Own that Shi*

We know that in September, we will wander through the warm winds of summer’s wreckage. We will welcome summer’s ghost.”—Henry Rollins

One of the coolest moments in a Movie for me was when Harley Quin tells El Diablo after he tells his story about his powers “Own that Shit, own it!”—Harley Quin (from the movie Suicide Squad).

This article is about “Own that shit.” Whatever your life has doled out to you own it. But I received divorce papers, my car got repossessed, my boyfriend cheated on me, Own it! Don’t make the tragic mistake of pawning your life’s shit onto someone else. There is a reason this sounds harsh. Hang with me here!

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The absolute only person on this earth that can save you is you. Owning our shit means not being the victim. My ex-wife wanted a divorce, I never did. Until I was able to own that shit, I was an absolute mess. When I realized over time that my destiny is in another direction from hers. If I want to understand what God truly has for me, then I need to head down a new path.

Own the fact that whatever befalls your life you inevitably must own it. The great news is you can. Learning to accept the trials of your life will open a whole new unimaginable freedom. Not a day goes by that I don’t recognize regret in my own life. We all have regrets. It’s taking ownership that indeed mistakes, defeats may come and go. Accept them and move on past summers ghost.

Everything in our life is seasonal. As we learn to own our experience good or bad, we will march through to the next adventure in our life. Not all movies have a happy ending but, we still go see them. If you’ve never seen the movie Steel Magnolias, this movie will bring out real raw emotion. A loss that tears the very fabric of your life.

When you can turn tragedy in, own it, accept it, you can truly move on. Yes, some loss is monstrous and will require periods of mourning. However, at some point in time to begin your life anew. You simply need to own it.  Accept that life will move on without your participation. Ask yourself if your pain worth your life?

For example, if your child sees you cry, do they not come to you and say, “are you okay, please don’t cry.” Why, because they’ve heard you ask them the same question. In this scenario, you lose this child to cancer. The pain is unimaginable, to the point you truly just want to die. Ask yourself if your child was before you in this sad state, would they not want you to not cry and feel better? Loss is far-and-away the worse pain we as humans will ever experience.

At some point in time, we will have to own that pain. Accept what it is that nothing in this world will change the circumstance. We can wish it, pray for it, scream at God for it, but nothing will change. The only thing that can is me/you!

When my wife filed for divorce it for a time devastated my life. I did not want to know “nothing from nothing.” No amount of crying, yelling at God or the depression I fell in would change the outcome. I simply had to own it. Realize that for as much as I wish we could be together, that part of my life was over. The real question: just because that part of your life is over does that mean the rest of my life is over as well? Of course, it does not! New dawn, the destiny God truly has for you is waiting, own it.

Through our pain, we learn to own our life. We learn to accept that life will throw a fastball that hits you right in the noodle and knocks you the fuck out. You can stay down, or you can Own that Shit! When you can tell the enemy let me promise you one thing when I wake up every morning the first words out of your mouth will be “Oh Shit he’s Up!” (a phrase you perhaps have read like a quote, can ring true in your life).

Coming to terms with owning our life good or bad. You will find peace, hope, faith, love, and courage. I did it and so can you, God Bless!

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Stay in Faith Even When You Feel Hurt

Faith is something I am learning does pay off. For the last few months more so than any other time in my life, faith guides my life, but it does have its challenges!

Today for example: not only do I not want a divorce, but I also have to pay for it. Even though I don’t want a divorce it’s God has seen fit for my life to take a new direction. So faith will mean that I accept this, don’t freak out.

The choice I am making is to be okay with the divorce. My destiny is not with my current wife. So instead of curling up into a ball in my bed, I choose to accept the separation. Doesn’t mean I have to like it I do not. Believe in God requires faith and sometimes faith involves sacrifice. None of us have to like it, but if you want God’s promises in your life, then you have to embrace change.

In the midst of a break-up, we all want to believe we can’t live without our spouse. The pain of loss is the same as if they (God forbid) passed away. The damage is painful, and it damn well hurts. However, when you examine the fact that what is happening is for a more significant reason not yet revealed. Where I was in my life I through “all-in” with my faith that God has a plan for my life.

Looking back on my life the pattern has been the same. So breaking old paradigms, setting a new course and letting life open up without me imposing my will. Don’t misunderstand I do things to make sure my life is moving forward. The amazing thing is that God has blessed me with many new things.

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Not new things like guy toys. What he has given me are strength and modern wisdom. The power to let go of my marriage to see what God’s plan is for my life. This indeed has been a journey of tears and sorrow. I pwill freely admit times hurt like hell, put myself in a very dark place in my head. Depression kicked my ass for a time.

It’s when at my darkest moment, contemplating hurting myself. Because life didn’t make sense for me to even stay on this earth. It was at this moment that it came to me, that if I was going to save my own life despite the fact that I honestly felt worthless.

Spiritual life here I come! It’s taken prayer, visualization, church, and Christian friends to help guide my way. In my darkest moments, I tell God I am not losing this time I am with God. If you’ve read my blog, you will know the miracles that have blessed my life in the last few months. Without hesitation, my life right now is a miracle gift from God.

So today when it sucks that I have to move on and forward. “I am.” Just like any other day I pray to God “this time is for you, not I and I am not losing anymore.”

If you’re going through a break-up or divorce. I as you feel the pain, loss, and hurt. Just don’t believe life is over. It’s not easy, but if you decide you win this time, your new destiny will be more than you imagined or asked God for. Stay strong and please send me a note below if you need to vent!

God Bless!!!

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Change are You Ready

When we struggle the pain can become debilitating. Finding yourself in bed, unplugging from the world. It’s not the answer. We know it’s not the answer, but we can’t find the courage to move. I wish I could tell you here is a magic potion that will lift you out of bed healthy and whole again. Natural is not what will get you out of a deep depression.

The reason it’s not easy is to build strength. If a change could occur with no real effort, it would be short-lived. Here is the thing, do you want it to be comfortable so later down the road you won’t have the strength to NOT get in this dark place? The easy answer is yes, the deep in your gut answer is, it will be painful and hard, but let’s go.change,God,peace

Real change comes through our pain. I know it hurts I do! Most of my life has been depressed. It’s torn my life to bits, cost me beautiful relationships, it’s cost me jobs, family, and a world of other troubles. So believe me I get it. So this time I chose the pain. The enemy has thrown wave after wave of garbage in my head. To the point, I have been screaming in my truck stop the pain cursing the world I could not move another step.

I did move another step. What we together must learn to do is live in our soul, not in our head. Our noodle will entirely turn our worlds upside down. Without a doubt, if you stay in your head, the pain will continue. So what do I mean about living in your soul?

Finding a spiritual connection to God, the universe, Devine source, you have to believe in a higher power than yourself. I choose God, but do understand if you don’t have a religious background this can be as though someone is speaking a foreign language to you that you have no clue what they’re saying. The beautiful thing is that’s okay. Together our journey begins.

My entire life I may have stood at the door of a church a dozen times. Never understood this whole God thing as I called it. Happy to report at this juncture of my life I am entirely convinced that without a spiritual believe my life is stifled where it is. The last half of my life will have meaning and purpose found through God. Having faith in something bigger than ourselves.

One thing is for sure if we’re not ready for a change we won’t. Finding that level of commitment will most likely come from being so tired you merely give in to the fact that something has to give. It’s okay to be there, and it does get better. When a decision to change our lives is made you can be sure that your head is about to say “oh no you don’t we love our pain” you will have to fight with everything that is you do not fall back.

I wish I could tell you it will be easy. What we have to keep on our mind is a lifetime of a conditioned response to tribulation. That’s not going to change overnight or without a commitment to improving. You may have to get up, dust yourself off and get back on the horse. This is a horse that won’t break easily.

Just when you think you can’t get up again, get up still! What successful people will tell you is the reason they’re successful is they’re willing to take one more step than you are. NO matter the pain of the action they take it and win. You must adopt this mentality. I can hear many of you saying you don’t have the strength, I’m too young, too old, to set in my ways, I’m a girl, I’m “a,” I’m “a,” blah blah, blah!!! Stop IT!

We all have the strength to change. You can find the fight in you to move past whatever it is that binds you. Loss, finances, divorce, whatever the hell it is you can beat it. Yes, it hurts like hell, but YOU have the strength. Yell, scream, get mad and tell the world that by God this stops NOW. My life has meaning and grace. Your past, your biography does not define who you are today. The current situation does not represent the life we’re all intended to live.

Yes, the place you are may really suck. It’s not a life sentence. It is only if you let it. Don’t allow it. Even if it’s a baby step and you confess on your bended knee that change is coming, change is happening and you choose to live happily. Take action no matter the size. A step forward is a step forward. If you get knocked back, take two steps forward. The pain will pass and become easier to deal with.

One thing I can share is meditation is fantastic to help guide your mind to peace. I use meditation music with headphones in my practice. What you want to achieve is relaxation at first. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Nice cleansing breaths. Let the music relax your body, get in peace. Your head maybe running a hundred miles an hour. Breathe! It will slow down, and it’s okay if it takes time.

When you feel relaxed, begin to vision peace raining over you. A gods presence in your mind. See yourself happy, smile while you do this. Trust me you will be amazed. See yourself the way you would love to have your life. Meditate on it. Vision it in your mind. What your thoughts believe your life will be. It works, be open and try. If it takes a few times, then it takes a few times. This is not a test, it’s a reconditioning of your mind to relax. For most of us, we don’t let our mind have any time off. We’re horrible bosses of our mind. Be a partner in your account, not a master. Relax, and you will find peace!

Find a way to begin to put aside all that troubles you. Walk, meditate, do something that gets you out of your head in a healthy way (no glass of wine is no the answer, even though it should be, LOL). A little levity is what is needed. Laugh, God loves to hear us laugh. Remember nothing worthwhile comes easy. This will be a bumpy road for as long as you let it be. Our life happy or sad is our choice. Today choose to be satisfied. If you have to say it a thousand times a day “I am happy” then say it.

I would love to hear from you, get in peace, happiness is yours:

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