Choice, Decide Already!

Choice

If I asked you to make a choice right now to be happy, but you’re suffering through a terrible divorce. Could you be satisfied just by making that choice? The short answer is yes! Before you hit the refund, button hears me out.

What stops you from choosing to be happy in a moment is you. I should say years of conditioning yourself that you can’t just simply change. Why can’t you? Should be the real question.

Let’s take our divorce scenario to a little higher level. If divorce is imminent even though you don’t want a divorce.

Two options:

Option A:

  • Stay bitter, sad, emotionally done, not having any thought as to a new future.

Option B:

  • “Choose” to be happy. Yes, the person whom your life revolved around is gone. The Universe, in its infinite wisdom, is taking you down a new path. Presuppose for a moment that this new life if given a chance, has more love, joy, happiness, and fulfillment than you ever thought possible.

If you choose to be happy, “Option B” certainly has more promise. The simple act of choosing one from another is incredibly powerful.

Over a year ago someone that I am proud to call a friend explained away my own pain from divorce like this: “If you could have your wife back today and go right back to the way things were, OR, you could have the relationship you never thought possible. Which would you choose?”

That’s when I knew that I had to make a choice for myself. If something in your life is meant to be, then it shall.

The real rub is that for years-and-years, we conditioned our minds towards limiting beliefs. We end up saying:

  • If I just change, she will come back.
  • If I learn to keep my mouth shut.
  • If I lose twenty pounds.

The problem is NOT you, it’s the paradigm that is so entrenched in your head you can’t shake it off. Using the divorce analogy just scrapes the surface of this problem. This book is not a “how to get over divorce” book. NO, far from it.

How to change limiting beliefs, the unknowing lies we tell ourselves every day. What our journey well reveals to us, we can make a choice and move on, NOW!

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Choice do you really want me to pick?

Yes, friends easier said than done. However, very doable. With some guided practice, you can learn to decide, stick with it, no regrets, and blaze a trail for others to follow. Pardon the cliché!

How do you we make these changes you ask? Training our minds to a new healthy reality. Who says you can’t do something; you need only look in the mirror? That’s who!

Part 1:

How many years have you heard phrases like?

  • You/I don’t have that kind of luck.
  • No education, you can’t do that.
  • You’re too fat.
  • You’re too skinny.
  • You’re not part of that social group.
  • Oh, honey, why don’t you lower your sights to something more realistic.

From as many years ago as you’re able to remember we’ve all heard the limiting phrases getting stuffed into our mind.

What is being communicated to you is, “If I can’t do you surely cannot.” By well-meaning parents, family, friends, and other well-wishers. So, if these lovely people are telling me this, it must be true. NO, not only NO; HELL NO!

The only person on this planet that knows whether YOU can do anything is YOU! It does not matter what your Mom, Dad, Grandmother, Friend, Boss, has to say about what you can do. The ONLY person that knows is your period!

People close to you will naturally want you to play it safe. None of us want to see a friend hurt. Who the heck says you must hurt? I’m not shouting at the top of my lungs “oh God, don’t write the first Novel you failed English literature.”

Again, I go back to the systematic brainwashing society shoves down our brain. How many folks have completed Marathons in wheelchairs or with lost limbs? Hundreds if not thousands. Why Choice! The choice NOT to allow something horrific to bring them down.

Mediocrity is a disease of the mind. It’s a cure; “Choice!”

Part 2:

How to break free, so Choice comes at will.

  1. Meditation / Prayer: see yourself through this practice as free of limitation. That my life, my choice to see it through as a vessel of the Universe. Not some, “I don’t have this or that mentality.”
  2. Put the affirmation “Choice” Refrigerator, bathroom mirror, reminders on your phone daily.
  3. Learn to believe in yourself. Take the training wheels off your life. When you feel you can’t do something learn to ask yourself; who said! With enough training and knowledge, you can bloody well do anything you want!
  4. Practice, Practice, Practice! Do not give up or in at the first sign of difficulty. This is something you must want as much as air. We’ve all heard the businessman who asked a guru “how do I become successful,” the Guru replied, “meet me at the beach at 6:00 AM and don’t be late.” The next morning the businessman is on time, and the Guru takes him out into the water up to there chest. The Guru grabs the man and holds his head down in the water until the man was in great distress. Lifting the man out of the water, the businessman screams, “Why did you do that?” The Guru calmly replies, “When you want success as-bad-as, you wanted to breathe, then you will find success!”
  5. Gain knowledge. The reason people quit is insufficient knowledge. If people aren’t saying to you, “Wow, I have no idea you could do that.” If the wow factor is not WOW, then gain more knowledge. Become a voracious reader.

Nothing on God’s good earth prevents you from achieving anything. If you set your mind to something, trust that God will give you the knowledge, and move the Universe into alignment for you. Believe that as much as you want to breathe (like our Guru analogy).

All it takes is a choice. Your choice to stay status quo or your choice to live a life most would only dream about.

“Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.”–Bradley Whitford

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Life Change to Bring Full Circle, Get outside yourself!

“No matter what has happened to you in the past or what is going on in your life right now, it has no power to keep you from having an amazingly good future if you will walk by faith in God. God loves you! He wants you to live with victory over sin so you can possess His promises for your life today!”–Joyce Meyer

Bringing our change full-circle requires us to get outside ourselves. I can hear you screaming. I am trying to change me! Ask yourself a question. If you’re in a relationship and everything is always about you how long will that last?

Well, short answer not too long. Also, how fair would that be? Not fair at all.

I like our quote says no matter what we’ve done, where we are God loves us. If we want to bring this full circle, the changes we’re making to bring happiness. We have to learn to give something of ourselves. You cannot always be me, me, me!

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Here are some ideas to quickly get outside yourself:

  1. Give a smile. A genuine smile to someone today. It’s free.
  2. If you’re standing in line at a coffee shop, buy the person behind you a coffee. Make a new friend.
  3. Grocery store, leave $5 or $10 with the cashier towards the person behind you to help pay the next person in line part of their grocery bill.
  4. If you know someone is having a hard time financially give them a gift card from a grocery store. Put some gas in their car. Let them know it’s not about the money, it’s that you want to help. Someday, they may help you back.
  5. If you know someone that is heading out for a job interview, pay for a new haircut, offer to take a woman to the nail salon, take interview clothes to dry cleaners and pay, give them a ride, pay the bus fare, see you can find tons of ways to show someone you care.
  6. Volunteer. Church, hospital, Goodwill, Community Center.
  7. Visit someone in a nursing facility. Plenty of retirees who sit lonely in nursing homes with no visitors.
  8. Go to the hospital, visit the chapel, and pray for the patients and family. If there is power in prayer, you can give that! If possible, pray with someone in the chapel.
  9. Pick up a pound of trash. Trust me, you can find a pound of waste. One garbage bag of trash off the street, may not seem like much. A step is always a step, size does not matter. A pound of waste!
  10. Plant a tree. Check with your community to see where you can plant a tree. My thought, if you can plant a fruit tree where you know folks can benefit. Maybe a piece of fruit of a tree you planted kept someone from going hungry that day.

You can always pray to God to help you. Continue to work on you to change for the better. Before you can break through, you will have to learn to look back not to view your past but to grab the hand of someone that needs help.

Change to Live Today

Excuse me, hello, excuse me. Yes, you! Can you look this way, please? You’re looking at yesterday; I need you focused forward, thank you!

Are you looking to TODAY?

Today is all you have. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is just that tomorrow. So what can you do to make today a good day? Plan for it. Have a project that has tasks that need doing today. Prepare the night before at least three things you know for sure you can accomplish in a day.

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Have small successes every day. Complete tasks that will help bring about big success. In whatever aspect of your life that needs help the most right now.

What happens is we tend to get to scattered out with all the things we need to fix. Like, relationships, job, ourselves, bills, and the list gets bigger. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time! Apply that to your life, and you will achieve much, more.

This process has eluded me so many times in my own life. By appearance, just organizing aspects of our life for success seem simple. The real test is, are you doing it now? Will you stay consistent?

Here are some tasks to help you get started:

  1. Set daily reminders in your phone to alert you to jobs for that day. Tasks to complete for that day.
  2. Use apps like Google Tasks, Google Calendar, they’re free. I use them, and they help me a lot.
  3. Make time in the evening to plan out tasks (minimum 3) for the next day.
  4. DON’T PROCRASTINATE!
  5. Use a calendar to help your track deadlines. Also, a Project Management app is a great way to keep track of your progress.

Five quick things you can do today!

It’s your turn to win! Get started right now. Don’t think, just DO!!!

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Life Change

This is a little taste of my new book coming out the first of next year. Not yet titled, but it covers life change. What steps we need to take for lasting change. 

Change cannot come without discomfort.

Don’t quit because of discomfort. Change is not occurring as quickly as hoped. The pain of loss or other stressors is not dissipating.  The mind is continually in a barrage of negative thoughts, self-doubt and feels as though nothing is getting better.

“I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”–Muhammad Ali 

Keeping an eye towards a positive outcome. Being grateful in advance of anything manifesting good in life. Meditate on the result.

If you take a trip around the world at some point in time weather delays, airport delays, canceled flights, lost luggage, lost hotel reservations, something is going to happen. The chances are excellent that more than once.

Would you stop an around the world trip over a delay? No, you deal with it and keep going!

The first activity to do:

Breathe

You read that right breath. The power of this simple act is immeasurable. Here is why. The simple act of taking a break to breathe for just a minute or two. It helps to slow down your mind, relaxes your muscles and body. Your mind will begin to relax.

How to breathe:

  1. Take a couple of deep cleansing breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth.
  2. Slow your breathing to a relaxing pace. Close your eyes to focus on a slow deep breathing exercise.
  3. Breath deep into your lungs without straining. Allow the oxygen to fill your lungs and a relaxed exhale.
  4. Continue this for a good sixty seconds or a little more.
  5. When you feel relaxed merely stop.

What outcome to desire is relaxation. Let go of your body in a chair when doing this breathing exercise. Just taking a couple of minutes a few times per day to breathe. You will be amazed at how calming this can be.

The tension in the body will begin to wash away. Give it time. This works so well you will make it a part of your daily routine. Who thought something so easy would make such a difference in our day.

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Five Things to Change your Life NOW!

“If you can dream it, you can do it.”—Walt Disney 

If life is not where you want it to be. Here are five things you can do that are easy to start and take no money just your time. Making an investment towards your own success has long-range benefits.

Take care to understand that with change comes the challenge. The current life paradigms most have are self-defeatist. As a society, we tend to look to the dark because it’s easier to believe. The constant barrage of negative news, people around us, saying you can’t do that. So, it’s not a wonder we all struggle from time-to-time.

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Some of the things on the list you will have to research a bit to learn to do, the real point starting! Don’t worry about how to, look forward to a beautiful result.

Don’t stay status quo. It will take real effort for change to last and for happiness to prevail. The old you will want to stay status quo, but the new you will plow through doubt and frustration.

If you give up the enemy wins. Everything in your head will be discomfort. It passes with time, and your life can be happy. You must decide, and you have to do it. Don’t listen to Nay-Sayers.

This is in no particular order.

Here is a list of 5 things you can start today to change your life now:

  1. Breathe, yes that’s right just breathe. A couple of times per day, stop get quiet and breath in through your nose and out of your mouth. Deep relaxing breaths. A couple of minutes is all it takes.
  2. Taking time to relax and meditate. I’m not talking about changing what I am suggesting is relax and focus on nothing. Clear your head! There is a reason meditation is called a meditation practice. It takes time to learn, but it’s super easy. You can find meditation music on YouTube® (use headphones). Find a place where you can relax and learn to meditate.
  3. Get off your butt and walk. Walking relieves stress and will help you clear your mind. Breathe in the fresh air and soak up some sunshine.
  4. Do something beautiful for someone for no reason. Make a difference in someone’s life. Leave a huge tip, give to a food bank, deliver to a church, volunteer at an animal shelter, just to do something to be a change in the world. Without expectation!
  5. If your workspace is a mess if your house is a mess. Clean it up! The state of your home or office chances are is the state of your mind. Declutter your life. If you struggle just do one room at a time. Take small steps, but step!

Life struggles can be debilitating. Curling up in bed, being a hermit at home, blowing off friends and family. Today is the day that all STOPS. Take one thing on this list and do it RIGHT NOW!

Overthinking kills. It’s easy to say we don’t have time, don’t have money, don’t know how. Hell, we all suffer the same. Don’t worry about how to look towards the result. The how will come! Take the first step right now. If you don’t then expect the same crappy result, you’ve been getting. This is about change get off your ass and do one small thing right now. Go!

Remember that change comes to those willing to fight through old paradigms. Your head will jack with you hard. What you think is the voice in your head saying “you can’t” (the enemy will deceive you) this is where you get out of your head and open your heart. Breathing, meditation and prayer will all help you live from your soul.

Hope will open life in new surprising ways. Get out of your head and into your heart (I think that’s a song lyric). Don’t worry about how to, worry about the result. This must become your life’s mantra.

Lasting change comes with the first step. So, take the first step right now and begin the journey.

God bless you; I pray that you find peace and prosperity in your life. I believe you have the power to change your life to be anything you envision it to be. Stay in faith!

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