, this stops NOW. My life has meaning and grace. Your past, your biography does not define who you are today. The current situation does not represent the life we’re all intended to live.

Yes, the place you are may really suck. It’s not a life sentence. It is only if you let it. Don’t allow it. Even if it’s a baby step and you confess on your bended knee that change is coming, change is happening and you choose to live happily. Take action no matter the size. A step forward is a step forward. If you get knocked back, take two steps forward. The pain will pass and become easier to deal with.

One thing I can share is meditation is fantastic to help guide your mind to peace. I use meditation music with headphones in my practice. What you want to achieve is relaxation at first. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Nice cleansing breaths. Let the music relax your body, get in peace. Your head maybe running a hundred miles an hour. Breathe! It will slow down, and it’s okay if it takes time.

When you feel relaxed, begin to vision peace raining over you. A gods presence in your mind. See yourself happy, smile while you do this. Trust me, you will be amazed. See yourself the way you would love to have your life. Meditate on it. Vision it in your mind. What your thoughts believe your life will be. It works, be open and try. If it takes a few times, then it takes a few times. This is not a test, it’s a reconditioning of your mind to relax. For most of us, we don’t let our mind have any time off. We’re horrible bosses of our mind. Be a partner in your account, not a master. Relax, and you will find peace!

Find a way to begin to put aside all that troubles you. Walk, meditate, do something that gets you out of your head in a healthy way (no glass of wine is no the answer, even though it should be, LOL). A little levity is what is needed. Laugh, God loves to hear us laugh. Remember nothing worthwhile comes easy. This will be a bumpy road for as long as you let it be. Our life, happy or sad is our choice. Today choose to be satisfied. If you have to say it a thousand times a day “I am happy” then say it.

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Grateful, Are you?

Grateful. If anything in this life can make it better, being grateful is number one. If you can’t be thankful for what you have, then sadly you may be stuck.

Let me give you a prime example. Finances could not be worse. Relationships are in the toilet, you’re about to lose everything. I mean everything. Life looks hopeless. Every turn is some new problem, nothing is getting better. What do you have to be grateful for if life seems like it’s flushing you down the toilet?

• Health, if reasonably healthy then indeed you are blessed. If you don’t believe that tell it to someone that has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer. Ask them if health is not everything.

• The ability to work. If you can stand upright, you have a body that functions you can accomplish. This is something to be grateful for.

• Children healthy? That is a real gift.

• Supportive spouse. A right partner is a beautiful blessing.

• A car that runs to get you to work. A bus that is close to getting you to work.

If you look closely enough, we all have things to put the gratitude in our hearts. Without it, you will stifle your growth. With it, God will enrich your life. I see it every day in my own life. When I live in gratitude, things happen for me out of the blue. A small break here, a significant break there. At the end of the day, I feel stronger. The trials in my life may still be there, but every day, I take a bite out of them.

The key is to be grateful for even the smallest blessing. How can God bless your life if you don’t thank him for yet the most minor benefit? It’s still a blessing. I received $16 in cash from the post office for a PO box I had. I owe thousands of dollars I could have looked at this a couple of ways. I chose to be excited it was something I was not expecting, out of the blue favor from God.

Today if God saw fit to bless me with a penny, I would be just as excited if he saw fit to bestow me with a thousand dollars. Be grateful for the smallest things, then God can bless you with the big stuff. It has to be genuine, though. Don’t be smarty pants and say, “Oh look a penny.” Be seeded in faith and gratitude.

This is an area that I struggle as well. Everything you read from successful people is grateful for what you have. Look around you. We all have things to be thankful for. Blessings come disguised as a smile from a complete stranger, someone allows you in front of them, you can breathe, your health, I could list hundreds more.

Don’t let yourself get caught up in a whirlwind of garbage to the point you forget to be grateful. Blessings could be just around the bend if you stop and just say thank you. Even when finding anything to be thankful for seems distant or hopeless.

Try! I will pray for anyone reading this that you find one small blessing in your life, that being grateful for the most minor of benefits will open the door for God to do amazing things in your life.

 

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Out of the Blue from YOU

Okay everyone today is a challenge, a fun challenge for you to do.

When you get home today to your family. I want you to for no reason at all grab your spouse hug them like you’ve never hugged them before. The question flying out of the mouth of your spouse “what’s this all about”?

The answer needs to come from your heart. Be grateful you have someone that is your spouse. Remember the moment you fell in love with that person. Take that love energy and release that connection in your hug. Feel the strength of your bodies embraced in a simple hug. Let that person know you feel blessed, happy, and in love.Family, love, kids, spouse

If you have kids, get them off a game and do the same. Hug them like you’ve never hugged them before. Let them feel your love and how special they are to you.

Do this with NO expectation. Just LOVE your family for no other reason than LOVE.

Take your cell phone and turn it off. Be present at the moment. Don’t ask about work, how was your day. Just look your family in the eye and just say I love you! That’s it, that’s all. I know in my heart this will be a fantastic experience.

A beautiful surprise is when you can be totally present at the moment and show true love. We get busy, frustrated with life, the list goes on. Take time tonight when you get home to remind your spouse and kids if you have them. How much they truly mean to you. Express your love.

We need to remember kindness, love, and a connectedness to our significant loved ones. I am guilty of not recognizing to be present at the moment with my family. To allow life’s stresses to come home with me. We all do it. Tonight surprise your family, even if it’s just your pet, show them, extra special love, today.

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Be Nice Today

Seems like we always see someone driving crazy on our commute to work. Some person drives all the way up to the front of a long line of cars waiting to exit, twenty cars ahead of you and boom the blinker goes on. Forcing themselves in front of everyone.

We also experience rude people, short-tempered bosses, the list could go on. The real question is are you really going to let these people steal your joy?

Stamping your feet, hitting the steering wheel, cursing the guy that just cut you off. Is that all worth your peace? NO, it’s not!

Slow down and simply let the world unfold in front of you. If someone wants to be a jerk let them. Don’t fall into the enemies trap and lose your peace. If you let someone at the grocery go before you what did it hurt, NOTHING.

If someone cuts you off on the road, let them drive on and smile.

Nothing that happens out of your control is worth losing your joy. Smile and thank God that you have the grace to be okay. Ask yourself if God moves something in front of you, what if it’s to protect you from harm. You get slowed down to prevent you being in an accident. You don’t know so smile.

Being nice will pay much greater dividends to you than anger. Don’t get angry or lose your joy when life throws up a speed bump. Slow down go over the bump and move on with your life.

Smile and wave at the dude that just cut you off (use your whole hand when waving). Let someone who is stressing in line get in front of you. Perhaps your charity will give them pause to find their peace.

Simple kindness.  It doesn’t hurt to be friendly to someone you don’t know. Be a blessing to someone today that seemingly does not deserve it. Your blessing will be returned!

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Meditate

If life is not set too well right now. Meditation can help you find peace. Living in your mind will cause us to live in fear, pain, and anxiety. Our thoughts wander off into the abyss of negativity.

Meditate to get in touch with your soul. To touch the divine. When we live from the soul, all things are possible. During meditation practice aligning with God, the divine source will release your energy. Bring into our lives joy, happiness, and oneness with the universe. Where real peace is found.

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Connecting with Devine Energy

As part of healthy meditation practice, we can cleanse our bodies of toxic, life draining anxiety. We can see what our deepest desires for health, family, relationships, all in our mind. When you believe in your soul, that’s when things begin to materialize.

It’s a simple process. Find some meditative music. Use headphones if possible. You can find lots of meditation music on YouTube. Find a relaxing position, I like to lay down on my bed flat. Breathe deeply in through the nose and out through the mouth. Deep cleansing breaths. Relax!

As you begin your meditation, don’t worry if your mind moves about. It will take some time for you to get to a point in your meditation practice that you can control your thoughts. It’s ok.

Begin to connect with God, ask him to come into your life, and only pray to him. Release your cares to him. Then show him through your mind, see yourself receiving blessings, see yourself in the state that you want to be. Visualize in your mind, your deepest desires and then tell God how grateful you are.

There is a reason it is called a meditation practice. It will take a bit of time for the mind to clear trash thoughts. It’s ok. Continue this practice daily. Several times a day if you have the time. For sure, before bedtime.

Connecting to Devine source will open up your life to wonderous new blessings and peace.

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