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Today be Present in the Moment

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Being present in the moment is something I learned later in life and at some cost. Life can get hectic, bills, stress at work, you could fill in dozens of more distractions.

What do we mean by being present in the moment? If your children are tugging on you to pay attention to them. When your mind is somewhere else, focused on how you’re going to pay the rent, for example. Kids can sense when you’re not paying total attention.

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Even a spouse can sense when you are not really there. The mind is sifting through tons of garbage, not what is at hand. Just, not paying attention.

It’s easy to justify the stress overtaking the moment. “If I don’t focus on my work, we don’t eat.” That very well may be true to a point. Eight o’clock at night business is closed, you can give your spouse, or children some of your time.

Being able to be present at the moment with family is precious. You can’t get back time, ever! What I learned the hard way is that your stress will be there in the morning, why not leave it at the front door. Easier said than done!

Here are some things I do today so that I can be present at the moment:

  1. Stress if I allow overtaking my brain, makes matters worse. Learn to harness your fear. If you freak out, that is precisely what your Universe will deliver to you!
  2. Meditate daily. Learn to relax, focus your mind. It’s in these moments solutions will come to you. Peace will come to you!
  3. Breathe, you heard me breathe. During the day, stop and breathe. Take a couple deep cleansing breaths and then breath in through the nose and out through the mouth. Do this for about a minute only. Try it you will be amazed.
  4. Prioritize time for your family. They’re way more important than ANYTHING else you could be focused on. Happy breeds Happy in your home! You bring the stress and guess what, that’s what the family gets, stress. Stop it!
  5. Take a walk. I am not talking about going to the gym to take a step. Get outside and clear your head. Enjoy the world around you. Learn to relax. Walking helps to do this. This is not a workout walk, this is holding the hand of your spouse walk.

Don’t put this off until tomorrow, next month, you need to give this gift to yourself. Time is more precious than we imagine while stressed out. If you can’t be present at the moment for your family voluntarily, what would happen if heaven forbid you were forced to focus. A health reason, someone got injured, you could find time then.

Don’t waste this precious time in your life focused on the bills, work stress, hell everyone has that. Give those that love you, YOU! Don’t tell your children you’re too busy. Don’t tell your spouse you’re too busy.

Unaquivicably, I can tell you that all the stress, worry, I brought too my life didn’t make tinkers damn in the final outcome. Meaning, it only brought more of the same full frontal stress!

Stop at the moment breathe, smile, and enjoy.

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Five Things to Change your Life NOW!

/ Robert Bruton / 2 Comments

“If you can dream it, you can do it.”—Walt Disney 

If life is not where you want it to be. Here are five things you can do that are easy to start and take no money just your time. Making an investment towards your own success has long-range benefits.

Take care to understand that with change comes the challenge. The current life paradigms most have are self-defeatist. As a society, we tend to look to the dark because it’s easier to believe. The constant barrage of negative news, people around us, saying you can’t do that. So, it’s not a wonder we all struggle from time-to-time.

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Some of the things on the list you will have to research a bit to learn to do, the real point starting! Don’t worry about how to, look forward to a beautiful result.

Don’t stay status quo. It will take real effort for change to last and for happiness to prevail. The old you will want to stay status quo, but the new you will plow through doubt and frustration.

If you give up the enemy wins. Everything in your head will be discomfort. It passes with time, and your life can be happy. You must decide, and you have to do it. Don’t listen to Nay-Sayers.

This is in no particular order.

Here is a list of 5 things you can start today to change your life now:

  1. Breathe, yes that’s right just breathe. A couple of times per day, stop get quiet and breath in through your nose and out of your mouth. Deep relaxing breaths. A couple of minutes is all it takes.
  2. Taking time to relax and meditate. I’m not talking about changing what I am suggesting is relax and focus on nothing. Clear your head! There is a reason meditation is called a meditation practice. It takes time to learn, but it’s super easy. You can find meditation music on YouTube® (use headphones). Find a place where you can relax and learn to meditate.
  3. Get off your butt and walk. Walking relieves stress and will help you clear your mind. Breathe in the fresh air and soak up some sunshine.
  4. Do something beautiful for someone for no reason. Make a difference in someone’s life. Leave a huge tip, give to a food bank, deliver to a church, volunteer at an animal shelter, just to do something to be a change in the world. Without expectation!
  5. If your workspace is a mess if your house is a mess. Clean it up! The state of your home or office chances are is the state of your mind. Declutter your life. If you struggle just do one room at a time. Take small steps, but step!

Life struggles can be debilitating. Curling up in bed, being a hermit at home, blowing off friends and family. Today is the day that all STOPS. Take one thing on this list and do it RIGHT NOW!

Overthinking kills. It’s easy to say we don’t have time, don’t have money, don’t know how. Hell, we all suffer the same. Don’t worry about how to look towards the result. The how will come! Take the first step right now. If you don’t then expect the same crappy result, you’ve been getting. This is about change get off your ass and do one small thing right now. Go!

Remember that change comes to those willing to fight through old paradigms. Your head will jack with you hard. What you think is the voice in your head saying “you can’t” (the enemy will deceive you) this is where you get out of your head and open your heart. Breathing, meditation and prayer will all help you live from your soul.

Hope will open life in new surprising ways. Get out of your head and into your heart (I think that’s a song lyric). Don’t worry about how to, worry about the result. This must become your life’s mantra.

Lasting change comes with the first step. So, take the first step right now and begin the journey.

God bless you; I pray that you find peace and prosperity in your life. I believe you have the power to change your life to be anything you envision it to be. Stay in faith!

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