This is a little taste of my new book coming out the first of next year. Not yet titled, but it covers life change. What steps we need to take for lasting change.
Change cannot come without discomfort.
Don’t quit because of discomfort. Change is not occurring as quickly as hoped. The pain of loss or other stressors is not dissipating. The mind is continually in a barrage of negative thoughts, self-doubt and feels as though nothing is getting better.
“I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”–Muhammad Ali
Keeping an eye towards a positive outcome. Being grateful in advance of anything manifesting good in life. Meditate on the result.
If you take a trip around the world at some point in time weather delays, airport delays, canceled flights, lost luggage, lost hotel reservations, something is going to happen. The chances are excellent that more than once.
Would you stop an around the world trip over a delay? No, you deal with it and keep going!
The first activity to do:
You read that right breath. The power of this simple act is immeasurable. Here is why. The simple act of taking a break to breathe for just a minute or two. It helps to slow down your mind, relaxes your muscles and body. Your mind will begin to relax.
How to breathe:
Take a couple of deep cleansing breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth.
Slow your breathing to a relaxing pace. Close your eyes to focus on a slow deep breathing exercise.
Breath deep into your lungs without straining. Allow the oxygen to fill your lungs and a relaxed exhale.
Continue this for a good sixty seconds or a little more.
When you feel relaxed merely stop.
What outcome to desire is relaxation. Let go of your body in a chair when doing this breathing exercise. Just taking a couple of minutes a few times per day to breathe. You will be amazed at how calming this can be.
The tension in the body will begin to wash away. Give it time. This works so well you will make it a part of your daily routine. Who thought something so easy would make such a difference in our day.
When you examine how your life is working day-to-day. It’s essential to think about what is adding stress to your life. Could it be fixed by merely setting boundaries?
The answer to that is yes!
It’s okay to set boundaries in relationships, with children little or grown. When we set expectations for what is acceptable in our lives and what is not, it’s incredible how much easier life becomes.
Work can also be a place where clear boundaries need to be set.
This change, however, most likely won’t come without some resistance. Here is a checklist to help with that conversation:
Set clear and easy to understand boundaries. If you need to write them out, do so. Just make sure that whoever is on the receiving end understands clearly.
Over a reason why you need this boundary. Explain the stress that it brings.
Don’t get upset if it takes a bit of time for the behavior to change.
Let the person know you’re not mad, it’s just bringing undue stress into your life.
With just a little conversation, we can set the stage for acceptable behavior.
If you struggle setting boundaries for family, friends, or coworkers. Take time to write out your thoughts on how this relationship could be a two-way street. Don’t just jump in without some real thought.
Sleep on your results reread them. If satisfied, sit down with the person and have a friendly chat. Set expectations and lay them out.
You don’t have to live at someone’s Becken call 24/7/365. Figure what you need to not have stress, put it out there and then hold that person or person’s accountable. It’s not unreasonable by any standard.