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Stay in Faith Even When You Feel Hurt

Faith is something I am learning does pay off. For the last few months more so than any other time in my life, faith guides my life, but it does have its challenges!

Today for example: not only do I not want a divorce, but I also have to pay for it. Even though I don’t want a divorce it’s God has seen fit for my life to take a new direction. So faith will mean that I accept this, don’t freak out.

The choice I am making is to be okay with the divorce. My destiny is not with my current wife. So instead of curling up into a ball in my bed, I choose to accept the separation. Doesn’t mean I have to like it I do not. Believe in God requires faith and sometimes faith involves sacrifice. None of us have to like it, but if you want God’s promises in your life, then you have to embrace change.

In the midst of a break-up, we all want to believe we can’t live without our spouse. The pain of loss is the same as if they (God forbid) passed away. The damage is painful, and it damn well hurts. However, when you examine the fact that what is happening is for a more significant reason not yet revealed. Where I was in my life I through “all-in” with my faith that God has a plan for my life.

Looking back on my life the pattern has been the same. So breaking old paradigms, setting a new course and letting life open up without me imposing my will. Don’t misunderstand I do things to make sure my life is moving forward. The amazing thing is that God has blessed me with many new things.

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Not new things like guy toys. What he has given me are strength and modern wisdom. The power to let go of my marriage to see what God’s plan is for my life. This indeed has been a journey of tears and sorrow. I pwill freely admit times hurt like hell, put myself in a very dark place in my head. Depression kicked my ass for a time.

It’s when at my darkest moment, contemplating hurting myself. Because life didn’t make sense for me to even stay on this earth. It was at this moment that it came to me, that if I was going to save my own life despite the fact that I honestly felt worthless.

Spiritual life here I come! It’s taken prayer, visualization, church, and Christian friends to help guide my way. In my darkest moments, I tell God I am not losing this time I am with God. If you’ve read my blog, you will know the miracles that have blessed my life in the last few months. Without hesitation, my life right now is a miracle gift from God.

So today when it sucks that I have to move on and forward. “I am.” Just like any other day I pray to God “this time is for you, not I and I am not losing anymore.”

If you’re going through a break-up or divorce. I as you feel the pain, loss, and hurt. Just don’t believe life is over. It’s not easy, but if you decide you win this time, your new destiny will be more than you imagined or asked God for. Stay strong and please send me a note below if you need to vent!

God Bless!!!

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Idle Time Sucks, Let’s Change That

Idle time sucks. Your head gets filled with garbage of the past and anything else the enemy can throw up to remind you of darker times. Thus keeping you in the darker reaches of your life. Hence idle time sucks. I want to share a couple of things I am doing to find peace during idle time.

Today for me is one of those days. I had good morning closing two new clients, so that had me bouncing on cloud nine. Always great to move forward in business.

Then the day grinds down to a halt. My head begins to run amuck. Wow, let’s relive every mistake I’ve made in my life. Reruns of my life seem to be on a projector that just loops and loops.

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So, to get me out of my head. I said down with my laptop and started typing. At least I recognize what’s going on with my noodle. Question, why can’t we be okay during quiet times? So many of us struggle with being okay with being alone in our mind.

Yes, I have confessed my past that I am not proud of to God. When I’m busy everything rocks along, and I am to busy not to be at peace. Sometimes though it would be nice to be quiet, be in the moment but be okay. I am the problem in this scenario. We can choose to be happy or sad, but it must be a choice.

Today is also the first birthday I have spent in many years alone. Or at least without my wife. So, it’s been a good day for many reasons and a sad one. Reliving everything I have done, should have done, argh! No, not self-pity moment, but one of realization. Everything going on today is a choice. Recognizing that is the real achievement in my life.

Every day we all must make choices to be happy or have a bad day. The difficulty lies in your head. Living in your head causes all kinds of issues. Choosing to live in your heart, in your soul where God is now that’s a choice. A little easier said than done, but entirely within grasp.

What I do every day now is take moments to embrace God, search my heart for peace. I do this on my morning prayer walk at work. I walk outside for a time and talk to God. Visualize me happy, prosperous and at peace. Peace began to last longer and longer in my days. I don’t choose to recognize mediocrity in myself anymore.

Choose to walk in faith as I do every day. It truly helps, and you will begin to find peace in your head. Idle time will be something you look forward to not dreading. I pray you find the peace we all have from God. Have a blessed idle time day!
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Shovel vs. Bulldozer

One of the hardest lessons to learn when you begin to allow faith to run your life is to let go of your cares. You must get out of God’s way. Standing with your shovel digging your way out. All the while God is sitting on his vast D8 Dozer waiting for you to move out of the way.bulldozer,faith,spirtuality

When you hand over life to God, it’s time to do the work before you but get out of his way. Meaning doesn’t hold onto doubt or fear, let that go so God can do his job in your life. Don’t confuse things by thinking you can tell God you need something and then lie on the couch while God provides. Nope, you need to get off your butt and do some work.
Faith comes in the form of not doubting God will provide. If you do the work faithfully, God will help you the rest of the way.shovel, jesus, God, faith

However, when life throws you a curve ball that whizzes right past your head. You can’t waiver in your faith. Even when all the odds stacked against you, this is where faith can waiver.

So, this is what I mean by you have a shovel God has the bulldozer. You must clear a giant area of life, you can labor with a small spade, or you can allow God to move it with a bulldozer. Always your choice to make.

Your shovel is weighted down with doubt, fear, and wavering faith. God’s bulldozer fueled with your unwavering faith, your gratitude, your prayer and your love of him. This powers God’s bulldozer. Your obedience to him powers the biggest bulldozer in the world.
Faith will make a difference in your life that you won’t be able to measure. Stay strong when everything in your head is fighting you. Use the Bulldozer!

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Backstory Don’t Judge Someone

We’re all guilty of judging people. If someone has sentenced you unjustly, this can be very difficult to live with. Of course, if someone judges that’s indeed on them. This article will speak to standing in judgment of someone in our life.

Being judgmental is wrong in so many ways. It’s hurtful, and more than any other reason chances are you don’t have a clue what someone’s backstory is that causes them to be a certain way. self help, judgmental, sad

Everyone has a backstory that if it was known to others, they might look at a situation with empathy instead of standing in judgment. More times than not if you knew what was going on with a person you would feel pretty crappy for your thoughts. Jesus said it best “if you are without sin cast the first stone.” None of us are in any position to judge.

I have a friend who on the surface comes off a little distant, sometimes even disconnected when you interact with him. People around us sometimes say he is weird. What people don’t know about his backstory is two years ago he lost a daughter to suicide. Now I’m no psychiatrist, but I believe if I were a survivor of that tragedy, I might be off my game as well. This is not the typical knowledge to folks who stand in judgment.

This begs the question with that knowledge would you be judgmental or empathetic? We all know plenty of stories like this. So who are any of us to stand in judgment of another? Before you say something about someone make sure you have all your facts. Moreover, if you can’t say something sweet don’t say anything at all! How many times did your Mom say that?

Remember words have the power to heal or the power to cut. Choose your words wisely. Before you stand in judgment of anyone, could you pass the judgment test? Get judgment out of your head. We all have a backstory!

 

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Don’t Let Anyone Kill Your Dream

If you want to kill a dream, tell it to a small minded person! Ready to blow out the big idea because everyone around you says you can’t. Ask yourself do the people squashing your dreams have real success, the type of success you desire. If they don’t let that role in one ear and out the other, don’t waste your time.

Imaginations number one killer, small minded people. This cliché could not be more accurate; misery loves company. Don’t let some well-minded people like family, but others in your click that want to keep you down. Say your crazy, don’t be stupid, you don’t have the money. Believe that, and it will be the reality.spiritual, business, dreams

Dare to tell everyone to kiss your successful butt, and you take off opening your wings. If you have a dream figure out a way even if you don’t see a way God will make a way if you ask. Now you can’t ask to sit on the couch and tell God okay when you get that business loan; I will be at work 8:00 AM the morning after.

 Don’t be stupid; you have to WORK! Get off your ass and work! You can change the world if you focus. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t. If you’re asking God, doing the work, staying in faith, you will win.

Get rich quick, don’t buy that BS. You’re going to have to work and work harder than you ever have. The enemy will attack you with fear, doubt, have people walk in front of you and say this will never work. Throw that garbage out with the rest of the trash. Stand firm in God and your faith. God will make a way where you see no way. If he can fling stars into the heavens, don’t you think he can handle your dreams?

For the first time in my life, all the naysayers in my life can kiss my successful butt. If you have a negative comment take that with you as the door hits you in the ass. Get negative folks at arm’s length or entirely out of your life. The enemy will send people through your life to try and hold you down. He does not want you to win. Be very mindful of who your circle of friends. Ask yourself who brings you up or who brings you down. Get rid of the later.

Find your gift. Not what you do, find your gift. God has given us all a gift, something that blesses ourselves and others. How do you do this you say? Move forward do something that inspires others and yourself.

If you want a different life then right now is the time to make that decision. Do not do so lightly. As the negative thoughts, attacks on my mind come into view. I say NOT this time; I won’t lose. Kick my ass, jack with my head, do what you will, but this time with God’s grace it is my time!

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