Patience

One of the hardest traits in my life to learn, from my New Book: Mastering Life God’s Way:

Patience!

“I believe that a trusting attitude and a patient attitude go hand in hand. You see, when you let go and learn to trust God, it releases joy in your life. And when you trust God, you’re able to be more patient. Patience is not just about waiting for something… it’s about how you wait, or your attitude while waiting.”—Joyce Meyer

Without which, you will stifle growth by imposing your own will that goes against what your destiny shall become.

Keep in mind that life, you must allow destiny to adjust itself, change trajectory, for your destiny to unfold. Changing your life means a whole new direction, so you must allow God to move things around to fulfill your destiny.

Let’s say you want a fantastic job that is currently filled by an amazing person. Someone that has left a real mark in this life. Someone, that if you knew them personally would be a friend! Let’s say this person is going to retire in six months. God’s plan is for you to fall right into this job that currently you are totally unaware of. Without patience, you may give up just a few yards from the finish line. Don’t be that person!

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Nothing worth having happens overnight. Shortcuts get rich quick; you have to work seven days a week; it is all garbage. Beautiful flowers don’t bloom overnight. The sun does not rise all at once. Everything in our lives happens in the time our destiny is supposed to unfold before our eyes. Any faster, and you lose the real blessing.

God’s will, not our will. Let that naturally happen, and wow! When you impose your own will, we tend to want everything right now. Do this, and you will receive, tension, stress, overwhelmed mind, and misery. Then you’ll quit, instead of receiving the beautiful blessings headed your way.

Mastering Life God’s Way

This is my seventh book, Mastering Life God’s Way. For me, this book represents freedom in my life that I have never felt. Finally, I have found a way to enjoy life, have more fulfilling relationships, and have peace in my life like never before.

This book is my step-by-step journey that you can follow along.

Below read the introduction, and at the bottom, please visit my author page on Amazon. This book will change your life if you believe God’s promises, they do come true for anyone!

Introduction

 “Check your ego at the door. The ego can be a great success inhibitor. It can kill opportunities, and it can kill success.”—Dewayne Johnson

How would you like to connect with you on a spiritual level like never before in your life?

 How would you like to wash away fear, doubt, and limiting beliefs?

Unless you’re a Unicorn, my notion is that you’ve probably pondered once or twice, why life is such a struggle. Over that last couple of years, this question has really been at the top of my what the hell is going on questions.

After pondering this for some time. Doing a bit of research, I think I have a pretty good idea of why life is a struggle. The good news is, this book shares why it does not have to be a struggle. That we can live life we’ve dreamed of. Some of you right now are thinking, that’s just crap; it is always going to be a struggle that is just life. My case and point!

 Most of my adult life, I have struggled with an encyclopedia of issues. However, I don’t feel alone because most folks struggle and don’t even realize they can break this cycle. After learning some hard life lessons, I can with a great amount of knowledge tell you that life can be easier, more fulfilling, so much so you will want to live again!

Our lives, for the most part, are like the TV show saying “gym, tan, laundry.” Work, home, repeat. With no life in between. While trying to make a living, we forget to live our life! On top of which, we are indoctrinated into “play it safe,” “oh honey, you can’t do that only rich people can have those things.” “Have a plan B just in case.” The platitudes drone on and on.

From the time we begin our life learning, it’s all about playing it safe. It’s all about this is your lot in life accept it. We cannot afford that; we cannot take a chance; “we cannot” becomes a mantra.

So, what if I challenged you and said you can do anything you set your mind too. How many times have we heard our parents say that? Moreover, how many times in the same breath, “oh, honey, be careful.”

I am not suggesting you throw yourself in harm’s way. What I am suggesting is we change how we approach life. Again, I ask you to ask yourself, can you do anything you set your mind to?

Most of us would, at this moment, be filled with negative thoughts. Normal, considering how from birth, we are taught to play it safe. From well-meaning folks that don’t want to see us get hurt (emotionally hurt).

Reading this book will open your mind up to a new thought process. An outlook of yes, I can! Sweeping old paradigms away from us to open life. Fear instead of stifling us gives us pause to say Yahoo, here we go.

It took me years to get to this point in my life. When folks tell you that you cannot do a thing, it’s because they can’t, so of course, you can’t! Two people know if you can. God, who in this metaphor is your pal, and you. If in your heart you know you can do a thing, then naysayers need to get out of your way.

Remember the old saying: “at first they’ll ask you why you’re doing it, then naysayers will ask you how you did it.” The only person on this earth that needs to believe is you. You don’t have a clue what you can achieve until you try.

Throughout this book, you will learn as I did how to change your focus, thinking, and learn to take pain beyond your current limiting beliefs. Yes, you will struggle, but on the other side of this struggle is your life!

Available on Kindle & Paperback Click the Book Cover:

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Faith Moves Mountains

Waiting for you is your life. Let me explain. If, at this moment, you’re not completely happy with your life, let me give you the piece of the puzzle that is lacking.

Faith! 

Faith breaks open all the bondage of life that is holding you back. It’s that simple. We’ve talked about in previous articles that life is simple, WE put our head, ego, and fear in the equation to stifle growth.

I love the quote from Lisa Nichols, “you gotta know like you know like you know.” 

What this means is unwavering faith that everything will be okay! That what you need will come to pass. Training ourselves to not waiver when everything looks black. Nothing is definite except imminent doom. That dear friend is the enemy throwing his hardest punch to get you to quit. When on the other side of this fear is your life.

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Conquering fear of letting go and letting God was, for me, one of the hardest changes to make in my life. No, I am not 100% with this at all. However, when I waiver, my mind does come back and say, “Hey, wait a minute.” Catching myself before I thoroughly toss out and give up is less and less as time moves along.

Old paradigms can be tossed out with time and attention. New beliefs can arise. 

Here is the big kicker!

When you see absolutely no way, everything is dark, this is when you MUST hold strong in faith. The enemy will test your faith beyond what your mind conceives as no hope. This is when you dig in and let God know you don’t see a way, but you know in your heart he can make a way!

Times where I have just let God know he has me. I trust all will be well. Believe and do the work before me. You cannot just sit on your backside to do what is necessary to achieve that which you desire. God will come through when it’s time for him to go through, not a second sooner. Give God that faith, and he will move mountains for you!

Anyone that tells you “you can’t do that” is telling you they can’t do that. Think about this the only two people that know if you can or cannot. Is you and God. You show him the work and faith. He will come through. I was overwhelmed recently with an abundance of beautiful blessings. It actually scared me. So I took some time to realign my thoughts to trust in God.

I know I am ready to receive all that God has for me. It’s taken time to allow myself to have blind faith. When I do amazing things happen for me, and I look into the clouds where I believe God resides in the shadows looking out for me. Just my thing!

Changing your life requires faith and strength. We are all stronger than we believe we are. That is the first hurdle. You are stronger than you think you are by a long way. Marathon runners hit the wall in the last ten or so miles of a marathon. The wall is a figment of the imagination that you’re done, you’re injured when in fact you are not. Proven study after study. It’s all in your mind. Faith is the same principle. Bust through the wall, and you will finish.

 

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Tribute to Pastor Paulette Caywood

Earlier today, during a telephone call, I learned of the passing of my Pastors’ wife, Paulette Caywood. Don & Paulette Caywood are the pastors of the Odessa Christian Faith Center in Odessa, Texas.

For those of you that read me regularly know that I found this Church almost two years ago after moving to West Texas. So many incredible blessings have come my way while attending this church.

I wanted to take a moment in tribute to a truly elegant, faith-filled woman who deeply touched my heart. Let me share this brief story of why Paulette Caywood will be beloved and missed.

Early on, when I first began going to the Odessa Christian Faith Center, I was a bit shy about interacting with anyone in the Church. In an announcement during the Church service, I hear that the Church Barbeque is coming up. So, I decided to attend by myself.

It’s worthy to note that I had only met Paulette a couple of times.

Upon arriving at the barbeque event, I found myself aimlessly walking around, being kind when people said hello. For me, this was a time of great pain in my life. Not having completed a divorce that I at the time honestly did not want, to say I was a mess would be an understatement.

Finding myself at the event, I was sitting off alone at a table. Having an iced tea and wondering what the heck I was doing there.

At that moment I hear “Bob, that’s your name. I did get it right, Bob?” and standing behind me was Pastor Paulette with a great smile; she asked me to stand and gave me a huge hug. At that moment, she asked, “Bob, would you like to please join us for dinner?” Which I reluctantly accepted, given my state-of-mind.

It was the warmth and kindness in Paulette’s voice that drew me. Not to mention that we had only in passing met a couple of times very casual. Yet she remembered me by name. Of the thousands of people that are a part of the OCFC family, she remembered me. I couldn’t believe that she remembered my name. That has stuck with me to this day!

As we walked across the room, she was asking me about how I liked West Texas and made polite conversation. Arriving at her table, she introduced me to Pastor Don, her husband, some other members of the church. Everyone was truly nice. Paulette made sure that I was able to sit next to Pastor Don for dinner.

On many occasions during dinner, she would ask me to talk about myself. She made sure that the table got to know me.

Why was this seemingly innocuous gesture so important? As you read, I was in a truly terrible place in my life. As I was sitting at the table drinking my tea alone, I was also contemplating just being done with my life. Nothing seemed to be going my way, I had just lost a woman with whom I had hoped for a lifelong relationship. Nothing, and I mean nothing gave me at the time any hope. I had given in, ready to tap-out of this world.

Until I heard this sweet woman say, “Bob, right your Bob?” What Pastor Don and Paulette have given me is my life. That one simple act of kindness gave me hope. Able to see that people do care. I was greeted with such warmth that evening that I was able to hold on longer.

None of us know in a moment what our presence is doing for another human. Paulette Caywood never knew how her simple act saved me from me. The despair in my life at that moment was what I believed too much to bear.

God was working through Paulette Caywood one evening at a simple dinner. I am grateful that Paulette Caywood touched my life. She always had a smile and hearty hello for me anytime I saw her. I tried to always make it a point that she did see me even from afar at church. Sunday was complete with Pastor Paulette’s smile.

Over time, I can say my life is anew. As I write this, I hope that Ms. Paulette is over my shoulder reading how unbeknownst to her just asking me to sit down to dinner changed the outcome of a broken life.

Dear Lady, thank you for being a part of my life. As a woman of God, all of us are brighter, stronger, faith-driven, because you touched our lives. You were an angel on this earth, I trust God has an extraordinary place just for you!

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Letting Life Soak In

It’s been a few weeks for me off the air as it were. Taking time to absorb life changes, a blessing from God that actually became overwhelming in the right way. When the blessing flood gates open, I can tell you that when you’ve not really experienced these gifts. It can take you by surprise.

A couple of friends were asking me, “how can you not let all the blessings come?” The simple answer it scared me. Not in the wrong way, it’s just new. What a was genuinely taken by was being humble to say to God, wait, are you sure I deserve all this? My head went to being worthy of the gifts. That was at least for me, not a bad problem to have.

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So I took a few weeks to allow all this to soak in and come to terms. Needing some sign that all was okay. Even though everything I was receiving is a blessing, I am happy to receive and grateful for the gifts. It was a landslide that I needed to learn to surf down. Catching that first gigantic wave!

The fact that I was also saying to God I want to make sure I am worthy of these blessings. Being mindful to not make it about me, but to understand God was answering my prayers, moving things in my life to allow for forwarding momentum. Helping me understand how to walk this life his way, not my style.

My way has left a trail of wreckage going back decades. His approach is opening up a new life that I never dreamed could be a reality for my life.

When you begin to open up to God (Universe) and allow life to open up naturally. Pray about life, desires, change, and let God do what God does. Do the work, you can’t sit on your fanny and do nothing. Make the investment in your life, success, and happiness. Learn to live in peace. All I can tell you is this is the “Big Kahuna Ride” be prepared. When it hits you, it’s life-changing.

Learning to realize that you want to live in faith, do what God has called you to do. Life becomes this fantastic ray of hope. I am back in the game and ready to see what this life truly has for me. The point of this article:

Live in faith! Number 1 for sure…

  • Allow life to open up
  • Meditate
  • Pray
  • Always have a smile!

Let life be a constant surprise and be happy with either how small or how big the surprise! It’s all wonderful. That’s how I now see life. It is a beautiful surprise.

Being okay to take time to allow changes in life to just flow is liberating. Over the last few weeks, that is precisely what I did. Allowed me to be okay with the abundance of blessing coming into my life. At first overwhelming, but today nothing but smiles and thank you!

Learning to live in peace is way better than the alternative.