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Gratitude

“It is through gratitude for the present moment that the spiritual dimension of life opens up.” –Eckhart Tolle

Gratitude will be on the top of my list from now on. When you’re thankful for the little things, big things will come. Be grateful for all the blessing in your life, and I am about to tell you why.

  • Your body diagnosed with a terminal disease.
  • What do you have to be grateful for? Someone you love just passed away unexpectedly.
  • What do you have to be thankful for?
  • Everything in your life is fabulous. What do you have to be grateful for?

Tragedy strikes your life hard. Finding anything at that moment to be grateful for my appearance would be difficult. Hurt, anger, and emotion cloud our minds. We even curse God for what has happened. I get it, and it’s okay to be emotional, but we have to find our way back to peace.

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We all get hit in the gut with tragedy, divorce, job loss; you could make a laundry list of things that steal our peace. The most challenging part of this is to find gratitude. If we make it through something horrible, we can make it through anything. NO, some things are not fair. Life in many situations is not fair. The good news is God sees these things; it does not go unnoticed.

Where folks lose God in these moments is “how could God let my son or daughter get cancer” or some other tragedy befalls your life. If God’s all-powerful and performs these fantastic miracles how could he allow drama in my life?

I wish I had a right answer for why some things happen, and some things don’t. Why there is injustice in the world. Free will answers a lot of questions, but certainly not all. We must accept reality, work to find peace and move on with our life. I’m sorry if you have had a tragedy to befall your life. Over some time, the pain will abate itself.

Some loss we don’t want to know “nothing from nothing” leave me alone you don’t know my pain. Families have endured tragedy through the ages. How many sons have we lost to war? How many children have we failed to cancer or disease? None of it is fair in any sense of the word.

What we must with everything that we have in us is find gratitude. I get it you want to scream when you hear this statement. Some things that you must think about to find an answer. Let’s say you lost someone to death. Do you honestly in your heart believe that person would want you to suffer? I’m in no way negating your pain. You do have to ask yourself though would my loved one want me in extreme pain?

Of course, they would not! If I passed away, I don’t want my family to suffer. Yes, we all need to mourn and time will make the days pass easier. Don’t blame God for a natural occurrence. We all have a time that we’re going to die. It’s never going to come at the right time. Celebrate the time you did have with them.

So, we’ve covered the extreme. It’s the hardest thing in the world to do but finding gratefulness amid anguish won’t be easy. Life will go on even if you don’t think it will. If you can see the smallest of things to be grateful. Offer that to God. I wish I had better words to ease someone’s pain.

Being grateful in good times and bad will always be returned with a beautiful blessing or blessings. Life can kick you right in the gut when you least expect it. Remaining grateful will keep your life moving forward positively.

The flip side of this coin is stopping to be grateful when life is roses. Life could not be better work is excellent, the family is good, and your life is moving quickly. Taking time to stop and let God know you’re grateful for the harvest in your life. More importantly, than can imagine is to stop and thank God.

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Let God know that without him this beautiful life would not be possible. Stay humble in your praise.

For me during this season of my life. When I began to be grateful for my hardship with family, finance and personal experience. Finding the smallest thing to be thankful for was difficult. Then I’m reminded that my life is not as bad as others. You can lose your health in the blink of an eye, the same thing with your job. It can always be worse.

Taking time daily to thank God here are some ideas to get you started:

 

  • You have a job, may not be the one you want but you have a paycheck!
  • You have a car to get to work that runs!
  • If you have kids and they’re healthy. Imagine parents that just found out their child diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer, only have weeks to live.
  • If you’re living, breathing, and healthy. Imagine the same scenario as a child above, but you.
  • Beautiful day outside.
  • The roof over your head.
  • Food to eat at home. You realize how many folks will go hungry today?
  • If you are a husband or wife, being grateful for your marriage.

If you try hard enough, you can find a lot more than just this short list. Plenty of things to be grateful if you search your heart. Keep in mind that if you can be thankful during the hardest times in your life. The blessings you will receive will indeed be life-changing. It’s been my experience that during one of the most challenging times in my life. Being grateful truly helps me find peace.

Coming from an incredibly dark place in my life where everything was in turmoil. By feeling happy again because I’m grateful for what I do have. Small things, big things it does not matter. What matters is that I feel so glad and the real kicker, most of my problems are still in full swing. With a calm mind, however, I am making real progress to cure my problems. Thank you, God!

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Dwelling on the Past

One primary cause for not moving forward in your life; Dwelling in the past. Working out stuff that is merely in the past. What can you really do to change things that have long since past?

So you’ve done something in your past, or something has happened to you from days gone by, and you can’t let go. If you can clear these questions, it’s time to move on:

  1. Anyone you may have hurt have you made amends if that is possible?
  2. Did you learn anything from what happened?
  3. Have you taken steps to correct yourself if it was your issue?
  4. Are you tired of your current situation and ready to change?

If you answered yes to one or all then maybe it’s time to let go. Moreover, maybe its time to look forward!

Relationships could be categorized in the top two of the most common things to let go and move on from. If you haven’t moved on then make ‘s think about a few things. Yes, you may in your HEAD believe that life is over without this person, but that is just not true. NO, you don’t want to hear that but I can tell you from experience, you can let go.

If someone does not want you then why on earth would you consider wanting them? Let’s say they did come back after you begged them too. How long do you really think it will last? If your spouse wants out this was a long time coming. Most likely they have fallen out of love with you for some time. The hard part you haven’t YET!

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I am a big supporter of keeping your marriage together. Counseling and hard work. Yes! If however, no reconciliation by the other person can occur, it’s time to move on. You have to search your heart that perhaps God is moving this person out of your life to make room for someone who is right for you. Painful, hell yes, but at the end of the day do you want a healthy, happy marriage or the same status quo that you had?

Sometimes, as painful as a breakup can be it’s for the best possible outcome. What I thought I wanted from my ex-wife was a reconciliation. She did not. I just knew we could fix our marriage. When I was forced to face the reality of divorce. Open my eyes and say okay I don’t want this, but maybe God has a new plan for my life. I surrendered to it, let go genuinely. Wow, being opened up to a modern day.

I stopped looking backward and put my sights forward. This is the whole point of this article. You cannot see a NEW future unfold in front of you while you’re dwelling in the past. Think about if driving down the freeway continually looking in your rear-view mirror you will eventually crash. You do not deserve to crash, open your eyes and look down the road.

No matter what mistakes you’ve made in the past. That’s the point they’re in the past! You can make amends where possible and not make that mistake again. If you can honestly say “I screwed up, but that’s not me anymore.” Move on, move forward with what life has to show you.

Mistakes are not life sentences. They’re just that mistakes. If you have people around you reminding you continually about your mistakes, tell them to move on. That’s petty, and you just don’t need to keep those folks around. Misery loves company. For naysayers ask them to keep it moving. When your heart says you that you’ve done as much as you can to the right a wrong. Let’s move on!

Your past does not define the person you are or could be. Don’t let mistakes define your life. Don’t let lost relationships determine your final outcome. Through the pain, we find strength, blessings, and miracles. Allow life, to open a new for you.

We have all made mistakes in your lives that we’re not proud of. Even had things done to us by someone that hurt us deeply. Both sides of this coin we need to let go of. Dwelling on what we did or what happened to us serves no purpose other than pain. I get only too well that if our pain was inflicted by another, that is hard as hell to let go.

When it comes to hurt, we suffer from an event in our life that was inflicted upon us. This pain cannot be easily undone or ever for that matter. What we can focus on is that it was not our fault, we did not deserve what happened. My prayer is that God will help you to put the pain away. God loves you, I love you as a human being, that your life can and will be happy, fulfilled, prosperous and full of joy.

These things may seem unattainable at this moment, but they do exist. They exist when you can let go (not forget) and no longer accept that what has happened defines you. It does not. What distinguishes you is what God’s plan for your life as you begin to open your heart to receive. Let God have your pain, ask him to take your pain and show you the growth he has for you.

I would not presume to say I have walked in anyone’s shoes, nor could you say you have walked in mine. What I can with all my heart tell you that through the pain, is joy, freedom and a life you have earned because of your struggle. When I say life, I mean a beautiful experience.

God did not put eyes in the back of your head. I can imagine the reason is you need to keep looking forward. What’s behind you is just that; behind you!

  • Your past does not define who you really are!
  • Your past is not a life sentence of pain!

Open up and see what God has for you. Life is out there waiting to laugh with you.

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Don’t Let Anyone Kill Your Dream

If you want to kill a dream, tell it to a small minded person! Ready to blow out the big idea because everyone around you says you can’t. Ask yourself do the people squashing your dreams have real success, the type of success you desire. If they don’t let that role in one ear and out the other, don’t waste your time.

Imaginations number one killer, small minded people. This cliché could not be more accurate; misery loves company. Don’t let some well-minded people like family, but others in your click that want to keep you down. Say your crazy, don’t be stupid, you don’t have the money. Believe that, and it will be the reality.spiritual, business, dreams

Dare to tell everyone to kiss your successful butt, and you take off opening your wings. If you have a dream figure out a way even if you don’t see a way God will make a way if you ask. Now you can’t ask to sit on the couch and tell God okay when you get that business loan; I will be at work 8:00 AM the morning after.

 Don’t be stupid; you have to WORK! Get off your ass and work! You can change the world if you focus. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t. If you’re asking God, doing the work, staying in faith, you will win.

Get rich quick, don’t buy that BS. You’re going to have to work and work harder than you ever have. The enemy will attack you with fear, doubt, have people walk in front of you and say this will never work. Throw that garbage out with the rest of the trash. Stand firm in God and your faith. God will make a way where you see no way. If he can fling stars into the heavens, don’t you think he can handle your dreams?

For the first time in my life, all the naysayers in my life can kiss my successful butt. If you have a negative comment take that with you as the door hits you in the ass. Get negative folks at arm’s length or entirely out of your life. The enemy will send people through your life to try and hold you down. He does not want you to win. Be very mindful of who your circle of friends. Ask yourself who brings you up or who brings you down. Get rid of the later.

Find your gift. Not what you do, find your gift. God has given us all a gift, something that blesses ourselves and others. How do you do this you say? Move forward do something that inspires others and yourself.

If you want a different life then right now is the time to make that decision. Do not do so lightly. As the negative thoughts, attacks on my mind come into view. I say NOT this time; I won’t lose. Kick my ass, jack with my head, do what you will, but this time with God’s grace it is my time!

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Praying in Faith

The most significant gift I have been given is learning to pray. Not that you can pray wrongly, but understanding how God hears your prayers is a gift from the Lord.

Powerful prayers are those that you are grateful for having what you have not seen come to pass. For example “Father God thank you for the joy you bring to my life, I enjoy a happy faith-filled life” even if this is not yet come to pass. Let God know you’ve received it and grateful.

When you pray in faith, I can tell you from my own experience it works. Pray as though something has already come to pass. prayer, God, faith

One important note about prayer. Don’t beg God. You don’t have to beg God for him to hear you. If you have a sick child or loved one. We tend to say “God I’m begging you” this is not necessary. God is a God of love, he does not need you to beg. Go to him with a faith-filled heart and see what his grace will do in your life.

God moves by faith in him. You live your life in hope and rest, let God do the rest. He has taken a terrible season in my life, teaching me that if I’m faithful in faith, I can find peace. Not just peace but miracles, blessings that are far beyond my imagination.

Try earnest faith-filled prayer, it will change your life. I’m grateful beyond words for what prayer has done in my life!

 

 

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Sad News Staying in Faith Helps

Faith has been a struggle for me. It’s been foreign to me most of my life. For the last few months, I have put in some real effort in staying in faith. Trusting that life will unfold as it should, allowing God to move through my life without my will interfering.

Today that was put to the test. Receiving some bad news that I had hoped would go another direction. What I do understand better than I would have in the past, is God is moving the pieces of my life around to align me with my destiny. Yes, it hurts, but I have the understanding now that growth is often painful.sad, faith, god, jesus

The pain I feel is not “oh my God my life is over.” It’s sad that a chapter of my life is over, I had truly hoped it would move forward. God, has seen fit to move me in another direction. It’s time to embrace that and get excited about what is to come.

For the first time in my life, I’m not letting a sad situation destroy everything. This time I won’t lose the battle. Time for a change with an open heart.

This time my life is going to take a different path. For the first time in my life, I choose not to allow the enemy to win me over. This time I am following a path of faith in God. Happy, fun, and brand new chapter in my life!