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Our Words Cut or Heal

“Words which do not give the light of Christ increase the darkness.” — Mother Teresa

Words have power and what you say out of your mouth can alter what is happening to you. If we speak negatively, that is what we will attract in our life. Positive words can heal, bring peace to our survival. Ask yourself to have you ever been around a negative person and just wanted to run away? The bigger question is, are you that person?

For me, this was and still is to a degree something I must work for change. Keeping negative words from racing through my head or spilling out of my mouth is a challenge. For most of us, it’s a challenge. If our lives have been a struggle most of the time, then this will prove to be work. Rest easy it’s good work!

When we learn to be gentle with our speech amazing positive things will happen in our life. Words have healing power. If you don’t believe that why does a child respond to your soft loving voice vs. a loud, forceful yell? Being honest with yourself have you ever said something you regretted saying? Of course, you have we all have at some point in our life.

More than any other area of our life this chapter will be in the top two of importance.

For years I would think negatively about so many things in my life. Especially about myself. To only drag me down but it attracted despair. We must learn to change the discussion that we have with yourself. Instead of “nothing ever works” “my life is total crap” start saying, “my life is blessed.”

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One thing I had a hard time buying into, was words could change my life. Words alone will not, but words with action behind them most certainly will. You can’t say I want a movie star spouse to sit on the couch and expect it to come to pass.

Nope, you will have to get off your butt and do something besides just talk. So, if you say, for example, I want to walk with God, be happy, then you might want to get to Church. You will also need to make these confessions to God on a regular basis. Until it comes naturally to you praying daily. When what you say is what you believe. Then hang on your life is about to change in surprising ways.

Let me forewarn you the enemy will come here with your positive thought, speech and see you become happy. “Incoming” enemy bombs are coming! The enemy will want to deceive you. Now he is afraid of you, what God will do in your life if you begin to speak with grace.  The attack will come hard! Dig in and confess you are strong that the enemy has NO dominion over your life.

Your head will deceive you, your heart, soul, will not. Trust in your spiritual belief over your noodle. The enemy lives in your head; God lives in your heart. For years I thought God didn’t like me that is why I suffered. Therefore, now I implore you to hear what I am saying. The enemy will attack hard; you can get through no matter how much you want to give up, DON’T! I promise it gets more comfortable with faith. Don’t lose it.

At the beginning of really focusing on changing my speech. Even though many times I didn’t believe the words I was saying. I said the words anyway. You will be amazed at how quickly saying positive things about yourself, where you begin to believe. Strength comes when you speak power to your soul. For a time if you don’t have faith in your words, say the words. Pray for guidance, and you will receive it.

No matter how difficult a time you’re having with positive thoughts. Keep speaking peaceful words to yourself. I cannot reiterate enough. The power lies in our speech. If you confess negativity, then expect the same garbage to manifest itself to you.

Here is a thought! Forgive yourself, remember these words “my past does not define who I can be today.” What I struggled with was forgiving myself for all the past things in my life that I was not proud of doing. Feeling undeserving of happiness. If this is you, stop it, your life does and has real meaning. Mistakes in life are NOT life sentences of despair.

It has taken me a lot of pain to get this point across in my head. It’s still a battle for me, but I am working on being gentle in my speech to myself. What I can tell you is it does get better and more comfortable to receive the words. I may have to say to myself repeatedly. Worth my time and effort. It will be for you as well. Commit right now that today you will be gentle in your conversation with yourself.

The same way you must be gentle in conversation with yourself. Be sincere with others in your life. Words we speak to our children, spouse or other loved ones will dictate our experience with them. One thing I have had to do with my son tells him I was sorry for telling him when he did wrong that he was terrible. His activity was awful; my son was just off the track.

In the how to raise a child owner’s manual that gets lost between the hospital and home. It would be nice to find the section that talks about the power of words. Breaking the generational cycle of garbage that gets handed down because of words stops now. For us to have a well-rounded life, we may have to have conversations with family to end the cycle of negative words.

My endeavor every day is to speak only uplifting, positive words. I choose to talk about peace in my life. No, it doesn’t work all the time, but that does not mean I don’t try anyway. When we stumble, that means we’re human. Mistakes will happen, recognizing them is a beautiful thing. Now you can adjust your course and get back on track.

Success with our words will take practice and most importantly patience with yourself. Negative words will pop up in your head fast. Confusing you in a false sense, it can manifest if you focus towards negativity. Like all things it takes practice. You don’t walk onto the Golf course with Tiger Woods and expect to beat him if you have not practiced as he has. Your game won’t be the same if you have not paid the same price he has.

The enemy will want you to stay status quo. Break the cycle of negative words in your mind and blurting negative words out of your mouth. Apologize to yourself and to anyone who is the subject of your foul mouth exercise. Bluntly speaking we all must curb our tongue on occasion. Be a blessing to someone, not a curse.

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Dwelling on the Past

One primary cause for not moving forward in your life; Dwelling in the past. Working out stuff that is merely in the past. What can you really do to change things that have long since past?

So you’ve done something in your past, or something has happened to you from days gone by, and you can’t let go. If you can clear these questions, it’s time to move on:

  1. Anyone you may have hurt have you made amends if that is possible?
  2. Did you learn anything from what happened?
  3. Have you taken steps to correct yourself if it was your issue?
  4. Are you tired of your current situation and ready to change?

If you answered yes to one or all then maybe it’s time to let go. Moreover, maybe its time to look forward!

Relationships could be categorized in the top two of the most common things to let go and move on from. If you haven’t moved on then make ‘s think about a few things. Yes, you may in your HEAD believe that life is over without this person, but that is just not true. NO, you don’t want to hear that but I can tell you from experience, you can let go.

If someone does not want you then why on earth would you consider wanting them? Let’s say they did come back after you begged them too. How long do you really think it will last? If your spouse wants out this was a long time coming. Most likely they have fallen out of love with you for some time. The hard part you haven’t YET!

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I am a big supporter of keeping your marriage together. Counseling and hard work. Yes! If however, no reconciliation by the other person can occur, it’s time to move on. You have to search your heart that perhaps God is moving this person out of your life to make room for someone who is right for you. Painful, hell yes, but at the end of the day do you want a healthy, happy marriage or the same status quo that you had?

Sometimes, as painful as a breakup can be it’s for the best possible outcome. What I thought I wanted from my ex-wife was a reconciliation. She did not. I just knew we could fix our marriage. When I was forced to face the reality of divorce. Open my eyes and say okay I don’t want this, but maybe God has a new plan for my life. I surrendered to it, let go genuinely. Wow, being opened up to a modern day.

I stopped looking backward and put my sights forward. This is the whole point of this article. You cannot see a NEW future unfold in front of you while you’re dwelling in the past. Think about if driving down the freeway continually looking in your rear-view mirror you will eventually crash. You do not deserve to crash, open your eyes and look down the road.

No matter what mistakes you’ve made in the past. That’s the point they’re in the past! You can make amends where possible and not make that mistake again. If you can honestly say “I screwed up, but that’s not me anymore.” Move on, move forward with what life has to show you.

Mistakes are not life sentences. They’re just that mistakes. If you have people around you reminding you continually about your mistakes, tell them to move on. That’s petty, and you just don’t need to keep those folks around. Misery loves company. For naysayers ask them to keep it moving. When your heart says you that you’ve done as much as you can to the right a wrong. Let’s move on!

Your past does not define the person you are or could be. Don’t let mistakes define your life. Don’t let lost relationships determine your final outcome. Through the pain, we find strength, blessings, and miracles. Allow life, to open a new for you.

We have all made mistakes in your lives that we’re not proud of. Even had things done to us by someone that hurt us deeply. Both sides of this coin we need to let go of. Dwelling on what we did or what happened to us serves no purpose other than pain. I get only too well that if our pain was inflicted by another, that is hard as hell to let go.

When it comes to hurt, we suffer from an event in our life that was inflicted upon us. This pain cannot be easily undone or ever for that matter. What we can focus on is that it was not our fault, we did not deserve what happened. My prayer is that God will help you to put the pain away. God loves you, I love you as a human being, that your life can and will be happy, fulfilled, prosperous and full of joy.

These things may seem unattainable at this moment, but they do exist. They exist when you can let go (not forget) and no longer accept that what has happened defines you. It does not. What distinguishes you is what God’s plan for your life as you begin to open your heart to receive. Let God have your pain, ask him to take your pain and show you the growth he has for you.

I would not presume to say I have walked in anyone’s shoes, nor could you say you have walked in mine. What I can with all my heart tell you that through the pain, is joy, freedom and a life you have earned because of your struggle. When I say life, I mean a beautiful experience.

God did not put eyes in the back of your head. I can imagine the reason is you need to keep looking forward. What’s behind you is just that; behind you!

  • Your past does not define who you really are!
  • Your past is not a life sentence of pain!

Open up and see what God has for you. Life is out there waiting to laugh with you.

 

 

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It’s Time to Change

Life is so seasonal when you genuinely think about how things turn one way then another. A new season in my life is beginning while another ends. It’s sad to let go of part of your life. Like so many say you can’t look in the rearview mirror and expect not to crash.

We’re supposed to say God is moving our life around so that our destiny can reveal itself to us. I get that it’s not easy today. What I had hoped would be a lifetime has been cut short. Many of the what you shouldn’t dos are running through my head. What if’s!

To indeed move forward I have come to understand that if God had blessed that which now he is changing. Then things would be status quo. Today its hard for me to follow God’s plan. The good news is that at least I’m open to change. That acceptance of what is out of my control is a good step forward. Sometimes we must allow life to change. May hurt or sting a bit, but it will get better.

More to the point its actually with some peace that I can let go. What do any of us have to lose if we just let go and let god, pardon the cliché? If life were perfect, then none of what is happening in my life would be occurring. Everything would have stayed the same. The old me would have lost all hope.

In the midst of some pain, I can see more light than dark. Sure, who does not want for things to change in their life when it’s a painful change. It would be awesome if the difference were I was a millionaire, that type of change is most welcome.

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Through my spiritual study what has come clear to me is that my life has a purpose. What that purpose is can sometimes hide from my site. For a good reason, it is hidden. We have to be prepared to handle this part of our new life. If we have not grown or found some new wisdom we feel, then we missed the point. How could we ever expect to succeed with anything new?

If you have reached a point in your life as I have, changing even though painful to my heart is the only real choice to make. What the heck have we gone to lose? In my mind, it’s failed other ways maybe it’s time to think from the soul and not my head. Follow a higher purpose than myself. Believing today through faith, I will be happier and find real meaning in all my relationships.

This time I’m not losing. I’m changing no matter how painful it is sometimes, how hard the past clings on in my head. It’s time for a real change, a new outlook on life. I have begun to see miracles occur for me, and true blessings come my way.

It’s time to change!

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Spiritual Warfare

Life can be difficult to navigate when we live in our heads. Our head filled with doubt, and hundreds of demons from our past. We’re in spiritual warfare. The enemy takes over your head, he can’t take your soul, but he can get into your head.

Difficulties will come hard, and they will come fast. This warfare inside your mind is a battle you can win! Tools of the warfare given to you in the Bible. For those that are screaming “I don’t have a Bible, I don’t read the Bible; I don’t like the Bible, hang on this article will help.

Two ways we can live. In our head or our soul. If you suffer now, it’s a result of trusting your head and not looking beyond to the spirit that lives in you. Become the person you need to find to live the life you dream. Finding a spiritual connection in this life provides freedom. Notice I said nothing of religion or religious. I’m not asking you to convert I am asking you to find your higher power. For me that is God.

If life is in turmoil, you don’t see a way out; your depression is debilitating. The odds are against you as we speak. Are you just going to lay down and let this wash over you? Or would you like to learn to fight? Hopefully, the later.

The fight that is going to come with some real pain. I tell you this from my own experience. It’s also what I have heard from so many folks suffering as you do now. Everyone has problems at some point and time. Each of us has been to the brink of disaster. Anyone that suggests their life is rainbows and butterflies one hundred percent of the time is hiding the real pain. None of us are without sin or pain.

Our head will tell us there is NO way out. Here is where the fight begins. Believe NOW as though what you suffer from is fixed, done, complete, over and you are happy, joyous and free of pain. If you see your life the way you want it EVEN THOUGH IT IS NOT IN THIS MOMENT, life will start to change. Don’t for one minute think it will change overnight. Know this, going to take some real work, and we’re going to fight your mind hard. The enemy loves for you to be in pain. He will fill your head with fear.

When I talk about the enemy being in your head (NO you’re not Reagan McNeil) this is the spiritual warfare I speak about in this article. God lives in your heart, your soul. The enemy likes to reside in your head where the real garbage can be put to do it’s worst. When we impose our own will that is the enemy tricking you into failing. Think about it your head got you to the point your at today. How about some relief?

Praying as though what we want already exists even though we don’t have it yet. Try this it’s extremely powerful! Here change will begin. You have to believe in your heart that you have the life you want, even when everything is crumbling around you. Don’t see your life in turmoil. You will only delay your change.

Seeing your life in a right way and not a negative way takes real patience and faith. It will be difficult to see a happy life when in turmoil or pain. Dig in, if you want out of the pain, dig in. What I have done to help us learn to meditate and quiet my mind. When you can slow down the whirlwind that our minds can become. Fantastic peace can begin to happen. Seeing in our mind’s eye a life we desire.

Meditating will take a little practice, and your head will spin a bit for a time. It’s okay everyone has to practice. That’s why they call meditation a method. I like to lay on my bed lights out, with headphones that help drown out ambient noise. You can find tons of meditation music on YouTube. Find relaxing music that will help you do just that relaxing.

Your head will race for a time, just breathe and relax during your meditation. Ask God to be present, begin to see him sweeping peace over your life. As you meditate daily view yourself in the life, you would choose to live. See yourself happy, see yourself prospering and let go of all the garbage. Faith believes before you see it. It’s opposite of what our heads will tell us.

To win the spiritual battle in your mind, you have to believe in something you don’t yet have. The price of admission to a happy life is faith. The amount of confidence believes before you receive. Giving up in the face of adversity is not an option!

The attack in your mind will come hard, don’t despair. It’s habits that have chocked you for years, they won’t just stop overnight, but you can manage. The harder the attack in your noodle the more magnificent the blessing is on the other side. One thing that was truly hard for me to get was why does God let me suffer. He is not, and God only gives us what we can handle. I can hear you screaming “I can’t handle it.”Yes, you can.

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Faith

 If you will believe that when you don’t see a way a way will manifest. Now is when a change will begin. A significant difference in wishful thinking and faith. You have to put some action into your life. Just saying something does not make it so. Setting the work in will activate your ability to manifest a pleasant experience. I wish I could tell you that hoping for something will make it so, and it’s going to take work.

Don’t get caught in the trap of “it will never happen to me.” Here is the way I look at the lottery. They say you have a better shot at getting struck by lightning than winning. Someone eventually wins. So it’s not impossible because someone does win. Your odds of getting out of a dangerous situation are indeed less than winning the lottery, but you see my point. Nothing is impossible. You can even get struck by lighting.

Everything we’re discussing up to now that has to do with fear, doubt or your thinking you can’t do something. That is all conditioned in your head by the enemy. It’s time to break that bind. When you get a negative thought in your head, tell yourself reality is “fortune and glory kid”—Indiana Jones. No, seriously you can change your life’s trajectory if you choose too.

When you begin to live in your soul, drawing from the spiritual side of your life change can happen. Get your head out of the equation and listen to the universe, your God. Amazing transformations will begin to occur. You will have trials, times where life seems unbearable. Times when you want to give up because you think in the natural world it’s too hard. Take one more step, take ten if you have to because change is just around the bend.

Don’t give up in your darkest moments and God will manifest a life for you that dreams do come true. If God can put stars in the sky, I am pretty sure he can get you through what troubles you. Get in faith, do what’s before you and dream big. Don’t be afraid to ask for something you might think is enormous, remember God created the Universe so unless you’re asking for a solar system, again I am pretty sure God can make a way where you don’t see a way. You have to have unwavering faith!

When times are tough to remember everyone has problems, not just you, I do we all do. It’s temporary, and God loves you!

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I Ain’t Going Down No More

This walk we take through life has curves, cliffs, mountains, snow, ice, you name it your mind can put you in a dangerous place. These are the things that we run into in our mind. I love the saying that turmoil is the price of admission for a beautiful life. We all have something to learn from our pain. I don’t like pain any more than you do, but we can work through it.

I remember a scene in Rocky II when Rocky is fighting Apollo Creed. Rocky takes punch after brutal punch, knocked down time and time again. Rocky stumbles back to his corner face swollen, bleeding seemingly out of steam and Rocky tells Mickey “I ain’t going down no more.” He finds his strength out of being beaten down, hit again and again. The power to go on. Not to quit.God, faith,

The point is if you’re getting your ass kicked by life it’s time to say “I ain’t going down no more.”

Okay, I hear everyone saying sure easier said than done. You have to ask yourself if you’re saying that “Have I had enough yet?” Say it, say it NOW! Tell the enemy to get out of your head, you ain’t going down no more.

The first thing you have to come to terms with is that enough is enough. NO matter the pain or turmoil in your head. Get to a place in your mind where you can make quite the spirit. The only way I can tell you to do it meditate. You can find free guided meditations on YouTube, put on some headphones on close your eyes and listen. Feel yourself relaxing. If you have to play it ten times before you begin to feel something do it.

Here is the trouble you may run into. We’re all I WANT IT NOW people. So what happens is people quit. They stop just at the moment change is going to happen. Successful people will tell you why they’re successful is they’re willing to take one more step than you are. You can’t quit. The enemy will fight you tooth and nail to beat you. Don’t live in your head live in your soul. Your head will jack you up. Your soul is where love, abundance, and relief live.

Your head will trick you and leave you in a terrible place. Open up your heart, your soul to find real peace. You can do this during meditation, connecting with God, the universe, Devine source, or a higher power. When you join with whom I call God during meditation a whole new world opens up, “I ain’t going down no more.”

See yourself in meditation, happy, abundant and living the life dreams are made of. It can happen. Don’t quit too soon. There is NO quick fix. You have to own the pain when you do you hold the world. “Own that Shit”–Harley Quinn. Peace will come during meditation if it takes a little time it will. Let your mind go to God, divine source, you will find peace to hold onto.

Don’t tell yourself it’s too much. NOTHING is too much. Here is a terrible example of pain, loss of a child. The terrible sad truth is life will go on no matter how much we don’t want it to at that moment. Pain is pain, is pain. The loss of someone is the most unbelievable pain we can experience. Yet the sun will come up tomorrow. You can’t stop fighting to get out of your difficult situation. You can’t lose faith when there is nothing to hold onto but faith. The hope of change may be all you have right now, take it, own it. Peace is coming I promise it is.

This is why you have to connect to a Devine source. Sometime’s there is no real answer, especially when we lose something as precious as a loved one. I use this extreme because most problems pale in comparison. If you’re reading this and you have lost a loved one my heart goes out to you.The loss is painful, but it will pass even when you believe it won’t, it will. God be with you.

For most problems when we’re in the middle of them, the pain can be daunting. So massive we can’t see a way out. I have very recently gone through this. My life is turned upside down, finances are in turmoil, family, the list goes on. The enemy has taken my joy on many days, where I was just a mess. Bulldozing my way through has been a struggle. I have been knocked down time and time again in my own head. It’s not real, it’s the enemy who will try at all cost keep you down. DO NOT LISTEN!!!

We all hear change is not easy. No, it’s not, but you can do it! I have had days where it’s so black in my head, indeed a dark place no human wants to go.

Never give up. I don’t care how much you think you can’t I am living proof you can. Get off the canvas stand up and fight. You have it in you I know it in my heart.

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