We Choose Life

Life is a journey filled with unexpected events, some pleasant and some not so much. These events can be anything from losing a loved one, experiencing a job loss, or facing a health challenge. While we may not be able to control what happens to us, we do have the power to control how we react to those events. Maya Angelou once said, “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”

What does this quote mean? First, it means that no matter what happens, we can rise above it. We can choose not to let our circumstances define us or dictate our future. Instead, we can take control of our lives and decide how we want to move forward.

One of the biggest challenges we face in life is dealing with unexpected events. These events often leave us feeling helpless, overwhelmed, and out of control. However, it’s important to remember that we still have power over our thoughts and actions. Therefore, we can focus on the positive aspects of our lives and find ways to overcome our challenges.

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For example, let’s say you lost your job. It’s easy to feel defeated and powerless in this situation. However, you can view this as an opportunity to explore new career paths or start your own business. In addition, you can use this experience as a catalyst to make positive changes in your life and pursue your passions.

Another example could be facing a health challenge. While this can be a scary and overwhelming experience, you can choose to focus on the things you can control, such as eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and practicing self-care. You can also seek support from friends, family, and medical professionals.

Ultimately, the choice is yours. You can choose to be reduced by your circumstances, or you can choose to rise above them. It’s important to remember that you are not defined by what happens to you. Instead, you are limited by how you respond to those events.

In conclusion, Maya Angelou’s quote reminds us that we can choose how we react to the events that happen to us. While we may not be able to control everything in our lives, we can control how we respond to those events. We can choose to let our circumstances define us, or we can choose to rise above them and create a better future for ourselves. The choice is ours.

In addition to choosing to rise above our circumstances, we can be happy. Happiness does not come to us naturally, but rather, it’s a choice we make every day. Even amid challenging situations, we can still find joy and happiness in the small things.

For example, if you are going through a difficult time, focus on the things that bring you joy. This could be spending time with loved ones, engaging in hobbies you enjoy, or simply walking in nature. By focusing on the positive aspects of your life, you can shift your mindset and cultivate a sense of gratitude.

It’s also important to remember that happiness is not a destination, but rather, it’s a journey. We can’t wait for something to happen to be happy. Instead, we need to make a conscious effort to find happiness in the present moment. This could be as simple as taking a moment to appreciate the beauty around us or expressing gratitude for the things that we have.

In conclusion, choosing to be happy is a powerful way to take control of our lives. Focusing on the positive aspects of our lives and finding joy in the small things can cultivate a sense of happiness and contentment. While life may not always be easy, we can choose to be happy and make the most of every moment. Maya Angelou once said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” So, let’s choose to spread happiness and positivity wherever we go.

Healthy Positive Mindset

A positive mindset can greatly improve your quality of life and help you achieve your goals.

Here are some tips for cultivating a positive attitude:

  1. Practice gratitude: Take time each day to reflect on what you are grateful. You help to shift your focus away from negative thoughts and towards the positive aspects of your life.
  2. Set achievable goals: It’s essential to challenge yourself, but it’s also important to set realistic goals. You can help to boost your confidence and keep you motivated.
  3. Surround yourself with positive people: The people you spend time with can significantly impact your mindset. So surround yourself with positive, supportive people, and encourage you to think positively.
  4. Practice positive self-talk: The way you talk to yourself can have a significant impact on your mindset. So make an effort to speak to yourself positively and encouragingly, and try to eliminate negative self-talk.
  5. Find the good in every situation: It’s not always easy, but try to find the silver lining in every case. Maintain a positive mindset even when things don’t go as planned.
  6. Take care of yourself: It’s hard to maintain a positive mindset if you are not taking care of your physical and emotional needs. Make sure to get enough sleep, eat a healthy diet, and take breaks when necessary.
  7. Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness is being present at the moment and focusing on your thoughts and feelings without judgment. It can help you to gain perspective on your thoughts and emotions and can also help to reduce stress and anxiety.
  8. Take breaks: It’s essential to take breaks and give yourself time to relax and recharge by helping to prevent burnout and keep you feeling positive and energized.
  9. Seek support: If you are struggling with negative thoughts and feelings, it can be helpful to seek support from a friend, family member, or mental health professional. They can provide a fresh perspective and help you work through your challenges.
  10. Celebrate your achievements: Don’t forget to celebrate your achievements, big and small. You can help to boost your confidence and motivate yourself to continue working towards your goals.
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By implementing these strategies, you can cultivate a positive mindset and improve your overall well-being. It may take time and effort, but the benefits are well worth it.

How to Begin Meditation

Meditation is a practice that involves focusing your mind on a particular object, thought, or activity to train attention and awareness and achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm state. It is a simple and effective way to reduce stress, improve mental clarity and focus, and promote overall well-being.

To start meditating, follow these steps:

  • Find a quiet and comfortable place where you can sit or lie down without being disturbed. Make sure you are in a position that is comfortable for you, with your back straight and your feet flat on the floor.
  • Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then, please focus on the sensation of the breath as it moves in and out of your body.
  • Start to pay attention to your thoughts and emotions. Notice them without judging them or trying to change them.
  • When your mind wanders, gently bring your focus back to your breath.
  • Continue to focus on your breath for 5 to 10 minutes. You can use a timer or a guided meditation app to keep track of time.

Slowly open your eyes and take a few deep breaths when the time is up. Notice how you feel and allow yourself to adjust to being back in the present moment.

Remember to be patient with yourself and to approach meditation with a curious and open mind. It can take time to develop a regular practice and see meditation’s benefits. But with time and consistent effort, you will start to notice positive changes in your mood, focus, and overall well-being.

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Finding Happiness

  1. Start each day with a positive mindset.
  2. Practice gratitude by regularly writing down things you’re thankful for.
  3. Take time to connect with the people you care about.
  4. Exercise regularly to boost your mood and reduce stress.
  5. Get enough sleep to allow your body and mind to rest and recover.
  6. Do something you enjoy every day, even if it’s just for a few minutes.
  7. Learn to forgive others and let go of grudges.
  8. Practice mindfulness and focus on the present moment.
  9. Be kind to yourself and others.
  10. Set realistic goals and work towards achieving them.

Finding happiness is a journey that is unique to each individual. Some people find happiness in their relationships, while others find it in their work or hobbies. One of the key aspects of finding happiness is to identify the things that bring joy and fulfillment to your life and to make those things a priority. This may involve changing your daily routine or setting goals to achieve your dreams.

Another important aspect of finding happiness is to let go of negative thoughts and feelings. This may involve practicing self-care and focusing on the present moment rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. It can also involve learning to forgive yourself and others and to let go of grudges or resentment. By focusing on the positive and cultivating a mindset of gratitude, you can open yourself up to greater happiness and fulfillment.

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Calm

Calm

For as many years as I can remember, being calm was challenging for me. What occurs when you can’t find peace is irritability, anxiety, health issues, and the list.

In my research, the critical ingredient is learning to be calm to find peace in my own life. Calm under fire!

When you learn to master the skillful art of remaining calm under fire, you can overcome anything that life throws at you.

How, might you say?

First, you need to learn how to breathe and focus on breathing in stressful situations.

Box Breathing:

  • Breathe in, counting to four slowly. Feel the air enter your lungs.
  • Hold your breath for 4 seconds. Then, try to avoid inhaling or exhaling for 4 seconds.
  • Slowly exhale through your mouth for 4 seconds.
  • Repeat steps 1 to 3 until you feel re-centered.

Simple Breathing:

  • In through the nose and out through the mouth. Nice easy breaths.

Keeping your fingertips together while breathing has also been helpful for me. As stress elevates, I rub my fingertips together slowly. It’s calming.

Breathing will help relieve the stress that can cause pain in the neck and back.

Why all this is so important, you may ask.

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Chill

Our mind functions way faster and more alert when our head is not spinning. Have you ever noticed that in a quiet space, for example, your head won’t shut up? We all have. I wrote an article called When Silence Screams.

Getting to a relaxed place will have incredible value for you. Your decision-making will be more spot-on when your head is quiet. Stress will be minimized in all aspects of your life. There is a difference between healthy and unhealthy habits.

Imagine being able to summon calm—stress response vs. calm response. Think about your dad. Would he respond more favorably to a stressed-out crazy response or a clear, favorable, collected response?

Like anything new, this will take time to learn. At first, you will undoubtedly suck at being calm in the face of adversity. Then, however, you will gain confidence as you apply to breathe into your life.

As you learn new life skills, you must be easy on yourself. Set reminders that say “breathe.” Doing so will help shorten your learning curve. Make this part of your everyday!

Breathing will help you change your outlook from doom to I got this! Everyone you meet will be amazed that you don’t rattle. You learn to improvise, adapt and overcome any situation with a sharp mind.

Take time daily to meditate when you can to calm yourself. Meditation will help clear the stress and open your mind to receive intelligent thoughts. Not a mish-mosh of “Oh God, the world is over.” Vs. Clear, sharp, and concise.

Meditation should also become part of your everyday life. So, give yourself the gift of forty-five minutes of calm.

Now that you have read this short article. It’s time to get going. Set a reminder right now to breathe. Just doing breathing exercises throughout your day will begin to have positive progress.

My life has changed immeasurably by doing what I just wrote for you. Friends say my face does not look stressed; people near me say I am not as snappy as I might have been carrying stress.

It’s not hard; get to it!