COVID-19 Wearing a Mask

Two months ago, I was diagnosed positive for COVID-19. At first, the ER was sending me home with medication. On the third trip, I could hardly breathe and so the nightmare began.

After an hour or so in the emergency room of my local hospital, the doctor decided it was time to transfer me to a larger hospital. Transported by ambulance, the real challenges began upon arrival.

In this article, I will not go into detail that is forthcoming in a new book. However, I do want to touch on something I believe to be crucial information.

Now that I am out of the hospital and free of COVID-19. The residual from the disease is a lot to deal with. For example, breathing is a challenge—foggy times when I try to talk, type, or work. Lose my place in my head.

The few times that I have gone out in public, I am amazed at how many people do not wear a mask or social distance. Let me be obvious I don’t want to wear a mask either. However, if by the smallest measure it does help prevent someone from getting the disease, what is the big deal?

I can’t tell you with any real measure of accuracy that a mask does anything to help. What I can tell you is that not being able to breathe without laboring to do so is much worse than wearing a mask.

COVID-19 is nothing to play with. Even when the rules seem cumbersome to follow, the alternative is much worse. I am damn lucky to be home and was not expected to survive. So many people have not been able to return home to family. Don’t become a statistic.

None of us want to contract the disease. You may or may not get it. Just do all you can to prevent contracting the disease. It’s truly not asking to much!

Wear a mask where necessary, social distance and wash your hands frequently.

You can wear this mask or do what you can to prevent getting sick:

Getting Rid of Self-Doubt

Things to Get Rid of Self Doubt

We all suffer from self-doubt. For years and years, we are indoctrinated with limiting beliefs of ourselves.

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How would you like to get rid of self-doubt?

Here are my top 10 ways to assist with getting rid of self-doubt:

  1. Whatever you doubt about yourself, knowledge will help you overcome it. Learn about your fear; knowledge conquers all!
  2. Organize your life down to the last detail. When energy is scattered to the wind, so is your mind. Know every day what you want to achieve and follow that. When you organize your life also includes downtime. Balance!
  3. Patience. Learn that not everything in your life is going to happen just this moment. Allow yourself to be okay with “at your pace.” Nothing in life is a horse race that must be completed this very second. Learn to roll with the flow of energy and be okay with it. You do not know how life is moving the future to allow for your change to occur. Think about that a moment.
  4. Run your life’s race, not society’s interpretation of your life. Don’t compare your life to others.
  5. Journal your life. Write down what you achieved that day and what you could have done better. Use this to help you gain more focus. Remember, this is not work to be graded but allow yourself a clear picture of your life; writing can be incredibly healing.
  6. The past needs to stay in the past. If you are a better person today, than you were in your past, well done. Even when others including family, may remind you of past indiscretions. Focus on your positive change. The most tremendous success you can be is overcoming a jaded past. The past does not define who you are today unless you let it.
  7. Let naysayers roll off your back. Just because someone thinks you cannot do something that does not ever define, you cannot! Two know whether you can or cannot achieve. You and God period. Never allow someone to talk you out of something your heart tells you is doable.
  8. Setbacks are temporary, never permanent. A setback simply means go back to your map and find a new way.
  9. Celebrate the smallest win. If you achieve something, celebrate it. Remember how it feels!
  10. Change course when you must. The path can sometimes lead to a dead-end. However, that does not mean the destination cannot be reached another way.

Self-doubt can plague any life to the point of giving up. Utilize the tools above, find your own, and kick some ass. Knowledge of a thing will allow you to overcome any obstacle. When we understand, we achieve!

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Begin Where You Are

“He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.”–Friedrich Nietzsche

Do you think you cannot start because:

  • I don’t have money.
  • I don’t have a degree.
  • I don’t have time.
  • I am too old.
  • I don’t know the right people.
  • I am afraid.

You can talk yourself out of anything. Putting up roadblocks at every turn. Not to mention the naysayers that will tell you, “you can’t.”

What if you could???

What if you could do anything you set your mind to?

Would you try it?

Think about this for a moment. Other than maybe naysayers who say you cannot write a novel, open a flower shop, become a designer or any other thing you might want to become? You!

You do not have anyone other than yourself who knows for sure if you can change any aspect of your life. Just you and God have that answer. Think about that for a moment. Perhaps you have a colorful past; maybe you did not finish school. Nothing says, nor is anything stopping you other than yourself.

Forget the BS naysayers. If you listen to them, you will not get a damn thing accomplished. Be nice, say thank you and move on with the tasks at hand.

Begin by taking a notebook and pen and write out exactly what you would love to do with your life.

First, make sure you take these out of the equation:

  1. Money is NOT the problem.
  2. Time is NOT the problem.
  3. Knowledge is NOT the problem (you can gain that).

This exercise is hard to complete and may take some time. For many, the blockades you put before yourself are hard to set aside. They have become your reality, but only in your mind. That can change with time and knowledge.

Write out what you want to achieve with your life now.

If time money, and knowledge are not your problems, what are you? So, let’s fix that.

People fail for many reasons, but the biggest reason is emotional pain brought on by us. Meaning you, just like a Marathon runner, hit a wall, whereby emotional pain becomes too difficult to withstand. So, you think!

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When we begin anything new in our life, we are going to stink. Until you learn to ride a bike, you may have to take a spill or two. Skinned knees and elbows will only hurt for a time. Once you master riding the bike all is well.

Patience is the first skill to master. Without patience, you will become overwhelmed, frustrated, and quit. Master this skill and you will absolutely change your life forever!

Several things help us to focus our minds. We can develop patience. Learn to breathe (focused breathing), walk, get outside, and blow off some steam. Meditation is a beautiful way to still your mind.

Learning to still your mind will also help you learn patience. Take time to meditate daily. Game changer!

Be grateful where you are now. Healthy, have a job, have a car that runs, a loving family, or good friends. Lots to be thankful for today.

When your parents would tell you that “knowledge is power.” Brother, nothing could be more authentic! Knowledge can be gained in many ways. You don’t need a formal education to gain experience.

  1. Get to a library.
  2. Attend a seminar.
  3. Join groups that study that which you are trying to learn.
  4. Look for a Mentor.
  5. Go to a College Library.
  6. College Bookstores are filled with books they currently teach from.
  7. Internet search.
  8. White papers on the subject you are studying.

Self-taught is POWERFUL!

When you understand fully any subject, you can achieve that which your heart desires. Nothing can stop you if you know how to do _______. Learn!!!

Like we discussed early in the article, you can talk yourself out of anything. Fear of the unknown will stifle your life to the point you accept status-quo. For me, three years ago, I said enough-is-enough.

With no clear path to begin but a desire to achieve instead of accepting life as you understand it to be today. My long road to creation began. You have to start, move, go, try, fail, but never give in to “I can’t.”

Set a course by doing the first exercise in the article. Take time to gain the knowledge necessary to achieve what you desire. Life will throw curveballs, do not give in to the pain. You can take more than you think; remember, knowledge is power. Keep learning!

Learn the difference between:

Activity vs. Productivity

Resources vs. Resourcefulness

You are never what you have come to accept yourself to be (today).

You are MORE!

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Change The World Around You

One thing is for sure in this tumultuous world. It is a ride! Something akin to a twirl-and-hurl ride at the carnival. How do we survive in a chaotic world?

“Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” –Francis of Assisi

None of us can avoid the bilge ever-present on the internet. Cannot view the news, go on social media, listen to others in conversations without hearing negative remarks. Americans pitted against Americans. Are we not all on the same side, or at least supposed to be???

Enough of this, I say. Let’s spell out a few things we can all do to remove ourselves from negative thoughts and change the world. The world around us anyway! Unless you are being called by some political moniker, Congressman _____, Senator ______, then I imagine the only real change you can be a part of is the world around you.

What do I mean, you ask?

  • Can you offer up a smile?
  • Can you offer up a lending hand, volunteer?
  • Can you not get caught up in rhetoric, offer solutions NOT more hate, gossip, etc.

Instead of talking about the world’s problems, do something about the world’s problems around you.

  1. Plant a fruit tree in a public space so all can pick from it. With permission, of course, find an available space that would allow you to plant a fruit tree.
  2. Teach families in need how to grow a garden for fresh food. Most folks could do this right in the back yard. Or again, find a public space that would allow for a community garden.
  3. Could you teach a class for free at the public library?
    How to create a great Resume
    How to overcome fear
    How to start your own business on a shoestring budget
    How to write a book and publish it
    How to be a good leader
    How to be a better parent
  4. What about educating yourself? Reinvent YOU!
  5. What could you do to lower your carbon footprint?

Plenty of ideas to get you started thinking about how you could change the world around you. Because when we are honest with ourselves, that is truly all we can change is the world around us—our circle of the planet.

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Instead of burning everything to the ground, causing havoc and chaos. Would it not make more sense to fix what we can?

Being a mental health awareness month, I felt this article was spot on. Seeing so many folks simply lose their mind over things they have absolutely NO control over. It would be nice to have total faith in one’s Government, but throughout history, that is just not the case.

Taking care of our own little corner of the world makes way more sense.

Seeing the video floating around of the young women screaming at the top of their voice. Making a spectacle of themselves and being the butt of jokes all over the world. As you read this, my guess you know precisely which memes I speak of.

When you think about those type of moments, what did they achieve? Other than the fallout from the humiliation of doing something you live to regret.

Again, this begs the question, was it worth it?

Before you jump off into the deep blue sea of controversy, ask yourself some questions before you believe anything you read or hear:

  1. If you hear something that boils your mind. Is the person you are hearing it from credible, and do they have an underlying agenda? Make sure the information is without bias.
  2. Is there anything at all you can indeed do about that which you have heard? Other than changing the world around you.
  3. Is losing your joy, doing something stupid worth it? Or could you change the world around you for the better?

“A man always has two reasons for doing anything: a good reason and the real reason.”—JP Morgan

Fundamentally we all want the same thing:

  1. Quality of Life
  2. At my age Peace-of-Mind
  3. Happy family
  4. Warm Home
  5. Good paying Job or Business

We are Americans and suppose to be on the same team. Here is what happens with Government:

  1. Each election cycle, one or the other party will tear down that which the other did during their reign in office. Therefore, we are at square one again.
  2. Each election cycle, you hear the same promises:
    “It’s the dawn of a new era.”
    “Together, we will be better.”
    “Lower Taxes.”
    “We will provide better care for your family.”

None of these things ever have lasting value because every 4 to 8 years someone new comes into power. If it happens to be a different political party, we get to start over. With words strong like “Repeal.”

For me, therefore, I simply try and change the world around me. I figure no matter who is in the office, if I can somehow bring a better me to the world, I can change what I can. This way I don’t have to lose my mind over things I have no control over.

The one thing I do contribute is my Vote. That is the extent of my voice but not the extent of my reach. By helping others, lending a hand, I can in some measure, change the world. Now imagine that by millions of people!

So, we are clear:

  • I do not like career politicians.
  • I want clean air and a good healthy environment.
  • Good schools, good roads, and stable infrastructure.
  • Quality land management over our natural resources.

Alluding back to what can you or I do to facilitate our common goal?

How can we, as Americans, hurt one another? Just because we believe differently does not make us mortal enemies. It just makes us different. You give a little, I offer a little and somewhere we find common ground to stand on.

More to the point, how can you allow current events to overtake your life and mental joy? Nothing in our lives is solved with a hateful, stress-filled heart. Problems are solved with calm, cool heads. I am evidence of this fact.

My own life, when I learned to not fight monsters in the closet that simply was not there, I began to find peace. Finding peace has moved my life in ways I never dreamed could be with a grateful heart of what is yet to come.

Find peace in yourself; life will come to find you in meaningful, joyful and happy ways. God bless you!

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