Life’s Puzzle Solved

A sneak peak at my new book:

Chapter 1

Beginning Change

“They always say time changes things, but you have to change them yourself.” –Andy Warhol

Before you begin this book, I am going to ask you to do one thing. Do this; it will be liberating!

Accept your life as it is now. No matter your lot in life, where you are, or your social situation. Simply accept your life. Let go of everything and accept. Let go of mental things, let go of emotional pain, everything, let go of it.

Do this only for yourself. Don’t worry about others; this is you—absolute acceptance of your entire being. You do not have to prove a damn thing to anyone; be within yourself.

By doing this, you can start from a clean slate. Your life is a do-over. Accept who you are, where you are. Now everything can be fresh. Begin here. Acceptance!

“I accept who I am. Today is day one of my NEW life.”

Let’s talk about the next step from Acceptance.

“Desire”

Do you desire to change?

How bad do you want to change?

Enough to follow through, or will this go silently adrift into the abyss? (Being honest with yourself)

You, however, must desire and want change. People say all the time, “yes, I want that.” But, unfortunately, very few see change through to fruition.

You must be willing to change your environment, habits, and outlook to achieve lasting change.

Be sick and tired of being sick and tired!

Learn to set yourself up for success—activity vs. Productivity.

“Nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could do only a little.” –Edmund Burke

Never think a small step or time is an issue. Forward momentum!

If you understand how something will impact your life in a meaningful way, you will change. Unfortunately, it is NOT motivation; you lack its knowledge.

Learn WHY and the rest will fall in place! When you learn enough to understand the outcome of what you are trying to change. It is fun at that point. You feel sucked in by the force of knowing something unique is about to happen.

It’s not possible to remain the same person every day until you die. Otherwise, you would still need diapers. We grow; we learn. It is the way of things.

Remember, the world may be in turmoil; you do not have to be. Life can control you, or you can manage your own life. Things will happen out of our control; however, if it is not in your lane, stay in your lane! Keep the faith that change is occurring and forthcoming.

Be open to change no matter how impossible your perception of life is right now. What happens to you is what you allow mentally (of course not physically). You have more strength than you know.

Beat down emotionally? The only way from here is up. Never fall into the mindset that life is over, no hope. Nothing is over until it’s over. Want to be done with all the bullshit? You can and will find a way. I did!

With the change, you may find that friends may fall out. If people in your life fade away, let them go. Sometimes change occurs. Destinies change. Be open.

Somedays, you will feel alone. Somedays, you will say F’ it, I am not strong enough. I, too, had those days, dark days to the point of resigning myself to ending my life. At that moment, shit just was not worth it anymore.

I am aimlessly walking through life with nothing to hope for, nothing to live for, and broken. I have shared this story a few times in my podcast and blog.

Four years or so ago. A failed marriage, a divorce that at the time I did not want. At the time, I loved my wife very much. To add insult to injury, I paid for a divorce that I did not wish to occur.

More to the point, once the pain subsided, I realized our lives had different destinations. Hurt, but it made sense.

With not much left in my life, I moved to West Texas at the request of my family. So off to West Texas Glitzy, my dog and I go.

Fast forward a bit. I began to go to Church in Odessa, Texas. Two amazing things happened to me.

First, I was searching for anything that would bring me peace.

While sitting in church one Sunday morning, the pastor was doing an alter call. Where folks in the congregation give themselves to Jesus Christ or reaffirm their decision, keep in mind for the next part that I, other than being polite and saying good morning, not a soul in the church, knew who I was.

On this Sunday, I raised my hand. After the prayer and everyone sat down. The pastor was walking across the stage and stopped. Turning back towards the crowd, he began to say, “Sir, sir” finally realizing he was calling out to me, I was surprised. The pastor said to me, “God had put in his heart that whatever creative things I was working on don’t stop.”

Not knowing me from Adam, the fact that I had been writing a great deal, my goal for that year was to publish my first book. How could he ever know that? Ponder that.

That year not only did I publish my first book, but I also actually published seven.

Second, a miracle that happened for me follows:

I have attended the church for several months now. But, honestly, at this moment, I will freely admit not much was changing, and I had fallen back into a deep depression.

An event at the church had come up a barbeque. As I sat alone at a table during the event, finding myself at the lowest point in my life. Nothing seemed like it would ever work out. At this moment, I made the decision it was simply time to go. End Life and end the pain. The scary part is a false sense of peace came over me.

At this moment, I hear some say, “Bob is that you?” As I turned, I saw Paulette, the Pastors wife standing behind me and calling out to me as I had made this horrible decision.  

Paulette asked me what I was doing sitting alone. We exchanged pleasantries, and she invited me to sit at her table and join her friends. I hesitantly accepted.

As the evening progressed, I began to realize people were genuinely friendly. I was enjoying myself entirely for the first time in what seemed to be years.

On my way home, I felt at peace.

My point to these two events is this. No way could Pastor Don have had any idea I was a writer. Likewise, Paulette could not have known that seconds before she said something to me, I had planned that my life was not worth living.

In my mind, God spoke through them to me not one time but two. So my belief tells me that God said that my life did have meaning in my darkest moment.  

Whether you believe or have faith, miracles do happen. Change can happen. We don’t always understand why life is what it is, but hope does exist, even when you find yourself ready to give up.

My prayer for you is never to think that life cannot be changed for the better. I am living proof that you can. Even though I did not want a divorce, I am excited about my life and the days ahead.

Writing brings me joy and peace. When writing, I honestly feel that is what I am supposed to be doing.

“Change is hard until it’s not.”—Robert Bruton

First, you must begin right now to be open to change. To say to yourself, “what if this guy is right?” I can change my entire life no matter age, gender, education, or station in life. You can change. Simply put, you must want change.

This statement will sting a little bit because it is brutally honest. Get these two statements out of your head:

  • “I am old school.” I am not going to change. (Hard truth answer. You’re too lazy to change.) Ouch, but damn, stop saying that.
  • “I am not a morning person.” (Get your ass out of bed. A life filled with happiness, and you would rather sleep lazy ass.) Ouch again, but NO, you can get up and meet the day with everything that is you; come on now.

“I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.” –Muhammad Ali

Limiting beliefs are no longer a part of our mantra. (PSA: sometimes we must swallow the truth that chokes us).

If you are reading this book, let us assume your answer is in the affirmative.

My mother has a great saying to my sister and me. “You did not wreck yourself overnight; you cannot fix yourself overnight.” Patience is the call of the day. As we begin this book, you will be changing many aspects of your psyche and old paradigms to wash away.

In my podcast this morning, I related a story that I would like to tell you now.

When you look at herds of animals, one animal always stands out from the entire herd or pack. In this example, I will use horses because I love horses. As horses move about, they, like all herd animals, have one leader. Imagine yourself in the herd, running across the open plains doing your thing. Today, however, you begin to run faster and stronger than you ever have. You are overtaking the lead horse.

This newfound strength came upon you. Nothing special about you thus far, but today you found a whole new speed in your run. Today you’re leading the herd.

We all have something profound within us that, at any moment, can come out. When you learn to quiet your mind, keep still in the face of adversity. You will find this new speed. Keep reading because this book is filled with more than you can imagine. Life is about to change.

Most of us buy into the “we are where we are” syndrome. You may be today, but you damn sure can be in a new place tomorrow. Get that straight out of your head; you will thank me later.

We all must learn not to listen to society’s norms. Even a well-meaning family can stifle dreams. Only two people know whether you can or cannot do a thing—you and God. Everything else is conversation.

Learning to look at life taking these things out of the equation:

  1. Money is not a problem
    (how you say? We can all figure out how to start on a shoestring or fund a project. It just takes knowledge).
  2. Knowledge is not a problem
    (how you say? Gaining knowledge about anything is an online or library search away).
  3. Time is not the problem

(How you say? Learn the difference between Activity vs. Productivity, and you will master your life). My pee tests. “Did you pee today?” Yes, being the most common answer. You told me you did not have time to do anything. Yet you had time to pee. Mull that over a while, it will come to you! (Spoiler alert you have to)

These three items have been staples in how to set goals for years.

ONE BIG THING MISSING

FEAR

WHAT IF FEAR WAS NO LONGER A PROBLEM?

HEALTHY FEAR YES | DEBILITATING FEAR NO

As we journey through this book, you will learn how to master your fear. Learn to condition yourself to remain calm under extreme pressure when necessary and stay calm through life.

Arguably the most debilitating of all emotions is fear. So stop you in your tracks, and these phrases have that ability for now:

  • Lose my job. Voluntarily or not.
  • Ruin my credit.
  • I have bills.
  • I have children and a mortgage.
  • I don’t know-how.

You can damn sure talk yourself out of anything—fear talking. But, in later chapters, we will learn how to overcome fear with knowledge.

Baby steps are okay. Forward momentum is always a good thing, big or small. Just keep the inertia moving forward.

“The person who says it cannot be done. Should stop interrupting the person doing it.”—Chinese Proverb

You are talking yourself out of doing something or allowing someone to talk you out of something you are enthusiastic about stops now. Learn to believe in your ability. Not, others’ interpretation of your abilities. Significant difference.

How many success stories have you heard from early on in a company’s Genesis that major players walked by and said, “oh, that’s not ever going to work.” Microsoft®, Apple®, Compaq®, FedEx®, and others all laughed at early on. Belief, perseverance, and the wisdom to learn from failures and build back stronger. Your life is just like that.

Change may not come at the first door; you may need to open a few before walking through the right one.

When you believe strongly enough (not wishful thinking) that you ache to do something, it calls to you. Then you figure the way. Knowledge is the key. Then, you will achieve your wildest dreams.

Knowledge is one of the key ingredients you will utilize to have people ask you in the beginning, “Why are you doing that?” to then ask you, “How did you do that?” Knowledge to achieve, solve, and overcome. The real question will be, are you willing to learn?

Learning is just like a bicycle. When you begin to learn to ride a bike, you suck. Skinned knees, maybe a broken bone, but you continue to LEARN. As you progress, you take one hill, then the next until you’re a kamikaze finding the steepest hill, the most significant jump, not caring if you bust your ass. Why? You have learned and mastered the bike.

Life is the same way. You have learned and mastered life. You don’t care if you bust your ass. Why because you know HOW to get back up. You learn to love the journey, good and bad, instead of focusing on a small failure only to peter out.

It is liberating!

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” –Wayne Dyer 

What I hear in that statement is change brings about knowledge. The bicycle metaphor, in the beginning, could be construed as menacing because you bust your ass all the time. However, as you gain knowledge to ride the bike proficiently, the bike looks like tremendous fun.

Life can be the same!

When I was a kid, I skied in Ruidoso, New Mexico. First, the ski area was named Sierra Blanca; after the mountain peak, it later changed to Ski Apache.

In my youth, the ski run I most wanted to conquer was a run called Capitan. Very steep with huge moguls. To a young boy, very foreboding. The first attempt going down the hill took what seemed to be hours traversing the mountain from one side to the other.

Capitan became one of my favorite runs to ski, and I eventually skied many races on that run with time. I went from traversing side to side to being able to downhill the slope. No turns straight, tuck, and down we go.

After a time of overcoming fear, I was able to do anything I wanted on the hill. For me, it was one of the biggest thrills of achievement in my life. Many a fun race day I had was spent on that hill.

With time and practice, you too can overcome your fear of skiing your Capitan.

To solve life’s puzzle, you need knowledge and lots of it. Conquering fear is nothing more than the knowledge to decipher what you fear. Humans are not fearful of anything they understand. Guys who handle venomous snakes (I agree crazy as hell) do so because they know how to do so. Therefore, they can take and control dangerous situations. Bomb guys the same way. Ability overcomes difficult fear and lets healthy respect reside.

Become a student of life.

For example:

  • Are you the go-to person in your field for a professional opinion if a national broadcast calls you? No, why?
  • The most challenging problem in your life, do you curl up in a ball or hit them head-on? If you knew how to solve the problem, would you still curl up in a ball? NO!
  • Want to change the world? How? Knowledge to solve the problems of the world might be an excellent place to start.
  • Want a better job? Learn how to do something better, more proficiently, and you will land a better-paying job. Solving someone’s problems and pay is not a problem. Think about that for a minute.
  • About to lose a relationship. Learn what it takes to have a safe, happy, loving, healthy relationship, and you will not. Or better still, if you lose, you won’t close it on yourself the next time that door opens.

Learn to solve problems, get out in front of an issue solve it. Money will not be your problem.

Remember you must start somewhere. Never think, “oh, if I get the job now, I can solve problems later.” No, get the knowledge and work your way towards your result. You cannot skip forward and expect lasting change. Do the work!

Improvise, Adapt, and overcome!

You do not need a formal education to fix your life—knowledge is accessible to all. It would help if you simply found it. Not hard at all.

When you learn that life is not holding you back, you are. It’s not what side of the tracks you were born on, education or no education. So many men and women throughout history have come from horrible situations to achieve beautiful things.

Society would like to have you believe that it’s only a select few who can achieve. Stop buying a pile of horse manure.

When you say, I don’t have the education to do that. Most successful entrepreneurs came from nothing, had nothing, and indeed no formal education.

You can gain knowledge through so many avenues:

  • Library, read as many books as you can, read daily. One hour per day X 365 days is 365 hours of study!
  • Online Searches (research) any subject you need help with learning.
  • Seminars (in person and online)
  • Training courses (in-person and online)
  • Volunteering
  • Find a Mentor
  • SBA / Score (internet search if you don’t know what this is)

Open yourself to new ideas and new ways of learning!

Srinivasa Ramanujan was an Indian mathematician that had virtually no formal math training. Yet, in his day, he solved math problems that others said were unsolvable. Moreover, his work was so advanced other scholars of the day dismissed his work.

He mainly worked in isolation. But, from this one book, A Synopsis of Elementary Results in Pure and Applied Mathematics, G. S. Carr’ this young man was able to extrapolate some of the most thought-provoking work in mathematical history. One book changed his life forever!

Sadly, this young man died at age 32.

Think about this for a minute. Your life could change forever reading one book—extraordinary to think.

Considered today, Srinivasa Ramanujan is a legend within the mathematic community and with scholars.

Another person of notable success you will certainly recognize is Demi Moore. “I was born in Roswell, New Mexico and raised by alcoholic parents in a trailer park.” (Roswell is my birthplace)

From that beginning, she did not let her environment, or lack thereof, deter her from becoming an excellent Hollywood star.

Change only occurs when you change! Do you want to change?

Asperger Syndrome:

A developmental disorder was affecting the ability to socialize and communicate effectively.

Asperger syndrome is a condition on the autism spectrum, with generally higher functioning.

Consider Elon Musk, who suffers from Asperger’s. This amazing man has not let what some would say a disability keep him from reaching his vision. Instead, he does what he loves, someone that pursues space travel; let’s say it is not a regular Joe job.

 A disorder that makes social situations awkward, I think we can all agree Elon Musk has articulated his vision in a meaningful way.

Excuses for our lives stop at this moment!

“I learned a long time ago the wisest thing I can do is be on my side, be an advocate for myself and others like me.” –Maya Angelou

You must buckle down and work. Learn how to apply knowledge to a situation and see how quickly your life changes. When you can step in front of a problem with the actual ability to solve it, the world is yours.

You have attained knowledge. Think about something that you might be afraid to try. Dancing, for example. When you begin to learn a dance, you probably look dorky until you master the steps. You don’t simply walk on the dance floor and waltz the first time beautifully. However, with practice, you will look graceful on the floor.

At that point, fear is out the window!

What if I fail? You fail if you don’t try!

What if I look stupid? Who Cares???

Everyone begins at ground zero. We all had to start somewhere with only the knowledge that we possessed at that moment. As time moved, so did the skill level; this, in turn, brings down the level of fear to a manageable level.

From an article I wrote:

What does it take to make lasting and real change?

Simply writing out goals with no concrete plan of action is useless. Lord, I want a million dollars in my bank account, do nothing, and by some miracle, it will happen because you wished it!

Sorry to burst bubble; life change takes real work. Wishing for something to happen is flat going to get you ZERO.

Want to learn the secret sauce?

Organize your life to win. From the time you get up to the time you go to bed, be about good works. Yes, you can have time for messing about. The basic plan daily is getting our job done, then playing—a balance of productivity and activity. Learn to master the difference between the two, and you will achieve your heart’s desire.

Life cannot be all about you. Make some room for making a difference every day. It can be as simple as sharing a smile, a hearty good morning. Perhaps, you visited a total stranger in the hospital or nursing home to spread good cheer. Just be a blessing to anyone today. First and foremost, to lead a life of abundance.

Everything else will fall in place when you set out to change your life to achieve happiness, peace, and joy in your heart. Having peace in your head will give you access to the far reaches of your brain. Learning to declutter our minds will open creative thoughts.

How do you say do I slow down my brain long enough to have a positive thought?

Meditation

Learning through prayer and meditation to slow down decompress our brain to begin receiving new thoughts and ideas. Problem solved with a clear head.

(We have a chapter on Mediation) 

As I finished this book, I returned to this spot to share a different story that I heard in a video. It struck me as thought-provoking.

I watched a video by a helicopter pilot who flies for a major TV show in Alaska. He shared a story about something he asked a Coast Guard Helicopter rescue pilot. The TV pilot asked: “how do you know when a flight is a no-go or go due to weather conditions?” To which the Coast Guard Pilot replied: “When we get called out on a rescue, the weather is normally torrential due to the nature of the call, may-day distress. The weather is not the factor if we can open the hanger door in the storm we go.” Meaning if they can manage to open the hanger door in a torrential storm, they fly no matter the conditions.

My point to this is you have a decision to make. Your life is a mayday call. Are you going to let a storm stop you? Or will you move the hanger door the hell out of the way so you can do your job? People can find the will to overcome anything. Each of us can fly no matter what the weather.

Time to fly!

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Veteran Kindness

Today has been a challenging day, not so much for me but for a Veteran, his family who happen to be clients.

This morning, I received a phone call from the wife who asked me to cancel a deal; I had consummated with them a few days earlier. My question was why.

She exclaimed to me that her husband, a disabled veteran from the Vietnam war, had broken down because of the catastrophe in Afghanistan. Seeing stories of the men and women killed and the young lives lost was simply more than he could bear.

He has PTSD and horrible memories of friends lost in the war he fought in. Only to see the Government throw away lives he and thousands of others served to protect.

His wife spoke with me uncontrollably, crying, believing that this episode has taken her husband over the edge, shattered my heart.

Doing the best, I tried to comfort her and told her not to worry about anything; we would figure out how to back out of contracts and documents that were in process. We successfully stopped the transaction with many folks involved doing their part to help a Veteran and his family.

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Suppose you are a Veteran or active military from any war. Don’t EVER believe that your service did not matter. It damn sure matters to me and thousands of others like me. Just because a government fails you, do not for one moment believe that you failed its citizens, your fellow countryman.

My Uncle, a Colonel, served in the United States Air Force, saw Vietnam and Iraq under two Bush Presidents. Like so many other families in America, we are proud of our military.

We never know what a fellow human being is going through. So, take time to be kind!

Time What the Hell are You Waiting For

“Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.” –Earl Nightingale

What the hell are you waiting for?

The decisive question, but if you are waiting for the right time, money, market, whatever other excuse you can think of. You may be here not accomplishing much if you don’t move!

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The grandest illusion we face is believing we have time.

Time can be snatched from you in a moment, without notice. Circumstances can change in a nanosecond. Let me give you a secret. There is no good time. You can wait, but that is all you’ve done, wait!

You can launch off anything at what you deem is the right moment, only to fall on your ass. Others began and said, “oh my, this took off like we never dreamt.” Perfect timing, the ability to foretell the future is a rare gift indeed. Seriously, are you that gullible? Of course not.

Ask yourself why you are not:

  1. Telling someone you love them.
  2. Starting to care for your body, work out.
  3. Taking care of your health.
  4. Beginning your new business.
  5. Going back to school.
  6. Taking care of your mental health.

Excuses:

  1. I got bills to pay. Hell, we all have bills that are a life-given next.
  2. I don’t have good credit. Fix it, need help respond at the end of this article. Free info.
  3. I don’t have time to busy. Sorry but you simply don’t know how to manage your time, a considerable difference: Activity vs. Productivity. You can learn how to manage time efficiently.
  4. Fear! We all are afraid. Letting it stifle your growth can be debilitating.

“In times like these, it helps to recall that there have always been times like these.” –Paul Harvey

Challenges will come when we begin anything new in our lives. Learning to roll with it will advance you forward. Keeping a cool head under fire is the actual test of self. Resolution to issues comes with a cool head. No matter what stress life throws at you, learn to quiet your mind.

Meditation is a great place to begin. Give yourself this gift daily. Want more information on how to start. Respond below.

What are you waiting for?

Begin today, right now. Take a baby step but start. Don’t end your life with regret. Believing you have all the time in the world may very well be accurate. What are you doing with that gift of time? Sitting on your ass overthinking? Get up and MOVE!

“When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, ‘I used everything you gave me.’ –Erma Bombeck

Or you can say, sorry God, I meant to start! It was never the right time. 

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Nothing is ever the right time. The right time is you beginning where you are NOW. Everything you believe you don’t have can come to you at a later time. Have faith. Faith with work will yield excellent results.

Give yourself time to learn, don’t get frustrated due to lack of knowledge; you can gain time.

Lastly wish I could tell you change comes quickly. It does not. Throwing in the towel too soon is what sets apart successful people from most, is that successful folks won’t throw in the towel just because the terrain gets tough.

Excellent put their life in Four-Wheel drive and plow through!

Time can be your friend or foe. Choose to use your time wisely.

LIfe’s Why my New Book

Introduction

“Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.” –Omar Khayyam

Chapters will have some repetitive information in them. This is by design. Our philosophy is repetition helps to create a habit. Each chapter has terrific information that all ties together for one thing. You!

When you think about your life do you ponder, you simply are where you are? Does life have little meaning or joy? If you answered yes to those two simple questions, you bought the right book. Here is why.

No matter where you are in life, you can change the trajectory of your life with a few changes. Get out of your head that you “Can’t.” I am living proof you can!

The first half of my life was spent doing what I had to do, not what I wanted to do! When my life fell apart, that is when I said enough-is-enough. Age, money, time, none of this must stand in the way of life change.

From the time we are small, limiting beliefs are indoctrinated into your minds. You hear statements like, “I am too old to change; life is where it is.” “I don’t have the money.” Years of excuses that stifle our life. Choking the life right out of our dreams.

You can change. Nothing in the world is stopping you but you. Take a moment and ask yourself this question:

If money, time, and knowledge were NOT the problem. What would you do?

Everything in that question can be gained. You can find the money. You can find the time, and you can achieve the knowledge. Honest question, how willing are you to try?

“When I stand before God at the end of my life, I will hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, ‘I used everything you gave me.” –Erma Bombeck 

Everyone, including you, can move their life in a different direction. With simple paradigm shifts, you will learn in this book. Take notes and highlight essential knowledge you will gain in this book.

Here is the KEY to change. When you begin, just know you will stink at changing. It will seem complicated, clumsy, and cumbersome. TOTALLY NORMAL!

The only caveat to this:

  1. Have an open mind; you can change no matter how difficult you think change will be.
  2. Do not be discouraged from learning. Everything has a learning curve.
  3. Never listen to someone that tells you “you cannot.” Naysayers are a dime-a-dozen, dismiss them with a smile and keep it moving!
  4. Organize your life to WIN! (more inside the book)
  5. Learn the difference between “Activity vs. Productivity” and “Resources vs. Resourcefulness.” (more inside the book)

This book is a continuation of my book Digital Nomad. Learning to turn side hustles into a full-time job. Taking what you love to do and running with it. Time to do what you want to do, not what you have to do!

Excuse me, hello, excuse me. Yes, you! Can you look this way, please? You’re looking at yesterday; I need you focused forward; thank you!

Are you looking forward to TODAY? When you woke up, did your feet hit the floor with a smile on your face? Most likely not read on.

“Never let yesterday use up too much of today.”—Will Rogers

Today is all you have. Yesterday is gone, and tomorrow is just that tomorrow. So, what can you do to make today a good day? Plan for it. Have a program that has tasks that need doing today. Prepare the night before at least three things you know for sure you can accomplish in a day.

Have small successes every day. Complete tasks that will help bring about big success in whatever aspect of your life that needs help the most right now. Learn productivity vs. activity; read on, you’ll see what I mean.

What happens is we tend to get too scattered out with all the things we need to fix. Like, relationships, jobs, ourselves, bills, and the list gets bigger. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time! Apply that to your life, and you will achieve much more.

This process of change has eluded me. By appearance, just organizing aspects of our life for success seem simple. The real test is, are you doing it now? Will you stay consistent?

Here are some tasks to help you get started:

  1. Set daily reminders on your phone to alert you to functions for that day.
  2. Use apps like Google Tasks, Google Calendar; they’re free. I use them, and they help me a lot.
  3. Make time in the evening to plan out tasks (minimum 3) for the next day.
  4. DON’T PROCRASTINATE!
  5. Use a calendar to help your track deadlines. Also, a Project Management app is a great way to keep track of your progress.

Five quick things you can do today!

It’s your turn to win! Get started right now. Don’t think, DO!!!

This book is the first step. Keep going.

Where to Begin

You are coming to a point in life where the outcome thus far is a disaster. If this is you, welcome, I welcome you to the beginning of your new life. Just reading this won’t bring change. If you want this, it’s going to take some work.

Before we begin, the importance of this one thing, Patience! It cannot be understated.

“Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.”—Joyce Meyer

Without the patience to allow change to occur, you will stifle progress. My mother always told me this “it took you fifty years to break your life; give yourself time to change.” She was right, as most moms are.

Where a failure occurs, most is the lack of patience to allow change to occur. We live in the “I want it right now society.” Get that out of your head right now. Where I stumbled hard — not allowing the universe to set a new course for my life. Think of yourself as a large ship that needs turning around. It takes a wide berth to achieve a safe turn.

Beginning the process will have its trials and tribulations. Your mind will fill with self-doubt, where patience becomes a struggle. Misery loves the company, and your noodle will remind you that “we love pain, we’re comfortable here” because you are comfortable in pain. You won’t let go quickly.

We all find ourselves in reflection to have a relationship with our pain. It takes years to develop, and it will take time to employ a paradigm shift.

Here is the skinny because I can sense those saying, “I don’t like pain.” We get so comfortable that our minds and body accept it as usual. Therefore, forbearance will see you through.

Don’t get discouraged when it seems that nothing is changing — allowing change to occur. Imposing your own will over a situation only makes an excellent job more complicated than it must be. You’ve heard I’m sure on God’s time, not my time.

Change cannot come without discomfort.

Don’t quit because of trouble. Evolution is not occurring as quickly as hoped. The pain of loss or other stressors is not dissipating.  The mind is continually in a barrage of negative thoughts, self-doubt and feels as though nothing is getting better.

“I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”–Muhammad Ali

Keeping an eye towards a positive outcome. Being grateful in advance of anything manifesting good in life. Meditate on the result.

If you take a trip around the world at some point in time, weather delays, airport delays, canceled flights, lost luggage, lost hotel reservations, something will happen. The chances are high than more than once.

Would you stop at an ounce in a lifetime around the world trip over a delay? No, you deal with it and keep going!

What could you tell the younger you if you could? When you’ve drifted out into life like a space void only to look back into the abyss. You get a pit in your stomach that gives way to wow; this sucks. Not exactly the experience you envisioned as a younger you.

Hitting the last half of life looking in a rear-view mirror that looks like an apocalyptic mess. Challenging our thoughts with “what a waste.” It begins to stifle any outlook because age has overtaken youth. The idea “I’m not the same as I once was.”

If you’re boldly marching into a mid-life crisis, menopause, or qualify for an AARP® membership. This story is for you. More importantly, if life has not turned out as you planned or hoped, does this give you a feeling of doom?

Everything we’ve read self-help-wise in our lives has said to look forward never look back. Easier said than done but perfectly accurate.

Over three years ago, I faced the questions I am posing to you now and staring divorce in the face that at the time, I did not want. With that situation at hand, my mind forced me to look back over my life. What I saw was not the beautiful painting I had hoped it would be — instead, everything past has illuminated for me to see very clearly — damned ugly!

The real kicker is a good bit; you don’t want to change, but the ugly is ugly. This also brings up a nasty, more hideous question because of the situation currently adding to our loss or stress.

Not only is loss bringing pain, but so is life as we’ve lived it to date. As you often see in text messages, WTF!

Where do we go from here? How can you pick yourself up out of hell and gaze into the mirror and say, I love you?

The strength needed to face you is perhaps the solidity you’ve searched for all your life. The power that comes from faith the best is yet to come and believe it. Facing you in the mirror. What do you see?

The choices of what you see can be boundless when in the depths of pain. The pain can become so unbearable that terrible darkness can overtake your thoughts. Damn, what a dark place. Are you sufficiently depressed?

Here is where we learn what advice we would have given our younger self. From this fountain of youth comes wisdom to carry us into our Senior years with a new brighter outlook. The struggle to realize life was not over. It merely takes recalibration of our thoughts.

The most important thing is to not stress over your why. It will come to you, and the most crucial aspect of all of this is to allow life to roll off your shoulders. Do not harbor fear, doubt, and stress.

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RV Fun How to Get Started

Getting outdoors and enjoying life. If you are new to camping, this article will help you decide to get outside and have some fun.

Whether you’re a single traveler or a family looking to have fun. Camping will give you lifelong memories to cherish for years to come.

Parents, your children will be telling stories to their children about camping with Grandma & Grandpa. How much fun or silliness was had while camping? What beautiful, majestic views are embedded in your mind.

A couple of fun ways to camp. Primitive camping under the stars or in a tent. RV camping in a travel trailer, fifth wheel, or motorhome. Today we are going to discuss RV camping.

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Choosing an RV for your family is easier than you might think. A couple simple questions to get you started:

  1. How many people will you need to sleep camping?
  2. What is your tow vehicle’s capability?

With just those two questions answered, we can begin our search.

Families, for example. A bunkhouse model travel trailer or fifth wheel is family-friendly coaches. The bunk area sleeps kids of all ages and gives your child a spot all their own.

Many trailers offer separate areas for children so mom and dad can have some privacy. Parent sleeping areas are typically RV queen-size beds with enough closet-style space for vacation clothes.

The whole idea with a camper is to have a place to clean up, cook a meal and get a good night’s sleep. Time spent having fun is the call of the day!

Keep in mind the place you want to travel to. Make sure the camper you choose can go where you want to go. For example, state and national parks do have size restrictions. Also, where bears or predator animals are present. You can’t have soft-side walls or pop-up campers.

Campers also allow for outfitting the trailer with everything you need. Home away from home! Privacy and it’s yours meaning you know it’s clean and sanitary. With the scare of COVID-19, you can rest easy knowing that your family is the only person sleeping in the bed. I have moms tell me why they love campers because they know their baby’s areas are clean.

Family pets can also easily travel. Many campers in today’s market have built-in pet crates typically located at the main bed base. Keep in mind that traveling with pets, you have to keep an extra careful eye for predator animals. Letting your dog run off-leash that is not well trained to the command of coming back is not a good idea.

Pets will protect owners, and you certainly don’t want that to end up in tragedy. Keep in mind that people camp and hike with pets all the time, safely! Just keep a mindful eye to keep curious pets from harm’s way.

Weekend warriors with dirt bikes, ATV vehicles will love what the RV industry calls a Toy Hauler. The name says it all. This RV is designed to carry your toys; from motorized to kayaks, the garage will hold your outdoor gear.

Another fun use for your camper is a guest house during the holidays. Now the family can travel to you without the added expense of hotels. Also makes excellent mother-in-law quarters.

She shed or man cave if you could hook up at home. Home office, kids play area, the uses are numerous. Your camper can be utilized for many fun uses.

If you have questions we would love to help: