Kick Horrors of Fear in the Gut, Strength, Courage is Yours NOW!

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.”–Eleanor Roosevelt

Facing fear comes in many forms. It also is indoctrinated into our psyche over years and years. We play into it when difficulties overtake our life. When the bombardment of “I can’t” “this is too hard” become so overwhelming in our minds.

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Just as the quote states we live through a horror.

The excellent news is the strength you need is within you. It’s not hard to tap into when you discipline yourself to overcome the challenge. Here are some daily rituals I do that help me get through:

  • Stop and just breathe. Take sixty seconds and breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth. Breathing will relieve tension in your body. This makes a measurable change in your body. 
  • Walk. Just get out and walk for a bit. Again relieving stress in your muscles will clear your mind. It’s incredible how this works. Walk up a flight of stairs, walk down the street, just get out and walk.
  • Meditate. Learn to quiet your mind. Meditation can help you focus your mind on positive. There is a reason it’s called a meditation practice. Do this often, set designated times to practice your meditation. 
  • Grateful. Be grateful for what you have and for what is coming. Thank God for the blessing he is moving into your life. 
  • Pray. Don’t beg, pray. “Please God get me through this, please” NO! Give to God what you need, what he needs to guide you. Show him you’re grateful for it and let him do the rest. 

You can overcome adversity, fear, you name it you can overcome. It takes work, it takes some pain, it takes real desire. You can do it! I have to push every day to overcome huge fears. Someday’s the journey seems too much. That’s the time take one more step, do one more thing forward. This makes all the difference.

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Secrets About Love the Government Is Hiding

“I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars.”–Og Mandino
This quote brings perspective to life, it’s all how you look at life, love, and happiness.

Have you failed in love, lost a relationship maybe even several. Has love eluded you as though it were some ultra-secret Government project? Romantic love, self-love, love of life, love, love, love!!!

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Love sets our world on its axis. Love can bring us to the brink of total self-destruction. Yet we seek it with a passion an unwavering passion. Imagine bringing to bear this same passion in all aspects of our lives. Think about when love has involved the level of intensity and commitment you bring to it?

Romantic love brings out the very best, but it can bring out the very worst in people. Love blinds our judgment at times. Yet we continue to move towards the train tracks when everyone is screaming the train is coming. Will walk right out on those train tracks in pursuit of love.

When it comes to love, romantic love is often times where love begins and ends. Yet love should permeate our life experience in all we do. Love should guide our personal journey. Keep in the back of your mind reading this article the power of love. Think about your level of commitment to the pursuit of romantic love.

What seems to hide from most of us. Loving ourselves, loving the life we’ve carved out for ourselves. The passion with which we chisel out our experience. The masterpiece we hope it to be.

Of course, we love our family and children. When I talk about love or just about anything that has to do with life. Take the family out of the equation (not in the wrong way). Everyone loves their children, spouses with all their heart.

The real question is, do you love yourself as much as you love someone else? The same love you show for your child, do you give yourself that same level of devotion? If you don’t have a child, it can be a parent, spouse or even a pet.

Do you love yourself with the same level that you like others?

The fact is being happy with yourself, bringing a glad you to this world. That’s where the real blessings begin. Where you find those hidden secrets to life that appear to be the most heavily guarded government secrets.

How do we find self-love you ask?

  1. Spirituality. Get connected to God, the Universe, a higher power. Learn where your soul lives!
  2. Meditation, get connected with your conscious and sub-conscious mind. Learn to quiet the mind so you can receive.
  3. Breathe! Yep, I said it, learn to take breaks during your day to breathe. The power of this sixty-second time for you is immeasurable. It relaxes your mind and lets go of tension.
  4. Yoga. If you’ve never tried Yoga, then let me invite you for a fantastic surprise. Go try a few classes, you will get hooked!
  5. Make an investment in yourself. Video’s, books, classes, anything that uplifts your own spirit.

These five things are a great start. Learning to love yourself can be a daunting challenge. We’ve all done things in our lives that we wished we hadn’t. Guilt and self-loathing can rear their ugly heads to help us kick our own ass. It doesn’t have to be that way. Speaking from my personal experience here.

Here is my take on the past. If you are not doing the same things, you did in the past. Living your life in a healthy positive direction. It’s time to let yourself out of history and into your new life. It’s okay to love yourself, even with a past. Hell, we all have a past, if you’ve changed let it go.

Past indiscretions are not life sentences. Not doing the same things that were done in the past is your salvation to a new life. Let it go to God, never do it again, and you can have peace. This is a big one for me. If people in your life can’t see the change, you’ve made or want to hang on to the past. Don’t let that steal your joy.

If you have friends or family still holding onto your past. Not much you can do about that.

Loving ourselves begins with a first step. My challenge to you is to make the first step right now. Don’t think about it, start. Take one action today.

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Why Happies are the Secret Ingredient

“Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.”–Dale Carnegie 

To begin a real change in our lives the fact that happiness dictates all. Coming to terms with joy is a choice. If you want to be happy, then be happy it’s that easy.

Most of us struggle to be happy. My thoughts on this from my own experience, we have been conditioned to believe that if it’s too easy, it’s cheap, not real, not worth it. We all see things to good to be true usually are. So when happy is just a simple change in mindset, then I believe subconsciously we stray.

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In my mind, you must recondition your mind to be happy. It’s what I work on daily. To be candid, it’s been a struggle. Part of it has been a lack of knowledge that happiness is a choice state-of-mind. It can rush upon you for moments sure.

Here is some daily to-do’s to help find happiness:

  1. Change your thoughts (yes sometimes easier said than done) try and think about things that bring you joy. Make a conscious effort daily. Retrain the brain!
  2. Walk. Get out and walk even if it’s just down the street and back. Let your body let go of stress. Walking relieves tension.
  3. Breathe for at least one minute a few times a day. In through the nose and out through the mouth to relax.
  4. Make sure your body posture is shoulders back standing tall. Don’t slump.
  5. Meditate and see through your minds-eye yourself happy, smiling and laughing.
  6. Laugh!!!

Do any number of these or all if you can. Daily! Set reminders in your phone to remind you to an activity. Then do it!

If you retrain your thoughts towards a happy state-of-mind, guess what? You will begin to call upon yourself to be happy. Yes, there will be times of stress but training your thoughts will make them fewer and farther between.

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Why the Next 10 Years of Motivations Will Smash the Last 10

“Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.”–Bradley Whitford

Are you ready to smash the next 10 years? 

The last ten years of motivations that you have employed in your life. Has set a foundation for you to smash the next ten years.

Why?

Think about what you’ve learned from your experiences. What in hindsight would you have done a bit different? This gives you the edge you need to have a breakaway new decade.

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After a decade you now possess the knowledge to plot the course for a new decade. More important than anything else what bit of experience can you deploy right now? Take some action today!

Upon reflection of your past ten years, take the independent powerhouse thoughts, information, feelings, and put those in your repertoire to draw wisdom at will. Now think about what new information you can put into action to boost the old knowledge. What tweaks can you make?

Set a plan. A daily actionable plan. Some examples:

  1. Use a task management tool. I use Google Tasks.
  2. Calander times to work on you, goals, free time. Literally set up times and dates for your life (I’m not suggesting to not be spontaneous). Organize!
  3. Set time limits to achieve certain things. Don’t wake up a year from now and go “wow I got nothing completed.” Never confuse activity with productivity!!!
  4. Meditate on the end result. See yourself in your mind’s eye with what you desire to achieve as already yours.
  5. Stay in faith and stay in gratitude always!

When trials and tribulations come and they will. Hold onto #5 with everything that is you. Don’t give in or give up. The tests will pass much quicker if you remain calm and focused. Breathe daily and meditate.

Take some action today, get started. Don’t think, begin!

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Today be Present in the Moment

Being present in the moment is something I learned later in life and at some cost. Life can get hectic, bills, stress at work, you could fill in dozens of more distractions.

What do we mean by being present in the moment? If your children are tugging on you to pay attention to them. When your mind is somewhere else, focused on how you’re going to pay the rent for example. Kids can sense when you’re not paying total attention.

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Even a spouse can sense when you are not really there. The mind is sifting through tons of garbage, not what is at hand. Just, not paying attention.

It’s easy to justify the stress overtaking the moment. “If I don’t focus on my work we don’t eat.” That very well may be true to a point. Eight o’clock at night business is closed you can give your spouse, or children some of your time.

Being able to be present in the moment with family is precious. You can’t get back time, ever! What I learned the hard way is that your stress will be there in the morning, why not leave it at the front door. Easier said than done!

Here are some things I do today so that I can be present in the moment:

  1. Stress if I allow overtaking my brain, makes matters worse. Learn to harness your stress. If you freak out, that is precisely what your Universe will deliver to you!
  2. Meditate daily. Learn to relax, focus your mind. It’s in these moments solutions will come to you. Peace will come to you!
  3. Breathe, you heard me breathe. During the day, stop and breathe. Take a couple deep cleansing breaths and then breath in through the nose and out through the mouth. Do this for about a minute only. Try it you will be amazed.
  4. Prioritize time for your family. They’re way more important than ANYTHING else you could be focused on. Happy breeds Happy in your home! You bring the stress and guess what, that’s what the family gets, stress. Stop it!
  5. Take a walk. I am not talking about going to the gym take a walk. Get outside and clear your head. Enjoy the world around you. Learn to relax. Walking helps to do this. This is not a workout walk, this is holding the hand of your spouse walk.

Don’t put this off until tomorrow, next month, you need to give this gift to yourself. Time is more precious than we imagine while stressed out. If you can’t be present at the moment for your family voluntarily, what would happen if heaven forbid you were forced to focus. A health reason, someone got injured, you could find time then.

Don’t waste this precious time in your life focused on the bills, work stress, hell everyone has that. Give those that love you, YOU! Don’t tell your children you’re too busy. Don’t tell your spouse you’re too busy.

Unaquivicably, I can tell you that all the stress, worry, I brought too my life didn’t make tinkers damn in the final outcome. Meaning, it only brought more of the same full frontal stress!

Stop at the moment breathe, smile and enjoy.

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