When you examine how your life is working day-to-day. It’s important to think about what is adding stress to your life. Could it be fixed by merely setting boundaries?
The answer to that is yes!
It’s okay to set boundaries in relationships, with children little or grown. When we set expectations for what is acceptable in our lives and what is not, it’s incredible how much easier life becomes.
Work can also be a place where clear boundaries need to be set.
This change, however, most likely won’t come without some resistance. Here is a checklist to help with that conversation:
- Set clear and easy to understand boundaries. If you need to write them out, do so. Just make sure that whoever is on the receiving end understands clearly.
- Over a reason why you need this boundary. Explain the stress that it brings.
- Don’t get upset if it takes a bit of time for the behavior to change.
- Let the person know you’re not mad, it’s just bringing undue stress into your life.
With just a little conversation we can set the stage for acceptable behavior.
If you struggle setting boundaries for family, friends or coworkers. Take time to write out your thoughts on how this relationship could be a two-way street. Don’t just jump in without some real thought.
Sleep on your results reread them. If satisfied sit down with the person and have a friendly chat. Set expectations and lay them out.
You don’t have to live at someone’s Becken call 24/7/365. Figure what you need to not have stress, put it out there and then hold that person or person’s accountable. It’s not unreasonable by any standard.