When you’re focused on surviving, you will forget to dream. How can we turn that around? Are you ready to turn it around?
If so then read these few short bursts of wisdom that you can put into place right now. Those of you that read me know that “there is NO tomorrow, we have to get on it today.”
Survive mode is filled with fear, limiting beliefs, and of course, this stifles any progress. It’s way easier said than done to get from survival mode to actually have hope. Living paycheck-to-paycheck with one foot in ruin and the other on a banana peel.
This is something I suffer through most of my adult life. How do we get past the oppression of our own minds?
Here are some quick things you can begin right now:
Set reminders every day in your phone to alert you to stop and breathe. Take sixty seconds to relax and breathe. Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth in a relaxed posture.
Take time daily to meditate. Learn to quiet your mind and focus on gratitude, hope, desires, and peace. Even if you cannot see any way to find any of these things in your own life. Just trust that it’s coming. The how is not essential the FAITH that it’s happening you have all that you desire. Do this, and the how will come!
Prayer is more powerful than anything else that you can try. Praying in faith that God has you! In my darkest moments, I just keep saying over-and-over “God has me, God has me.” This too is something that you may not see an answer, don’t look for it just recognize that whatever you pray for is coming to pass.
When you do these few things consistently and with indeed an open heart. The HOW will find you. Don’t give into “well, there is just no way this is ever going to work out.” Keep saying that and you’re right!
Lesson learned for me was to trust that God has control, and every month, what I need is provided. Somehow life works out, so I am okay. It may be a close shave, but somehow, everything I need at that moment is provided.
Making excuses over-and-over again solves nothing. If you have nothing, no hope, what the heck do you have to lose by just trying? You don’t have to believe 100% to work, the belief will come. Take a step move forward; life is waiting!
You can dream, you can have hope you can be happy! Begin by just saying to yourself, “I am not losing anymore.”
Three things to begin to break the bondage of life. You cannot give up, this is going to take work, crying, kicking, screaming, and praying! We’ve all been there, and no person is alone. Reach out.
If I asked you to make a choice right now to be happy, but you’re suffering through a terrible divorce. Could you be satisfied just by making that choice? The short answer is yes! Before you hit the refund, button hears me out.
What stops you from choosing to be happy in a moment is you. I should say years of conditioning yourself that you can’t just simply change. Why can’t you? Should be the real question.
Let’s take our divorce scenario to a little higher level. If divorce is imminent even though you don’t want a divorce.
Stay bitter, sad, emotionally done, not having any thought as to a new future.
“Choose” to be happy. Yes, the person whom your life revolved around is gone. The Universe, in its infinite wisdom, is taking you down a new path. Presuppose for a moment that this new life if given a chance, has more love, joy, happiness, and fulfillment than you ever thought possible.
If you choose to be happy, “Option B” certainly has more promise. The simple act of choosing one from another is incredibly powerful.
Over a year ago someone that I am proud to call a friend explained away my own pain from divorce like this: “If you could have your wife back today and go right back to the way things were, OR, you could have the relationship you never thought possible. Which would you choose?”
That’s when I knew that I had to make a choice for myself. If something in your life is meant to be, then it shall.
The real rub is that for years-and-years, we conditioned our minds towards limiting beliefs. We end up saying:
If I just change, she will come back.
If I learn to keep my mouth shut.
If I lose twenty pounds.
The problem is NOT you, it’s the paradigm that is so entrenched in your head you can’t shake it off. Using the divorce analogy just scrapes the surface of this problem. This book is not a “how to get over divorce” book. NO, far from it.
How to change limiting beliefs, the unknowing lies we tell ourselves every day. What our journey well reveals to us, we can make a choice and move on, NOW!
Yes, friends easier said than done. However, very doable. With some guided practice, you can learn to decide, stick with it, no regrets, and blaze a trail for others to follow. Pardon the cliché!
How do you we make these changes you ask? Training our minds to a new healthy reality. Who says you can’t do something; you need only look in the mirror? That’s who!
How many years have you heard phrases like?
You/I don’t have that kind of luck.
No education, you can’t do that.
You’re too fat.
You’re too skinny.
You’re not part of that social group.
Oh, honey, why don’t you lower your sights to something more realistic.
From as many years ago as you’re able to remember we’ve all heard the limiting phrases getting stuffed into our mind.
What is being communicated to you is, “If I can’t do you surely cannot.” By well-meaning parents, family, friends, and other well-wishers. So, if these lovely people are telling me this, it must be true. NO, not only NO; HELL NO!
The only person on this planet that knows whether YOU can do anything is YOU! It does not matter what your Mom, Dad, Grandmother, Friend, Boss, has to say about what you can do. The ONLY person that knows is your period!
People close to you will naturally want you to play it safe. None of us want to see a friend hurt. Who the heck says you must hurt? I’m not shouting at the top of my lungs “oh God, don’t write the first Novel you failed English literature.”
Again, I go back to the systematic brainwashing society shoves down our brain. How many folks have completed Marathons in wheelchairs or with lost limbs? Hundreds if not thousands. Why Choice! The choice NOT to allow something horrific to bring them down.
Mediocrity is a disease of the mind. It’s a cure; “Choice!”
How to break free, so Choice comes at will.
Meditation / Prayer: see yourself through this practice as free of limitation. That my life, my choice to see it through as a vessel of the Universe. Not some, “I don’t have this or that mentality.”
Put the affirmation “Choice” Refrigerator, bathroom mirror, reminders on your phone daily.
Learn to believe in yourself. Take the training wheels off your life. When you feel you can’t do something learn to ask yourself; who said! With enough training and knowledge, you can bloody well do anything you want!
Practice, Practice, Practice! Do not give up or in at the first sign of difficulty. This is something you must want as much as air. We’ve all heard the businessman who asked a guru “how do I become successful,” the Guru replied, “meet me at the beach at 6:00 AM and don’t be late.” The next morning the businessman is on time, and the Guru takes him out into the water up to there chest. The Guru grabs the man and holds his head down in the water until the man was in great distress. Lifting the man out of the water, the businessman screams, “Why did you do that?” The Guru calmly replies, “When you want success as-bad-as, you wanted to breathe, then you will find success!”
Gain knowledge. The reason people quit is insufficient knowledge. If people aren’t saying to you, “Wow, I have no idea you could do that.” If the wow factor is not WOW, then gain more knowledge. Become a voracious reader.
Nothing on God’s good earth prevents you from achieving anything. If you set your mind to something, trust that God will give you the knowledge, and move the Universe into alignment for you. Believe that as much as you want to breathe (like our Guru analogy).
All it takes is a choice. Your choice to stay status quo or your choice to live a life most would only dream about.
“Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.”–Bradley Whitford
There is NO plan B! If you want to succeed throw plan b the hell out the window. Plan B puts doubt in your head. Meaning you have an out if what I am doing now fails.
Burn The Ship was born from an idea that originated in 1519. That year, Hernán Cortés set sail to Veracruz, Mexico with his crew. … As legend has it, Cortez had the men burn their ships, leaving no option but to press on! Their ability to retreat to their previous way of life was gone; their safety net had been removed.
Exit strategy no, have your plan that includes income to take care of your family. If you have a family when you jump, make sure you have income sufficient to support your family. When I say no plan b, I also mean don’t be stupid. Have your plan so well thought out, you have all your contingencies covered.
Failing shows the path NOT to travel. You back up and go a new way. Fail, back up to a new direction until you find the way! Learn to be comfortable in your pain. Pain shows us where not to be, but points us in a new direction if you find comfort in your pain. You don’t break! You improvise.
“When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, ‘I used everything you gave me.”–Erma Bombeck
Burn the damn boats. Either believe or don’t. It’s that simple. If you don’t wholly believe in your dream, rethink your vision.
Work your ass off. Want to fail? Buy into the BS you can succeed in thirty days. Plenty of bullshit programs on late night TV to sell you garbage dreams. You need to get a vision that allows for failure with NO plan b. Burn the boats. Improvise, adapt and overcome.
Learn that what you put in is what you get out. Be honest with yourself that if you’re not getting what you want, YOU can change that outcome. There is no plan b, there is today, don’t worry for tomorrow kick ass today so you can have a tomorrow.
We can stay the person we are today, or we can burn the damn boats and make a life.
“A life that in the end God even says wow dude if I were going to live a life I would come back as you.”–Robert Bruton
What to learn before you throw plan-b out:
Activity vs. Productivity, learn the difference!
Resources vs. Resourcefulness.
Failure, delays, obstacles, on the other side, is your success.
Visualize, see yourself already having achieved your goal.
Gratitude, be grateful where you are now and grateful for what is coming.
Learn to master these few things, and you will rocket ship your success.
With the changing season of my life, wow is life opening up. As you know from reading my blog, I have made an obvious choice to try something new in my life. To stand in a spiritual faith walk with my soul and not my head that will direct my life. Keep my “will” out and trusting in faith. Of course, I do work to move my life.
Trusting in faith is not laying on your backside eating a pizza waiting for the pilot of your Jet to call and say “hey where are we going boss today?” We still have to get up, work, do things to fill our minds and body with good energy. Focus daily on walking our path with God. So far that has worked out in ways I never imagined.
Sure it hurts the reasons that got me here are painful. I mourn the loss of what I had hoped would be a lifetime. It most days makes no sense to me as to why we can’t make the wrong in our life right. Working from the premise that all things happen for a reason. Then letting go to allow destiny to unfold has been a challenge. This time I am resolute in not losing. God has a purpose for my life, so let’s see what that is.
I wish I could say that God sits at the end of my couch with me and says “Bob this will be your destiny” as he explains it all to me. Sorry, but it doesn’t work that way.
The challenge for me has been not to make things happen but allow things to happen. As a salesperson all my life it’s hard not to jump in and sell God this is what is needed right now. Having the ability to discern between my will and God’s will sometimes take a bit of time. Asking myself is this really what God wants me to do? Where patience comes in, and an open heart must be available to receive. The big challenge for me!
What I have done to step up to that challenge is be resolved this time I am not going to lose. That my way got me here, so maybe trying God’s way will change my life forever. That all the promises in the Bible I choose to receive. I’m not a big organized religion person, but I do believe in God. Over the last few years I got away from my spiritual journey, go WAY off the path. Today my feet are firmly planted on the trail.
Decide that it’s a new day. Life will begin to relax for you. Months ago I had a mountain of debt, tax troubles, and seemingly no real way out. Since my decision that I need help, spiritual help, which God needs to pretty much pull the wagon. To his glory, all the financial problems that seemed insurmountable are in fact manageable. Through God’s grace, my credit is excellent, all bills paid on time deals made to lighten the burden done.
All I did was work as I should every day. Releasing all of it to God. Told God that this was too big for me to do on my own and asked for help. Help arrived at God’s timing teaching me that the world was not blowing up, that my problems are not the most pressing issues on the planet. When it was time, everything was paid or delayed enough to allow me time to overcome obstacles to my advantage.
Stress over all the problems I just let go to God. Surrender is the hardest part. Our heads tell us to get in the game fix the issues. Our leader is what got us here in the first place. Do the work, tell God what you need so you can feel better. Never beg! “Please, please God help me pay my rent.” No, be grateful that he already has. Call it in as though it were already don’t. Grateful!!!
It would be nice to tell you it’s not a struggle to change. It is, and you will go through some real pain, doubt, and frustration. Well before you find real peace. Don’t despair; we all did and got through. Many days I have self-doubt and struggle. The times I do feel at peace or do receive a blessing it’s far more than I imagined it would be. Sometimes, God indeed shows out in your life! Those are the times when you feel connected spiritually.
Whatever you do never quit, pursue faith with all your soul can muster. The pain is the enemy trying to keep you down. It is not God testing you, it’s the enemy wanting you to be miserable. Do not let anyone sway your journey of faith; it’s worth every moment of your time.
Breaking through the tough moments in faith, God finds ways to open up possibilities that you never dream possible. I am living proof!