Calm

Calm

For as many years as I can remember, being calm was challenging for me. What occurs when you can’t find peace is irritability, anxiety, health issues, and the list.

In my research, the critical ingredient is learning to be calm to find peace in my own life. Calm under fire!

When you learn to master the skillful art of remaining calm under fire, you can overcome anything that life throws at you.

How, might you say?

First, you need to learn how to breathe and focus on breathing in stressful situations.

Box Breathing:

  • Breathe in, counting to four slowly. Feel the air enter your lungs.
  • Hold your breath for 4 seconds. Then, try to avoid inhaling or exhaling for 4 seconds.
  • Slowly exhale through your mouth for 4 seconds.
  • Repeat steps 1 to 3 until you feel re-centered.

Simple Breathing:

  • In through the nose and out through the mouth. Nice easy breaths.

Keeping your fingertips together while breathing has also been helpful for me. As stress elevates, I rub my fingertips together slowly. It’s calming.

Breathing will help relieve the stress that can cause pain in the neck and back.

Why all this is so important, you may ask.

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Our mind functions way faster and more alert when our head is not spinning. Have you ever noticed that in a quiet space, for example, your head won’t shut up? We all have. I wrote an article called When Silence Screams.

Getting to a relaxed place will have incredible value for you. Your decision-making will be more spot-on when your head is quiet. Stress will be minimized in all aspects of your life. There is a difference between healthy and unhealthy habits.

Imagine being able to summon calm—stress response vs. calm response. Think about your dad. Would he respond more favorably to a stressed-out crazy response or a clear, favorable, collected response?

Like anything new, this will take time to learn. At first, you will undoubtedly suck at being calm in the face of adversity. Then, however, you will gain confidence as you apply to breathe into your life.

As you learn new life skills, you must be easy on yourself. Set reminders that say “breathe.” Doing so will help shorten your learning curve. Make this part of your everyday!

Breathing will help you change your outlook from doom to I got this! Everyone you meet will be amazed that you don’t rattle. You learn to improvise, adapt and overcome any situation with a sharp mind.

Take time daily to meditate when you can to calm yourself. Meditation will help clear the stress and open your mind to receive intelligent thoughts. Not a mish-mosh of “Oh God, the world is over.” Vs. Clear, sharp, and concise.

Meditation should also become part of your everyday life. So, give yourself the gift of forty-five minutes of calm.

Now that you have read this short article. It’s time to get going. Set a reminder right now to breathe. Just doing breathing exercises throughout your day will begin to have positive progress.

My life has changed immeasurably by doing what I just wrote for you. Friends say my face does not look stressed; people near me say I am not as snappy as I might have been carrying stress.

It’s not hard; get to it!

Why the Next 10 Years of Motivations Will Smash the Last 10

“Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.”–Bradley Whitford

Are you ready to smash the next 10 years? 

The last ten years of motivations that you have employed in your life. Has set a foundation for you to smash the next ten years.

Why?

Think about what you’ve learned from your experiences. What in hindsight would you have done a bit different? This gives you the edge you need to have a breakaway new decade.

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After a decade, you now possess the knowledge to plot the course for a new decade. More important than anything else what bit of experience can you deploy right now? Take some action today!

Upon reflection of your past ten years, take the independent powerhouse thoughts, information, feelings, and put those in your repertoire to draw wisdom at will. Now think about what new information you can put into action to boost the old knowledge. What tweaks can you make?

Set a plan. A daily actionable plan. Some examples:

  1. Use a task management tool. I use Google Tasks.
  2. Calander times to work on you, goals, free time. Literally set up times and dates for your life (I’m not suggesting to not be spontaneous). Organize!
  3. Set time limits to achieve certain things. Don’t wake up a year from now and go, “wow, I got nothing completed.” Never confuse activity with productivity!!!
  4. Meditate on the end result. See yourself in your mind’s eye with what you desire to achieve as already yours.
  5. Stay in faith and stay in gratitude always!

When trials and tribulations come and they will. Hold onto #5 with everything that is you. Don’t give in or give up. The tests will pass much quicker if you remain calm and focused. Breathe daily and meditate.

Take some action today, get started. Don’t think, begin!

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Visualize What You Want

If you would like to have things in your life change. Whatever, it is, visualizes it see it in your mind. Find a peaceful place to get quiet and meditate on what you desire.

The power of visualization will help you manifest a better life, a more fulfilling relationship, a better job. When you see it, God sees it. Know in your soul that what you desire in your heart, will come to pass.

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To better meditate, you may need to have soothing music playing. I have found that wearing headphones gets me into a more profound sense of peace and calm. This will allow you to tap into our subconscious mind. This is where real change takes place.

Don’t worry if you have difficulty getting started. Simply relax. Don’t get frustrated. Just invite your higher power into your mind. Ask for peace, then accept the order. Be grateful as you meditate for the peace you know have in your account. Thank you, God, for the friendship I am experiencing right now. Keep saying that over and over until you begin to calm yourself.

Breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth. Deep cleansing breaths. This too, will help you calm yourself. Don’t worry if it takes time. The first time you do, it may seem hard or weird to do. Just do it and trust that you will find the peace. Keep saying thank you for my order and calm. It will come!

When you can meditate on something, it releases positive energy. It allows you to connect with the source (God). See yourself in a grand state. Like Lisa, Nichols says, “I know like I know like I know.”

You have to begin this now. Don’t hesitate to start your journey right now. If you have questions, send me an email soon. The trip we can take together:

Robert Bruton
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We’re starting a new series on Visualization, the power to see our way to whatever it is we want to enjoy in our lives. Trust God and show him you’re sincere.