Change The World Around You

One thing is for sure in this tumultuous world. It is a ride! Something akin to a twirl-and-hurl ride at the carnival. How do we survive in a chaotic world?

“Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” –Francis of Assisi

None of us can avoid the bilge ever-present on the internet. Cannot view the news, go on social media, listen to others in conversations without hearing negative remarks. Americans pitted against Americans. Are we not all on the same side, or at least supposed to be???

Enough of this, I say. Let’s spell out a few things we can all do to remove ourselves from negative thoughts and change the world. The world around us anyway! Unless you are being called by some political moniker, Congressman _____, Senator ______, then I imagine the only real change you can be a part of is the world around you.

What do I mean, you ask?

  • Can you offer up a smile?
  • Can you offer up a lending hand, volunteer?
  • Can you not get caught up in rhetoric, offer solutions NOT more hate, gossip, etc.

Instead of talking about the world’s problems, do something about the world’s problems around you.

  1. Plant a fruit tree in a public space so all can pick from it. With permission, of course, find an available space that would allow you to plant a fruit tree.
  2. Teach families in need how to grow a garden for fresh food. Most folks could do this right in the back yard. Or again, find a public space that would allow for a community garden.
  3. Could you teach a class for free at the public library?
    How to create a great Resume
    How to overcome fear
    How to start your own business on a shoestring budget
    How to write a book and publish it
    How to be a good leader
    How to be a better parent
  4. What about educating yourself? Reinvent YOU!
  5. What could you do to lower your carbon footprint?

Plenty of ideas to get you started thinking about how you could change the world around you. Because when we are honest with ourselves, that is truly all we can change is the world around us—our circle of the planet.

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Instead of burning everything to the ground, causing havoc and chaos. Would it not make more sense to fix what we can?

Being a mental health awareness month, I felt this article was spot on. Seeing so many folks simply lose their mind over things they have absolutely NO control over. It would be nice to have total faith in one’s Government, but throughout history, that is just not the case.

Taking care of our own little corner of the world makes way more sense.

Seeing the video floating around of the young women screaming at the top of their voice. Making a spectacle of themselves and being the butt of jokes all over the world. As you read this, my guess you know precisely which memes I speak of.

When you think about those type of moments, what did they achieve? Other than the fallout from the humiliation of doing something you live to regret.

Again, this begs the question, was it worth it?

Before you jump off into the deep blue sea of controversy, ask yourself some questions before you believe anything you read or hear:

  1. If you hear something that boils your mind. Is the person you are hearing it from credible, and do they have an underlying agenda? Make sure the information is without bias.
  2. Is there anything at all you can indeed do about that which you have heard? Other than changing the world around you.
  3. Is losing your joy, doing something stupid worth it? Or could you change the world around you for the better?

“A man always has two reasons for doing anything: a good reason and the real reason.”—JP Morgan

Fundamentally we all want the same thing:

  1. Quality of Life
  2. At my age Peace-of-Mind
  3. Happy family
  4. Warm Home
  5. Good paying Job or Business

We are Americans and suppose to be on the same team. Here is what happens with Government:

  1. Each election cycle, one or the other party will tear down that which the other did during their reign in office. Therefore, we are at square one again.
  2. Each election cycle, you hear the same promises:
    “It’s the dawn of a new era.”
    “Together, we will be better.”
    “Lower Taxes.”
    “We will provide better care for your family.”

None of these things ever have lasting value because every 4 to 8 years someone new comes into power. If it happens to be a different political party, we get to start over. With words strong like “Repeal.”

For me, therefore, I simply try and change the world around me. I figure no matter who is in the office, if I can somehow bring a better me to the world, I can change what I can. This way I don’t have to lose my mind over things I have no control over.

The one thing I do contribute is my Vote. That is the extent of my voice but not the extent of my reach. By helping others, lending a hand, I can in some measure, change the world. Now imagine that by millions of people!

So, we are clear:

  • I do not like career politicians.
  • I want clean air and a good healthy environment.
  • Good schools, good roads, and stable infrastructure.
  • Quality land management over our natural resources.

Alluding back to what can you or I do to facilitate our common goal?

How can we, as Americans, hurt one another? Just because we believe differently does not make us mortal enemies. It just makes us different. You give a little, I offer a little and somewhere we find common ground to stand on.

More to the point, how can you allow current events to overtake your life and mental joy? Nothing in our lives is solved with a hateful, stress-filled heart. Problems are solved with calm, cool heads. I am evidence of this fact.

My own life, when I learned to not fight monsters in the closet that simply was not there, I began to find peace. Finding peace has moved my life in ways I never dreamed could be with a grateful heart of what is yet to come.

Find peace in yourself; life will come to find you in meaningful, joyful and happy ways. God bless you!

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Quiet Your Mind

Learn how to slow down the noise in your head. When silence screams loud, learning to quiet your mind, meditate to slow down. You will find focus, peace, tranquility and energy will flow like a river.

This is the introduction to my new book “Quiet Your Mind”, available at Amazon. We explore how to get the garbage out of our minds and release our best life.

Introduction

Do you ever wish you could unplug from the world if only for a moment?

Can you put Social Media away for a full day?

Could you give yourself a real break and not give in to the harshness of the world?

The answer I would imagine is a hesitant maybe!

If you unplug for just a bit to allow your head to reboot. You will find fantastic peace if you try. Do not worry, your social media will be there when you get back.

If you really want to be happy, you need to take short breaks from the world. A constant barrage of garbage information will cloud your mind to the point you have zero visibility, just like a pilot, you need to be able to see. Zero visibility is dangerous.

Reading post after post of garbage. Finding yourself getting angrier over a world gone wrong. Not for one minute saying you must not care. What I am absolutely saying is give care to yourself so you can bring a better you back to the world.

When our mind can slow down. Reboot if you will. Creative energy, positive outlooks, and a healthier mind can emerge. We have all heard the adage, balanced life.

This is an incredibly stressful time in our history. Nothing in the news is exciting or helpful, we are barraged with how horrible the world where we reside. Nothing on social media is anything but negative, negative, negative!

Your noodle can only manage so much before you become a product of your environment. Finding ourselves short-tempered and contrary. Again, you can care about social issues of the day, but learn to moderate the intake and outgo of self.

It is terrific to be passionate about social issues. It is a whole other thing to be blinded by them. This will occur if you do not take time to unplug to see the world around you. What I mean by the world around you is your spiritual presence on this earth.

Do you take time to meditate and clear your head? See yourself in ways that make you happy. Are you available to go to God in prayer? Or are you to busy to slow down?

If your answer does not include meditation or prayer. Wo Pony, you need to slow down. Anger begets anger. Hate begets hate, intolerance begets intolerance. Change in social environments means you must be the change you want in the world, as Gandhi once said.

If you did pray and meditate regularly, you might find the social answers you seek.

Manage the world around you. Meaning, change what you can in your environment. See how that grows. This is how you can profoundly change the world.

This book is not intended to solve the world’s problems. It is designed to help you find peace, inner strength, hope, and bring a better you to this world.

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Take Your Life Back

How can life continually kick you in the gut, yet you still get up and fight?

How can life jerk the rug right out from under you, and yet you still get up and fight?

How can nothing seem to go right most of the time, and you still get up and fight?

How can you feel abandoned by God and still get up and fight?

Are you the person that fights?

People quit because they do not have a fight left in them, so THEY think! Emotionally we are all stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

“Self-acknowledgment boosts your emotional and spiritual immunity, giving you the strength, you need to release the past and rise above fear, doubt, or resignation.”—Debbie Ford

Two years ago, I took life head-on. With no emotional place to go but up, it was time to take the hits, take the pain, take the sorrow, and say NO more.

When you want to change your life, achieve more than you ever have. You need to be ready to take whatever life can throw at you, breakthrough prepared for more. When I speak of achievement, this is not about work success, this is YOU success.

Nothing in this life will come to you if you are not prepared. Emotionally prepared to never allow life to overtake your self-worth.

No more pity parties, “I can’t take it, it is too hard!” Horsefeathers!

Let me give you a little secret I have learned along the way. When you begin to awaken the you that you want to be. The person that makes all your dreams come true. You also awaken the enemy who says, “Oh NO, you don’t, I had you in the pits of hell on earth and that is where you stay.” So, the battle begins!

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You will be tested; the enemy will fill your head with garbage. Keep you busy chasing your own tale. Kicking your own ass. This is when YOU SAY, “Oh Hell. No, this is my time.”

This will help you strengthen yourself:

  1. Pray. Find times every day to share your innermost thoughts with God. The good, the bad and the ugly. Get it out. All we ask for is wisdom to resolve!
  2. Meditation. Daily get yourself in a routine of reflection. This is where we go to see ourselves in that place of joy, happiness, and peace.
  3. Journal your day. Learn the difference between activity and productivity. Success comes about when productivity dominates our days. Set specific times to achieve tasks every day that lead to a tangible result. Set up your day hour-to-hour. At first, this will be a pain in the butt. Over time it becomes second nature.
  4. Breathe. As much as needed, take a moment to breathe. Slow yourself down when your head begins to muddle up with garbage. Box breathing is a beautiful way to calm down. Easy to do: Take a couple cleansing breaths in through the nose out through the mouth. Then on a slow 4 count breath in and hold 4, breathe out on a 4 count, begin the same rhythm again. Do this a couple of times; if relaxed your good. If not a couple more times.
  5. Remember a calm mind, is productive, creative, and happy. This is where you will draw your greatest strength.

Do not give up when things get tough. Misery loves company. Do not let the enemy put in your head you can not change, YES you can!

The reason I know change is possible:

  • Great athletes train, train, and train more. You do not pick up a golf club walk onto a tee box with Tiger Woods and expect to win a game. You do not get on a pair of skis and stand in a start house with Lindsey Vaughn and expect to win a gold medal.

Why you say, why can you not beat them? Simple! Practice they have trained themselves for years to compete at the level of achievement each has attained. You must train, train and train more to win—the same thing with your mind that has decades of garbage stuffed in your mind.

People can change because you do get better when you practice. When you get off your ass and try. Try until you think one more step is impossible and take action.

Nay Sayers can kiss my ass. Let this become your mantra!

Just because lazy asses tell you something is impossible. You do not have the right stuff. Remind them to sit on their ass and hold your beer. Get it done!

I wish I had a shortcut to share. Other than your resolve must be steadfast. When enough-is-enough, you will change. I am!

Give Up or Win!

You can give up or you can breakthrough! Choose wisely.

The difference between winning, change, or a continuation of the same. Don’t give up! Faith in all that you do will see you through the tough times when you want to give up. Giving up comes in the form of emotional pain.

I call it kicking your own ass! 

We are conditioned from a very young age to avoid pain. Our brain will have us run from pain. Here is an example of overcoming emotional torture.

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Marathon runners hit what they call the wall. This happens late in the race when your body is so fatigued your brain begins to say you need to stop NOW. Runners say they feel as though they are hurting their bodies beyond measure.

Yet studies have found this is all in mind. That if you can break through this process, on the other side, you complete the Marathon. Bodies are not injured, it’s simply fatigued that your brain registers as pain.

Humans can see themselves through tremendous emotional pain. You genuinely do not know what you can take until you try. More often than not, giving up too soon, when achievement is just one more step away. Success can take one action further than most are willing to do.

Yes, you will have to work through emotional pain to achieve real success in anything you set out to make. Moreover, this is worth your investment, time, and energy. Stop losing and learn to win. Achieve more than you dreamt of!

How you say?

Learning to recondition yourself, your auto-response to emotional pain. This takes time and your fullest attention. 

  1. Look at the state of your home or office. Is it cluttered? Is it clean? Clean is good, cluttered is bad will talk about that. The state of your mind runs congruent with the state of your account. East start, get your home and office in order! 
  2. Organize your life to win. In my book, we talk about activity vs. productivity. When you fully understand the difference, this is the secret sauce. For example, the action is social media, gabbing, etc. Productivity: net a result. Work on a project to completion in a set time. 
  3. Take care of Body, Mind & Soul. Eat healthy, walk, get in the sunshine. Take time to unplug from social media (most significant waste of your time) phones, get outside and leave the phone at home or in the car. Unplug! 
  4. Meditate and pray. During your meditation, see yourself as you would love to live. It’s not about fancy cars, mansions, it’s about being present in a moment. Success will come if you can actually be present in a moment. Giving full attention to the tasks at hand. See yourself and pray to God for wisdom. Not possessions. 
  5. Learn. Simple enough. Make time every day to broaden your mind. Watch videos, take a master class, attend night school. Do something that brings a better you to this world. 

Five quick things to get started.

None of this will make any difference if you don’t follow-through. This means set out reminders for 1 Year. Exercise, make time for an entire year to exercise. One hour per day for 365 days = 365 hours of training, education, family. It’s time to organize to win in life.

For the “I don’t have time, crowd.” Let me piss you off here and say YOU DON’T KNOW HOW TO MANAGE YOUR TIME, AND I CAN PROVE IT. I can also HELP!

Give me ONE day of honest assessment:

  • Track your day literally every 30 minutes make a note of what you have done in this space of time. Journal your day as close to the times as you can. 
  • Be HONEST (Goofed off, social media, personal stuff, bathroom breaks) Chronicle it all HONESTLY. 

Then with all the time, you’ve wasted doing junk. Add that number up and times it by your work weekdays.

I would challenge you to fill 1 hour with complete focus. NO phone, no email, nothing but real production. As you can begin to focus like this on daily tasks, complete one move on (oh, by the way, multi-taskers the 90’s called they want you to come home).

Laser-sharp focuses on the task at hand. Start and complete. It’s much harder than you might think to fill an entire hour with PRODUCTION.

Now you must begin to realize the enemy; your head will not want to let go of your goof-off time smoothly. You will start “this doesn’t work” “its too hard” will fill your head with crap. How bad do you want to win? Bad enough to not kick your own ass???

This is why we set out a year for changes in our life. You want lasting change? Do something that produces a result religiously for one hour per day for an entire year. This time next year, you will not know yourself as you do today. You will have achieved much, my dear friends.

Two of my books are great starts:

Organize your Life to Win

 

Christian book, Life Change, Organize

 

Tying it All Together

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I Can’t Gets A Divorce

Organize Your Life to Win

Breaking down parts of the book to help you achieve greater success in any aspect of your life. You can apply these principals to adjust the trajectory of your life right now.

In this article, we briefly touch on one thing you can do right now to bring about lasting change. One thing is an easy win!

Time to divorce “I can’t.” The “I can’t” syndrome will stifle all greatness in you. “I can’t do it:

  • I’m too old
  • I’m too poor
  • I’m too set in my ways.
  • I’m too busy

This list stops here. Otherwise, we continue excuse-after-excuse until we quit. Not this time, my friends.

You can I’m too yourself to NOTHING! Or you can realize you are never too old, too weak, also set in ways or too busy to change. Beliefs that have been indoctrinated into your head for years are strangling you to death.

Life, hope, happy

You can absolutely change if you want to, period. The problem most have is when it becomes emotionally painful, we wimp out and stop. Instead of fighting through screaming at the heavens, “I am winning this time!”

Gaining faith in our ability takes time. Successful people will tell you that the reason they win. They’re willing to take one more step farther than you, no matter the effort needed. They simply outwork you.

Organize your life to win, teaches you how to organize, so you win. If you do not hold yourself towards success, you will never have success. This is all part of getting “I can’t” out of our vernacular. Out of our heads forever.

Here are some actions you can take right now:

  1. Put up, visualizations, “I Can!”
  2. Meditate on I can vs. I can’t.
  3. Instead of looking at why you cannot, search for why you can do something you set your heart too.
  4. Key is to make a To-Do every day that works towards letting go of “I can’t.” The above is a great start.
  5. Keep going until this becomes second nature. Change does not happen overnight. Set out a minimum of six months of continuous focus.

Replace I can’t with I can! Stop overthinking and set the reminders now.

Learn to have faith in yourself. How do you get confidence in your own ability? Practice what I have suggested over-and-over again until it becomes natural to you. Nothing in this life is easy until you master the technique.

You don’t walk out on a golf course and shoot par first time out. It takes a lot of practice to master the game. Life is the same way. If you want to change something about yourself. Stop saying I can’t and begin to say I can. Have faith.

Faith takes practice because it will be tested. Your ability to work through these times will take  training. Do not get discouraged if things get tough. Only I can. This is your new mantra. When you think you cannot take a step further, take action.

Through determination, practice, and your will. Finding a new, you; is just around the corner.

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