Healthy Positive Mindset

A positive mindset can greatly improve your quality of life and help you achieve your goals.

Here are some tips for cultivating a positive attitude:

  1. Practice gratitude: Take time each day to reflect on what you are grateful. You help to shift your focus away from negative thoughts and towards the positive aspects of your life.
  2. Set achievable goals: It’s essential to challenge yourself, but it’s also important to set realistic goals. You can help to boost your confidence and keep you motivated.
  3. Surround yourself with positive people: The people you spend time with can significantly impact your mindset. So surround yourself with positive, supportive people, and encourage you to think positively.
  4. Practice positive self-talk: The way you talk to yourself can have a significant impact on your mindset. So make an effort to speak to yourself positively and encouragingly, and try to eliminate negative self-talk.
  5. Find the good in every situation: It’s not always easy, but try to find the silver lining in every case. Maintain a positive mindset even when things don’t go as planned.
  6. Take care of yourself: It’s hard to maintain a positive mindset if you are not taking care of your physical and emotional needs. Make sure to get enough sleep, eat a healthy diet, and take breaks when necessary.
  7. Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness is being present at the moment and focusing on your thoughts and feelings without judgment. It can help you to gain perspective on your thoughts and emotions and can also help to reduce stress and anxiety.
  8. Take breaks: It’s essential to take breaks and give yourself time to relax and recharge by helping to prevent burnout and keep you feeling positive and energized.
  9. Seek support: If you are struggling with negative thoughts and feelings, it can be helpful to seek support from a friend, family member, or mental health professional. They can provide a fresh perspective and help you work through your challenges.
  10. Celebrate your achievements: Don’t forget to celebrate your achievements, big and small. You can help to boost your confidence and motivate yourself to continue working towards your goals.
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By implementing these strategies, you can cultivate a positive mindset and improve your overall well-being. It may take time and effort, but the benefits are well worth it.

How to Begin Meditation

Meditation is a practice that involves focusing your mind on a particular object, thought, or activity to train attention and awareness and achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm state. It is a simple and effective way to reduce stress, improve mental clarity and focus, and promote overall well-being.

To start meditating, follow these steps:

  • Find a quiet and comfortable place where you can sit or lie down without being disturbed. Make sure you are in a position that is comfortable for you, with your back straight and your feet flat on the floor.
  • Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then, please focus on the sensation of the breath as it moves in and out of your body.
  • Start to pay attention to your thoughts and emotions. Notice them without judging them or trying to change them.
  • When your mind wanders, gently bring your focus back to your breath.
  • Continue to focus on your breath for 5 to 10 minutes. You can use a timer or a guided meditation app to keep track of time.

Slowly open your eyes and take a few deep breaths when the time is up. Notice how you feel and allow yourself to adjust to being back in the present moment.

Remember to be patient with yourself and to approach meditation with a curious and open mind. It can take time to develop a regular practice and see meditation’s benefits. But with time and consistent effort, you will start to notice positive changes in your mood, focus, and overall well-being.

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Finding Happiness

  1. Start each day with a positive mindset.
  2. Practice gratitude by regularly writing down things you’re thankful for.
  3. Take time to connect with the people you care about.
  4. Exercise regularly to boost your mood and reduce stress.
  5. Get enough sleep to allow your body and mind to rest and recover.
  6. Do something you enjoy every day, even if it’s just for a few minutes.
  7. Learn to forgive others and let go of grudges.
  8. Practice mindfulness and focus on the present moment.
  9. Be kind to yourself and others.
  10. Set realistic goals and work towards achieving them.

Finding happiness is a journey that is unique to each individual. Some people find happiness in their relationships, while others find it in their work or hobbies. One of the key aspects of finding happiness is to identify the things that bring joy and fulfillment to your life and to make those things a priority. This may involve changing your daily routine or setting goals to achieve your dreams.

Another important aspect of finding happiness is to let go of negative thoughts and feelings. This may involve practicing self-care and focusing on the present moment rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. It can also involve learning to forgive yourself and others and to let go of grudges or resentment. By focusing on the positive and cultivating a mindset of gratitude, you can open yourself up to greater happiness and fulfillment.

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Calm

Calm

For as many years as I can remember, being calm was challenging for me. What occurs when you can’t find peace is irritability, anxiety, health issues, and the list.

In my research, the critical ingredient is learning to be calm to find peace in my own life. Calm under fire!

When you learn to master the skillful art of remaining calm under fire, you can overcome anything that life throws at you.

How, might you say?

First, you need to learn how to breathe and focus on breathing in stressful situations.

Box Breathing:

  • Breathe in, counting to four slowly. Feel the air enter your lungs.
  • Hold your breath for 4 seconds. Then, try to avoid inhaling or exhaling for 4 seconds.
  • Slowly exhale through your mouth for 4 seconds.
  • Repeat steps 1 to 3 until you feel re-centered.

Simple Breathing:

  • In through the nose and out through the mouth. Nice easy breaths.

Keeping your fingertips together while breathing has also been helpful for me. As stress elevates, I rub my fingertips together slowly. It’s calming.

Breathing will help relieve the stress that can cause pain in the neck and back.

Why all this is so important, you may ask.

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Chill

Our mind functions way faster and more alert when our head is not spinning. Have you ever noticed that in a quiet space, for example, your head won’t shut up? We all have. I wrote an article called When Silence Screams.

Getting to a relaxed place will have incredible value for you. Your decision-making will be more spot-on when your head is quiet. Stress will be minimized in all aspects of your life. There is a difference between healthy and unhealthy habits.

Imagine being able to summon calm—stress response vs. calm response. Think about your dad. Would he respond more favorably to a stressed-out crazy response or a clear, favorable, collected response?

Like anything new, this will take time to learn. At first, you will undoubtedly suck at being calm in the face of adversity. Then, however, you will gain confidence as you apply to breathe into your life.

As you learn new life skills, you must be easy on yourself. Set reminders that say “breathe.” Doing so will help shorten your learning curve. Make this part of your everyday!

Breathing will help you change your outlook from doom to I got this! Everyone you meet will be amazed that you don’t rattle. You learn to improvise, adapt and overcome any situation with a sharp mind.

Take time daily to meditate when you can to calm yourself. Meditation will help clear the stress and open your mind to receive intelligent thoughts. Not a mish-mosh of “Oh God, the world is over.” Vs. Clear, sharp, and concise.

Meditation should also become part of your everyday life. So, give yourself the gift of forty-five minutes of calm.

Now that you have read this short article. It’s time to get going. Set a reminder right now to breathe. Just doing breathing exercises throughout your day will begin to have positive progress.

My life has changed immeasurably by doing what I just wrote for you. Friends say my face does not look stressed; people near me say I am not as snappy as I might have been carrying stress.

It’s not hard; get to it!

Take Your Life Back

How can life continually kick you in the gut, yet you still get up and fight?

How can life jerk the rug right out from under you, and yet you still get up and fight?

How can nothing seem to go right most of the time, and you still get up and fight?

How can you feel abandoned by God and still get up and fight?

Are you the person that fights?

People quit because they do not have a fight left in them, so THEY think! Emotionally we are all stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

“Self-acknowledgment boosts your emotional and spiritual immunity, giving you the strength, you need to release the past and rise above fear, doubt, or resignation.”—Debbie Ford

Two years ago, I took life head-on. With no emotional place to go but up, it was time to take the hits, take the pain, take the sorrow, and say NO more.

When you want to change your life, achieve more than you ever have. You need to be ready to take whatever life can throw at you, breakthrough prepared for more. When I speak of achievement, this is not about work success, this is YOU success.

Nothing in this life will come to you if you are not prepared. Emotionally prepared to never allow life to overtake your self-worth.

No more pity parties, “I can’t take it, it is too hard!” Horsefeathers!

Let me give you a little secret I have learned along the way. When you begin to awaken the you that you want to be. The person that makes all your dreams come true. You also awaken the enemy who says, “Oh NO, you don’t, I had you in the pits of hell on earth and that is where you stay.” So, the battle begins!

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You will be tested; the enemy will fill your head with garbage. Keep you busy chasing your own tale. Kicking your own ass. This is when YOU SAY, “Oh Hell. No, this is my time.”

This will help you strengthen yourself:

  1. Pray. Find times every day to share your innermost thoughts with God. The good, the bad and the ugly. Get it out. All we ask for is wisdom to resolve!
  2. Meditation. Daily get yourself in a routine of reflection. This is where we go to see ourselves in that place of joy, happiness, and peace.
  3. Journal your day. Learn the difference between activity and productivity. Success comes about when productivity dominates our days. Set specific times to achieve tasks every day that lead to a tangible result. Set up your day hour-to-hour. At first, this will be a pain in the butt. Over time it becomes second nature.
  4. Breathe. As much as needed, take a moment to breathe. Slow yourself down when your head begins to muddle up with garbage. Box breathing is a beautiful way to calm down. Easy to do: Take a couple cleansing breaths in through the nose out through the mouth. Then on a slow 4 count breath in and hold 4, breathe out on a 4 count, begin the same rhythm again. Do this a couple of times; if relaxed your good. If not a couple more times.
  5. Remember a calm mind, is productive, creative, and happy. This is where you will draw your greatest strength.

Do not give up when things get tough. Misery loves company. Do not let the enemy put in your head you can not change, YES you can!

The reason I know change is possible:

  • Great athletes train, train, and train more. You do not pick up a golf club walk onto a tee box with Tiger Woods and expect to win a game. You do not get on a pair of skis and stand in a start house with Lindsey Vaughn and expect to win a gold medal.

Why you say, why can you not beat them? Simple! Practice they have trained themselves for years to compete at the level of achievement each has attained. You must train, train and train more to win—the same thing with your mind that has decades of garbage stuffed in your mind.

People can change because you do get better when you practice. When you get off your ass and try. Try until you think one more step is impossible and take action.

Nay Sayers can kiss my ass. Let this become your mantra!

Just because lazy asses tell you something is impossible. You do not have the right stuff. Remind them to sit on their ass and hold your beer. Get it done!

I wish I had a shortcut to share. Other than your resolve must be steadfast. When enough-is-enough, you will change. I am!