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Stay in Faith Even When You Feel Hurt

Faith is something I am learning does pay off. For the last few months more so than any other time in my life, faith guides my life, but it does have its challenges!

Today for example: not only do I not want a divorce, but I also have to pay for it. Even though I don’t want a divorce it’s God has seen fit for my life to take a new direction. So faith will mean that I accept this, don’t freak out.

The choice I am making is to be okay with the divorce. My destiny is not with my current wife. So instead of curling up into a ball in my bed, I choose to accept the separation. Doesn’t mean I have to like it I do not. Believe in God requires faith and sometimes faith involves sacrifice. None of us have to like it, but if you want God’s promises in your life, then you have to embrace change.

In the midst of a break-up, we all want to believe we can’t live without our spouse. The pain of loss is the same as if they (God forbid) passed away. The damage is painful, and it damn well hurts. However, when you examine the fact that what is happening is for a more significant reason not yet revealed. Where I was in my life I through “all-in” with my faith that God has a plan for my life.

Looking back on my life the pattern has been the same. So breaking old paradigms, setting a new course and letting life open up without me imposing my will. Don’t misunderstand I do things to make sure my life is moving forward. The amazing thing is that God has blessed me with many new things.

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Not new things like guy toys. What he has given me are strength and modern wisdom. The power to let go of my marriage to see what God’s plan is for my life. This indeed has been a journey of tears and sorrow. I pwill freely admit times hurt like hell, put myself in a very dark place in my head. Depression kicked my ass for a time.

It’s when at my darkest moment, contemplating hurting myself. Because life didn’t make sense for me to even stay on this earth. It was at this moment that it came to me, that if I was going to save my own life despite the fact that I honestly felt worthless.

Spiritual life here I come! It’s taken prayer, visualization, church, and Christian friends to help guide my way. In my darkest moments, I tell God I am not losing this time I am with God. If you’ve read my blog, you will know the miracles that have blessed my life in the last few months. Without hesitation, my life right now is a miracle gift from God.

So today when it sucks that I have to move on and forward. “I am.” Just like any other day I pray to God “this time is for you, not I and I am not losing anymore.”

If you’re going through a break-up or divorce. I as you feel the pain, loss, and hurt. Just don’t believe life is over. It’s not easy, but if you decide you win this time, your new destiny will be more than you imagined or asked God for. Stay strong and please send me a note below if you need to vent!

God Bless!!!

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Idle Time Sucks, Let’s Change That

Idle time sucks. Your head gets filled with garbage of the past and anything else the enemy can throw up to remind you of darker times. Thus keeping you in the darker reaches of your life. Hence idle time sucks. I want to share a couple of things I am doing to find peace during idle time.

Today for me is one of those days. I had good morning closing two new clients, so that had me bouncing on cloud nine. Always great to move forward in business.

Then the day grinds down to a halt. My head begins to run amuck. Wow, let’s relive every mistake I’ve made in my life. Reruns of my life seem to be on a projector that just loops and loops.

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So, to get me out of my head. I said down with my laptop and started typing. At least I recognize what’s going on with my noodle. Question, why can’t we be okay during quiet times? So many of us struggle with being okay with being alone in our mind.

Yes, I have confessed my past that I am not proud of to God. When I’m busy everything rocks along, and I am to busy not to be at peace. Sometimes though it would be nice to be quiet, be in the moment but be okay. I am the problem in this scenario. We can choose to be happy or sad, but it must be a choice.

Today is also the first birthday I have spent in many years alone. Or at least without my wife. So, it’s been a good day for many reasons and a sad one. Reliving everything I have done, should have done, argh! No, not self-pity moment, but one of realization. Everything going on today is a choice. Recognizing that is the real achievement in my life.

Every day we all must make choices to be happy or have a bad day. The difficulty lies in your head. Living in your head causes all kinds of issues. Choosing to live in your heart, in your soul where God is now that’s a choice. A little easier said than done, but entirely within grasp.

What I do every day now is take moments to embrace God, search my heart for peace. I do this on my morning prayer walk at work. I walk outside for a time and talk to God. Visualize me happy, prosperous and at peace. Peace began to last longer and longer in my days. I don’t choose to recognize mediocrity in myself anymore.

Choose to walk in faith as I do every day. It truly helps, and you will begin to find peace in your head. Idle time will be something you look forward to not dreading. I pray you find the peace we all have from God. Have a blessed idle time day!
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Shovel vs. Bulldozer

One of the hardest lessons to learn when you begin to allow faith to run your life is to let go of your cares. You must get out of God’s way. Standing with your shovel digging your way out. All the while God is sitting on his vast D8 Dozer waiting for you to move out of the way.bulldozer,faith,spirtuality

When you hand over life to God, it’s time to do the work before you but get out of his way. Meaning doesn’t hold onto doubt or fear, let that go so God can do his job in your life. Don’t confuse things by thinking you can tell God you need something and then lie on the couch while God provides. Nope, you need to get off your butt and do some work.
Faith comes in the form of not doubting God will provide. If you do the work faithfully, God will help you the rest of the way.shovel, jesus, God, faith

However, when life throws you a curve ball that whizzes right past your head. You can’t waiver in your faith. Even when all the odds stacked against you, this is where faith can waiver.

So, this is what I mean by you have a shovel God has the bulldozer. You must clear a giant area of life, you can labor with a small spade, or you can allow God to move it with a bulldozer. Always your choice to make.

Your shovel is weighted down with doubt, fear, and wavering faith. God’s bulldozer fueled with your unwavering faith, your gratitude, your prayer and your love of him. This powers God’s bulldozer. Your obedience to him powers the biggest bulldozer in the world.
Faith will make a difference in your life that you won’t be able to measure. Stay strong when everything in your head is fighting you. Use the Bulldozer!

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To Big for Your Britches

Remembering to stay connected to God when things do go your way. To keep your blessings moving forward, you can’t stop going to God and expect everything to remain in place. A mistake I made that slowed my progress, so I have had to hit my knees and let God know I have not forgotten myself.

My grandmother called this “being too big for your britches.”

When blessings come, old habits can creep back into our lives. Understanding this will make your walk, your path much smoother. For me, I even was called out by a friend that my language offended a dear person to me. A person whom I would never intentionally want to hurt with a potty mouth. Old habits die hard.

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Stay Humble

 

Learning from this was tough medicine to swallow. So begins my repentance to God. You should as well if you’ve strayed from the path. Stay on the road with God. A full-time, not pick and choose time process. Today I feel more back in tune with the Lord. My heart is more at peace.

I want the promises that the Bible says are mine. When I began this journey, it was about not losing anymore. That there had to be a better way to live than the trajectory my life was advancing. Terrible place, lost relationships, financial problems, and despair. All of the sudden God blesses me in tremendous ways, and I take my eye off the ball and get hit right in the head with a fastball.

With a sincere heart, and prayer. Will pass and learn what not to do embedded deep in my heart. If you’ve suffered from this because you to went off the beaten path, God will happily accept you back in his good grace. Do what I’ve done, get on your knees and get back in God’s good grace. Never allow yourself not to be humble.

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Backstory Don’t Judge Someone

We’re all guilty of judging people. If someone has sentenced you unjustly, this can be very difficult to live with. Of course, if someone judges that’s indeed on them. This article will speak to standing in judgment of someone in our life.

Being judgmental is wrong in so many ways. It’s hurtful, and more than any other reason chances are you don’t have a clue what someone’s backstory is that causes them to be a certain way. self help, judgmental, sad

Everyone has a backstory that if it was known to others, they might look at a situation with empathy instead of standing in judgment. More times than not if you knew what was going on with a person you would feel pretty crappy for your thoughts. Jesus said it best “if you are without sin cast the first stone.” None of us are in any position to judge.

I have a friend who on the surface comes off a little distant, sometimes even disconnected when you interact with him. People around us sometimes say he is weird. What people don’t know about his backstory is two years ago he lost a daughter to suicide. Now I’m no psychiatrist, but I believe if I were a survivor of that tragedy, I might be off my game as well. This is not the typical knowledge to folks who stand in judgment.

This begs the question with that knowledge would you be judgmental or empathetic? We all know plenty of stories like this. So who are any of us to stand in judgment of another? Before you say something about someone make sure you have all your facts. Moreover, if you can’t say something sweet don’t say anything at all! How many times did your Mom say that?

Remember words have the power to heal or the power to cut. Choose your words wisely. Before you stand in judgment of anyone, could you pass the judgment test? Get judgment out of your head. We all have a backstory!