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New Day Faith is Key

With the changing season of my life, wow is life opening up. As you know from reading my blog, I have made a very clear choice to try something new in my life. To stand in spiritual faith walk with my soul and not my head that will direct my life. Keep my “will” out and trusting in faith. Of course, I do work to move my life.

Trusting in faith is not laying on your backside eating a pizza waiting for the pilot of your Jet to call and say “hey where are we going boss today?” We still have to get up, work, do things to fill our minds and body with good energy. Focus daily on walking our path with God. So far that has worked out in ways I never imagined.

Sure it hurts the reasons that got me here are painful. I mourn the loss of what I had hoped would be a lifetime. It most days makes no sense to me as to why we can’t make the wrong in our life right. Working from the premise that all things happen for a reason. Then letting go to allow destiny to unfold has been a challenge. This time I am resolute in not losing. God has a purpose for my life, so let’s see what that is.

I wish I could say that God sits at the end of my couch with me and says “Bob this will be your destiny” as he explains it all to me. Sorry, but it doesn’t work that way.

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The challenge for me has been not to make things happen but allow things to happen. As a salesperson all my life it’s hard not to jump in and sell God this is what is needed right now. Having the ability to discern between my will and God’s will sometimes take a bit of time. Asking myself is this really what God wants me to do? Where patience comes in, and an open heart must be available to receive. The big challenge for me!

What I have done to step up to that challenge is be resolved this time I am not going to lose. That my way got me here, so maybe trying God’s way will change my life forever. That all the promises in the Bible I choose to receive. I’m not a big organized religion person, but I do believe in God. Over the last few years I got away from my spiritual journey, go WAY off the path. Today my feet are firmly planted on the trail.

Decide that it’s a new day. Life will begin to relax for you. Months ago I had a mountain of debt, tax troubles, and seemingly no real way out. Since my decision that I need help, spiritual help, which God needs to pretty much pull the wagon. To his glory, all the financial problems that seemed insurmountable are in fact manageable. Through God’s grace, my credit is fine, all bills paid on time deals made to lighten the burden done.

All I did was work as I should every day. Releasing all of it to God. Told God that this was too big for me to do on my own and asked for help. Help arrived at God’s timing teaching me that the world was not blowing up, that my problems are not the most pressing issues on the planet. When it was time, everything was paid or delayed enough to allow me time to overcome obstacles to my advantage.

Stress over all the problems I just let go to God. Surrender is the hardest part. Our heads tell us to get in the game fix the problems. Our head is what got us here in the first place. Do the work, tell God what you need so you can feel better. Never beg! “Please, please God help me pay my rent.” No, be grateful that he already has. Call it in as though it were already don’t. Grateful!!!

It would be nice to tell you it’s not a struggle to change. It is, and you will go through some real pain, doubt, and frustration. Well before you find real peace. Don’t despair we all did and got through. Many days I have self-doubt and struggle. The times I do feel at peace or do receive a blessing it’s far more than I imagined it would be. Sometimes, God truly shows out in your life! Those are the times when you feel connected spiritually.

Whatever you do never quit, pursue faith with all your soul can muster. The pain is the enemy trying to keep you down. It is not God testing you, it’s the enemy wanting you to be miserable. Do not let anyone sway your journey of faith it’s worth every moment of your time.

Breaking through the tough moments in faith, God finds ways to open up possibilities that you never dreamt possible. I am living proof!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Idle Time Sucks, Let’s Change That

Idle time sucks. Your head gets filled with garbage of the past and anything else the enemy can throw up to remind you of darker times. Thus keeping you in the darker reaches of your life. Hence idle time sucks. I want to share a couple of things I am doing to find peace during idle time.

Today for me is one of those days. I had good morning closing two new clients, so that had me bouncing on cloud nine. Always great to move forward in business.

Then the day grinds down to a halt. My head begins to run amuck. Wow, let’s relive every mistake I’ve made in my life. Reruns of my life seem to be on a projector that just loops and loops.

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So, to get me out of my head. I said down with my laptop and started typing. At least I recognize what’s going on with my noodle. Question, why can’t we be okay during quiet times? So many of us struggle with being okay with being alone in our mind.

Yes, I have confessed my past that I am not proud of to God. When I’m busy everything rocks along, and I am to busy not to be at peace. Sometimes though it would be nice to be quiet, be in the moment but be okay. I am the problem in this scenario. We can choose to be happy or sad, but it must be a choice.

Today is also the first birthday I have spent in many years alone. Or at least without my wife. So, it’s been a good day for many reasons and a sad one. Reliving everything I have done, should have done, argh! No, not self-pity moment, but one of realization. Everything going on today is a choice. Recognizing that is the real achievement in my life.

Every day we all must make choices to be happy or have a bad day. The difficulty lies in your head. Living in your head causes all kinds of issues. Choosing to live in your heart, in your soul where God is now that’s a choice. A little easier said than done, but entirely within grasp.

What I do every day now is take moments to embrace God, search my heart for peace. I do this on my morning prayer walk at work. I walk outside for a time and talk to God. Visualize me happy, prosperous and at peace. Peace began to last longer and longer in my days. I don’t choose to recognize mediocrity in myself anymore.

Choose to walk in faith as I do every day. It truly helps, and you will begin to find peace in your head. Idle time will be something you look forward to not dreading. I pray you find the peace we all have from God. Have a blessed idle time day!
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Arguing Stop It!

In relationships, we will have conflict. Arguments will happen in the very best of situations. It’s just part of life’s landscape. The question is how do you handle conflict?

Arguments can escalate very quickly. Words come blurting out of mouths destine for ears of someone we love. Hateful words in the heat of the moment can cause irreparable harm to a relationship. Our words can cut deep or heal. Choose wisely your words; a more accurate statement could not be told. Before you utter a peep out of your mouth, stop and think.argue, couple, relationship

In the heat of the moment trying to stop and think is a challenge. Don’t get baited into a fight or the both of you could be very sorry. What we all forget in a debate is how much we love the person we’re arguing with. In the height of the conflict, all that tends to go out the window. Just as the enemy guides your mouth to a razor’s edge. Don’t fall into a trap.

Most important of all. DO NOT FIGHT TO WIN! If you do, you will ultimately pay the price for that.

Before a situation escalates into a battle. Try and stop everything. For example, agree to take a walk separately to cool off. Think about what the conflict is and weigh out it’s worth. So many times an argument can heat up to the point both parties forgot what they were arguing about. Hateful words overtook the issue. Sometimes, sorry is not enough when words come into play.

Taking a walk allows both parties to calm down. Think, honestly think about what the conflict is and weigh its significance against your bliss. When you both get back from taking a walk apart, take a short walk together and talk about anything but what you’re fussing over.

Doing this exercise will allow for some time to pass, then the chances are excellent that at this point you can find compromise and move on. Remember, that you care and love each other. Arguments, more often than not are not about the other person but conflict within ourselves. Learn to discern the two.

My challenge to you right now. Go to someone you love right now, give a hug for no reason. Express, your love for someone special, strengthen your resolve to be happy. God bless!

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Who is the Enemy

Does the Devil Exist? Not the stereotypical Devil in the movies.

My life has never really been around the church or too caught up in religion. Never really understood what it meant to have a spiritual life. I made fun of bible thumpers and religion. That comes from ignorance. It’s easy to make fun of something you’re ignorant too.

Fast forward fifty odd years to today. For a time, I studied metaphysics, enjoyed Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, and other spiritual teachers, just putting my toe in the water. I attended a few classes, did some fun work. Learned meditation, yoga, and visualization. Never really got the deeper side of spiritual life.

Few more year’s pass and life took a giant dump straight on my head. Oh, indeed this is my doing you understand. You can’t blame your life on anyone but yourself. Take ownership of that. “Own that shit”—Harley Quinn.

In debt up to my neck, separated from my wife, past due with the IRS, and the list goes on. This time in my life at times got very dark and hopeless. Hopelessness brings about dark thoughts about does your life even matter. Who would give two shits’ if you were gone? Scary times.prayer,faith, spiritual

When you’ve hit rock bottom, it does lend itself to the revaluation that maybe you might need help beyond earthly help. Don’t have the money for therapy or any mental health care. Going to have to bootstrap help if I wanted it. So, begins my journey back to finding some spiritual peace.

This time I chose to seek the church. Didn’t want so-called organized religion but wanted to the Bible-based teaching of God’s word. What promises did the Bible hold out that I could have? Was I even deserving of any peace? With nowhere to turn I got on Joel Osteen’s website and looked for a Church close to me. I do like Joel Osteen and read all his books.

As I began to search out God, my depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts went out of control. Man, I could not believe how hard I was crashing. It was worse now than it had ever been. I would cry wondering “oh my God what did I do to piss you off this bad?” What I came to learn from wonderful folks in my Church this was then enemy attacking my thoughts, not God.

No, my head does not spin, and I don’t spit green vomit at the priest (for those of you that have seen the Exorcist). It took me a few weeks to grasp this. The attack in my head was not God punishing me at all. The Devil is keeping me right where he has had me most of my life. In a depressed state, with no hope.

The question for me became what is causing my life to for a time rock along all is well to falling off a cliff? Why do I continue to fall short in my life? For me, this took falling to rock bottom. To losing what I loved the most to finally saying to God, there has to be a better way. What do I do God?

So begins my journey to find a spiritual awakening. How do I find peace? How do I find the life that the Bible promises? You’ve heard part of my answer finding a good church family. The second part of this is research into the why of my life. Why do I fail at just about everything? Not a pity party this is a real question I believe for all of us.

When I would share my feelings with people in my Church that have what I am seeking, true faith in God. I would say why is God punishing me so hard? To the point of dark thoughts against myself. The pain is beyond what at the time I thought I could endure. One person in my Church explained to me this was an attack by the enemy. What did I say?  The enemy who is that?

Okay, so you’re telling me the Devil lives in me. Oh, great I’m possessed. The reply is NO; you’re are suffering from an attack in your mind. The enemy wants you to be depressed, he wants you to lose everything, and he would even love for you to do something stupid. Wow, this was a lot to swallow, but it made sense.

We have a choice to believe the enemy who is a liar above all. Or, we can choose to believe the word of God and have the life Jesus bought and paid for with his. The attack on me continued to get worse.

Times I would be sitting in my truck and scream at God “WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME?” Where are you get in the game? Again, the enemy is filling my head with doubt. When you calm your mind (I do in meditation), then you can begin to feel God.

What helped me to understand this is Napoleon Hills book Outwitting the Devil. All of us love and have most likely read Think and Grow Rich. This new book did not get published in his lifetime. His family waited some thirty years to publish it. I will not spoil it for you, but it’s an eye opener from a beloved author. It helped save my life in many ways.

Another person who has opened my understanding of how a spiritual life works are TD Jakes. One of his sermons had me crying in thanks because it made sense to me completely. Let me paraphrase what I heard. “The enemy’s attack is not punishment, the enemy’s fierce attack is because he is afraid of you, he is afraid of your power.” The enemy is about to lose you from his bond in your life. Anytime, you speak the truth, God’s word or praise over your life. Expect, him to put garbage in your head to change you into his thinking.

Take time to do some preparation in your life for a change. Don’t do it alone! Find a Church that you feel comfortable with attending. It may take visiting a few, but you will find one. Get involved with folks you see that truly walk-the-walk pardon the cliché. Read and study all that you can. Always have in your mind that at every corner and turn your head will be telling you, oh this is stupid. All this faith and Church stuff is bologna. That is the enemy!

Here is where you have to get out of your head. We have to learn to live from your hearts, our soul vs. our head. Learning to receive God in our hearts, this is where you will find peace. Don’t scream I can’t do that, yes you can. It is the hardest thing for me as well.

Find a place where you feel at peace. A lake, pond, Mountain View, fountain, anywhere that makes you feel at peace. Where you can find God to speak to your heart, this is where you will find peace. The enemy has you in your head with you trying to figure everything out. Faith is giving all your cares to God and letting it be. The enemy will tell you “you better take control, life is about to get WAY worse if you don’t  do something about it.” That’s all horse manure. Go to God in prayer, don’t BEG! Thank him for already blessing you with that which you desire.

 Always pray as though you already have that which you need. You will come to learn that all God asks is for your faith. Show him you are faithful even when it looks like disaster is imminent. Don’t lose faith no matter what!

The enemy lives in your head; God lives in your heart. Learn to decern the difference and life will truly change for you. It’s not hard, but it’s a battle. The enemy will not give up easily, but I know in my heart that if you stay strong in faith, God will pull you through. Have an open heart!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Think You Can and You Will

Changing your mindset from “I can’t do that” to “I can.” Nothing is impossible if you truly set your mind to it. Change will come if your faith in what you endeavor is truly unwavering. Life has conditioned us to doubt our ability.

We’ve been indoctrinated into the world of “oh I can’t do that” or those around us tell us we can’t. When our peers or family say “oh don’t try that you don’t have this or that” to even complete the work. Our minds are garbage dumps for the enemy. If you truly believe you can you can. If you truly believe you cannot, well you’re right.

Stereotypes get broken everyday. People achieve amazing things because they believe they can. Nothing or no man can stop you from reaching that which you desire. The family may tell you don’t try. Usually that comes from a place where they don’t want to see you get hurt.spiritual, prayer

Perhaps in your life, you have not achieved much. Therefore, folks around you don’t think you have what it takes to do the project you intend. Don’t listen to naysayers even if they’re family. Listen to what is coming from your heart. If you have a burning to do something, then get off your butt and get going.

Let me warn you now. Be prepared to get bombarded with doubt, fear and an overwhelming will rush over you. This is normal. Remember, we all are conditioned with doubt and fear. Those are not realities you have to subscribe too. Belief, unwavering faith that you can achieve what you are working towards will overcome doubt. It takes real work but you can do it when you worth through times of doubt.

Successful people will tell you the reason they win. They’re willing to take one more step than you are to win. Losing is not an option. Fear, doubt, and roadblocks are all bumps in the road. Improvise, adapt and overcome! Moreover, don’t quit!

Stand your ground in faith. Learn to develop a mindset of positive thoughts. Do the work before you and believe in your passion. It may be a title fight to get what you desire, but imagine what life change will come if you maintain your faith.