Learning to Live Outside Ourself, Being a Blessing

With all the political venom, with nothing but negative news filling our social media feeds, our news programs. It’s not a wonder we may struggle with depression or just WTF!

Life Research Project is my movement to find reasons to be a blessing on this earth. Many ways we can give back even in small ways that require no financial investment when family budgets are stretched beyond limits.

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Becoming a blessing to those around us, to the environment has immeasurable grace. Giving in the face of adversity will change your state-of-mind. We all want to feel better, have fun, make a difference. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

  1. Pick up a pound of trash. We can all find a pound of litter to police up.
  2. Plant a tree. Preferably a fruit tree that folks could freely pick fruit from. Perhaps in an area where homeless people could get a piece of fruit.
  3. Start a Garden in an area where homeless folks are nearby. Allow anyone to pick from the garden.
  4. Visit a nursing home. Be company to someone that is lonely.
  5. Go to a hospital and merely pray in the Chapel for healing. Perhaps even pray with someone that is praying for a loved one.
  6. Volunteer, food pantry, Goodwill, Hospital, Nursing home, Boy’s & Girls Club, Animal Rescue Shelter, community center,  as you can see plenty to choose.
  7. Offer a bottle of water to a soul that is panhandling. Keep some bottled water in your vehicle. Instead of money offer a bottle of water. Say a prayer for God to protect the person you gave water.

Part of living life needs to be living outside our own needs. Even when you’re screaming “what about me,” make it about helping someone. Stop! Listen to these words, being a blessing to others in the face of adversity.

When we can give even when we feel we have nothing to offer. Believe me when I say if you do this with an open heart. Sewing this seed can only bring a harvest beyond anything you imagined.

Feeling good helping others allows us to realize more can be achieved when we work together. If you planted a fruit tree that feeds hungry souls that may be hurting. How would you feel knowing that people did not go hungry at the moment they picked a piece of fruit from a tree you planted.

Doing good things, sewing seeds of peace, hope, love, and prosperity. You can’t help but feel love for yourself. Sometimes seeing more than just ourselves will actually heal our soul.

Pick one thing you can do this week to be a blessing to the world. I showed seven possible ways, you may have something else in mind. Do not do this and say to God okay; it’s your turn. Look beyond you!!!

Learn to be selfless, and in doing so, life will open up for you in ways never dreamt.

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Don’t Let Anyone Steal Your Joy

“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.”

This quote has been attributed to Sigmund Freud, William Gibson and a host of others. I found it both straight to the point and funny. Whoever can take credit for it!

We all learn to keep certain people at arm’s length, or we allow them into our experience. Taking care to protect our emotions.

Learn to not allow toxic people to steal your joy. If needed these folks may need to exit your life if you deal with issues concerning them. You don’t have to allow that, ever!

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Sometimes we have to move on from relationships to make room for the new. Changing seasons in our life will bring new friends, mentors and essential people that God sees fit to move into our life experience. Be open!

Embrace those that lift you up, challenge your status quo. Lots of people are searching for the same quality of life you are. I find great people at Church that follow a path of happiness.

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Find people that bring joy to your life. Don’t let anyone steal your joy!

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You Have to Live Today Anyway, be Happy, Have Fun, Smile

“When I wake up, I expect things to be good. If they’re not, then I try to set about trying to make them as good as I can ’cause I know I’m gonna have to live that day anyway. So why not try to make the most of it if you can? Some days, they pan out a little better than others, but you still gotta always just try.”–Dolly Parton

What is your expectation when you wake up every day? 

If you begin each day with a grateful heart, realize you may have bumps in the road today, but you have a Monster Truck that blows right over bumps, fences, construction, mud, snow, ice, you name it your Monster Truck resolve for life can blow right through!

Let’s do like Dolly says and work to make every day a bit better even when it might not be the rainbow/marshmallow day you were hoping for.

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Wake Up Happy! 

Happiness truly begins with a grateful heart. Declare your gratitude each and every day. Several times per day. If we learn to be thankful for what we have, then God will bless our lives with more abundance.

We all have bad days and can find ourselves in a dark place. Everyone! Don’t fall prey to depression as best you can. Obviously, if you suffer get help. Where and when you can smile, let God now that you’re grateful for the smallest of blessings. Moreover, that you’re grateful for the blessings to come, happiness, health, and prosperity.

Smile and have a blessed day! 

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Conflict in your Head Getting Rid of It

“Conflict cannot survive without your participation.”–Wayne Dyer

What I loved about Wayne Dyer is his ability to evolve his spiritual awareness. He was open to receive the grace of the universe, God.

The quote rings so true for me. Conflict in my head is what slows me down. Not taking time to resolve my thoughts to accept what is and faith for what will be.

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Staying in faith that God will work through my life if I just let him. I’m terrible about hanging onto the past. Mistakes that we make are not life sentences of internal pain. This exists when we participate in that conflict.

Letting go of it is not easy for some. We get okay with pain, wallow in our own self-loathing. Begging the question, how do we stop this behavior?

Learning to forgive yourself is where I started. Throughout my life, I have chosen unwisely many times. Costing me relationships, especially with family. How you can resolve yourself is to not do the old behavior. Live life as a better you!

Don’t accept the status quo!   

Today I don’t live as I did in the past. After enough loss in my life, what the hell us could I do? So you dive in and learn to live a life that YOU can be proud of. An easy measuring stick is to ask yourself when you’re doing something “would grandma approve?” When you are doing anything, we all know right from wrong!

This cliche when you have arrived at this place in your mind; “Sick and Tired of being Sick and Tired.” Crying, depressed, or ready to give up? DO NOT!

Change can hurt, change can take time. On the other side of change is the life God promises you will have. It’s not just going to happen this moment we all have to do the work. It’s so worth it!

Hurt comes in many forms. So this article applies if you’ve suffered loss from divorce, death, betrayal or any number of things that were out of your control.

The pain you are going through is not as important as how you deal with it. Learning to deal with our grief in a healthy way takes work. It’s worth the time and effort necessary to change old paradigms. The promise of life, happiness, and joy exist.

I can hear you screaming Okay how:

  1. Throw everything in your head up to God. Pray and confess everything negative in your life. Let him know you are ready for a change.
  2. Breathe. Take time every day to just stop and breathe. Don’t say this is stupid until you actually try. I thought to breathe whatever. Just take a minute or two only and breathe.
  3. Learn to meditate. It’s super easy!
  4. Get toxic people out of your life. Don’t listen to someone’s poisonous bile. You control the person you are not someone else.
  5. Patience. Nothing worth having comes overnight. Go at your pace, JUST GO. This is not a contest. Do things every day that help moves your life forward. Some days big stips, somedays small steps. Forward motion is always a good thing.

Okay, so five things to get you started. Now it’s your turn. GET STARTED!

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Always Too Soon To Quit

We all get to a point where tired overcomes our being. Tired of all the enemies shots that come in follies that seem never-ending. One more kick and you’re going down! Today is one of those days for me. Looks like the top of the mountain was in site and now I can’t even see the top anymore.

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When the clouds clear how close will you be? Never Quit!

I’m finding reasons to quit, aims to stop relationships, reasons to complain about work. All of which are not options to exercise. I know deep down that God is as close as my next prayer. At least now in my life, I recognize when an attack comes and why it comes.

Many times over the past days I have felt that my soul is slipping away from God. That no matter how hard I try something is always going to kick me in the balls one more time. Dropping into self-pity and depression is too easy. This is where the enemy knows he has you, and he turns up the heat.

So in the heat of the battle of the mind how do we stay in faith?

For me it gets moment-to-moment. I literally have to talk to God all the time during my day. When the heat is on, it’s a hotline to God that day! Just let God know that I don’t see a way, I know he has an idea, and I am not losing this time.

Somedays I am emotionally exhausted the point to this is stay in the fight. The minute you give in the enemy has won. Don’t despair if you’re there in this moment. Let God know right now you’re grateful for strength. Pray for what you want not what you don’t have. Big difference.

This is the best metaphor I can come up with in the battle over our minds.

Climbing a mountain to summit. Zero visibility all you can do is climb up, can’t see a thing. Step after step is a pain, unimaginable pain. With the summit know where in sight. You continue to work through the pain. Until you THINK you cannot make another step, you cannot see the summit you collapse. In that moment of defeat, the fog clears, and the summit is a short 20 yards away, you could have made it if you kept going.

We never know how close we were if we stop. Marathon runners have to run through the wall in their mind. Somewhere close to the finish of a marathon, runners hit the wall as it’s called. You can collapse or run through it, choice!

Remember how we choose to deal with life is our choice. Blaming circumstances does not get it done. Perseverance and unwavering faith get it done. If you get knocked down get back up. Keep getting up!

Seasons in our lives are just that seasons. Have you lived somewhere that you can recall a super hot summer or a long cold, snowy winter? It’s a season it comes and goes. Same with our life. Seasons come, and they go. Happiness is closer than you think!

Pray like you’ve never prayed before and this season will pass.

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