Patience in the Real World

In today’s fast-paced world, patience seems like an overlooked virtue. We live in an era where everything is instant, from fast food to social media notifications. However, mastering the art of patience can bring numerous benefits to our personal and professional lives. In this article, we’ll explore the advantages of having patience and how to master it.

Benefits of Having Patience:

  1. Better Decision Making: When we’re patient, we give ourselves time to weigh our options and make informed decisions. Impulsive decisions often lead to regrets, whereas patient decision-making can help us avoid mistakes and make better choices.
  2. Improved Relationships: Patience is a critical component of healthy relationships. Being patient allows us to communicate more effectively, empathize with others, and resolve conflicts peacefully, whether it’s with a partner, family member, or coworker.
  3. Reduced Stress: Rushing through tasks and constantly feeling pressure can lead to stress and burnout. Patience helps us slow down, prioritize tasks, and manage our time more effectively. This can lead to a more relaxed and fulfilling life.
  4. Increased Productivity: It may seem counterintuitive, but being patient can increase our productivity. When we take the time to plan and execute our tasks with patience, we’re more likely to complete them accurately and efficiently.
  5. Improved Mental Health: Impatience can lead to feelings of frustration, anxiety, and irritability. On the other hand, being patient can reduce these negative emotions and improve our overall mental health.
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How to Master Patience:

  1. Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness is being present at the moment and focusing on our thoughts and feelings without judgment. Practicing mindfulness allows us to be patient with ourselves and others.
  2. Set Realistic Expectations: Unrealistic expectations can lead to impatience and frustration. Instead, set achievable goals and recognize that progress takes time.
  3. Learn to Delay Gratification: Delaying gratification is the ability to resist the temptation of immediate rewards and wait for a more significant benefit in the future. Practice delaying gratification in small ways, such as waiting to eat dessert after dinner, and gradually build up to bigger goals.
  4. Practice Deep Breathing: Deep breathing can help calm our minds and reduce stress. For example, when we’re impatient, we take a few deep breaths and focus on the present moment.
  5. Surround Yourself with Positive Role Models: Surrounding ourselves with the patient, positive people can help us cultivate patience in our own lives. Seek out role models who embody the qualities you want to develop and learn from their examples.

Patience is a valuable skill that can benefit our personal and professional lives. By practicing mindfulness, setting realistic expectations, delaying gratification, practicing deep breathing, and surrounding ourselves with positive role models, we can master the art of patience and enjoy a more fulfilling life.


Patience is valuable to your life for several reasons. Firstly, patience helps you make better decisions. When you’re patient, you take the time to think things through and consider all your options before deciding. This can help you avoid impulsive decisions that you might regret later.

Secondly, patience can help you build better relationships. When you’re patient, you can better listen to others and understand their perspective. This can help you communicate more effectively, resolve conflicts peacefully, and build stronger relationships with the people around you.

Thirdly, patience can help you reduce stress and improve your mental health. You might feel frustrated, anxious, or irritable when you’re impatient. But when you’re patient, you can manage your emotions more effectively and reduce stress. This can lead to improved mental health and overall well-being.

Finally, patience can help you achieve your goals and be more successful. You can better plan, prioritize, and execute your tasks when you’re patient. This can increase productivity and success in your personal and professional life.

In summary, patience is valuable to your life because it can help you make better decisions, build better relationships, reduce stress, improve your mental health, and achieve your goals. By cultivating patience, you can enjoy a more fulfilling and successful life.

A Guide To Real Change

A sneak look at my book A Guide To Real Change. Check out Chapter 1 of this fantastic book and begin the journey to change your life. We all need help changing aspects of our lives!

Chapter 1

 Together We Begin

Excuse me, hello, excuse me. Yes, you! Can you look this way, please? You’re looking at yesterday; I need you focused forward, thank you!

Are you looking forward to TODAY? When you woke up, did your feet hit the floor, with a smile on your face? Most likely not read on.

“Never let yesterday use up too much of today.”—Will Rogers

Today is all you have. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is just that tomorrow. So, what can you do to make today a good day? Plan for it. Have a program that has tasks that need doing today. Prepare the night before at least three things you know for sure you can accomplish in a day.

Have small successes every day. Complete tasks that will help bring about big success in whatever aspect of your life that needs help the most right now. Learn productivity vs. activity, read on you’ll see what I mean.

What happens is we tend to get to scattered out with all the things we need to fix. Like, relationships, jobs, ourselves, bills, and the list gets bigger. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time! Apply that to your life, and you will achieve much more.

This process of change has eluded me. By appearance, just organizing aspects of our life for success seem simple. The real test is, are you doing it now? Will you stay consistent?

Here are some tasks to help you get started:

  1. Set daily reminders on your phone to alert you to functions for that day.
  2. Use apps like Google Tasks, Google Calendar, they’re free. I use them, and they help me a lot.
  3. Make time in the evening to plan out tasks (minimum 3) for the next day.
  4. DON’T PROCRASTINATE!
  5. Use a calendar to help your track deadlines. Also, a Project Management app is a great way to keep track of your progress.

Five quick things you can do today!

It’s your turn to win! Get started right now. Don’t think, DO!!!

This book is the first step. Keep going.

Where to Begin

You are coming to a point in life where the outcome thus far is a disaster. If this is you, welcome, I welcome you to the beginning of your new life. Just reading this won’t bring change. If you want this, it’s going to take some work.

Before we begin, the importance of this one thing Patience! It cannot be understated.

“Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.”—Joyce Meyer

Without the patience to allow change to occur, you will stifle progress. My mother always told me this “it took you fifty years to break your life; give yourself time to change.” She was right as most moms are.

Where a failure occurs, most is the lack of patience to allow change to occur. We live in the “I want it right now society.” Get that out of your head right now. Where I stumbled hard — not allowing the universe to set a new course for my life. Think of yourself as a large ship that needs turning around. It takes a wide berth to achieve a safe turn.

Beginning the process will have its trials and tribulations. Your mind will fill with self-doubt, where patience becomes a struggle. Misery loves the company, and your noodle will remind you that “we love pain, we’re comfortable here” because you are comfortable in pain. You won’t let go quickly.

We all find ourselves in reflection to have a relationship with our pain. It takes years to develop, and it will take time to employ a paradigm shift.

Here is the skinny because I can sense those saying, “I don’t like pain.” We get so comfortable that our mind and body accept it as usual. Therefore, forbearance will see you through.

Don’t get discouraged when it seems that nothing is changing — allowing change to occur. Imposing your own will over a situation only makes an excellent job harder than it must be. You’ve heard I’m sure on God’s time, not my time.

Change cannot come without discomfort.

Don’t quit because of trouble. Evolution is not occurring as quickly as hoped. The pain of loss or other stressors is not dissipating.  The mind is continually in a barrage of negative thoughts, self-doubt, and feels as though nothing is getting better.

“I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”–Muhammad Ali

Keeping an eye towards a positive outcome. Being grateful in advance of anything manifesting good in life. Meditate on the result.

If you take a trip around the world at some point in time, weather delays, airport delays, canceled flights, lost luggage, lost hotel reservations, something is going to happen. The chances are high that more than once.

Would you stop an ounce in a lifetime around the world trip over a delay? No, you deal with it and keep going!

What could you tell the younger you if you could? When you’ve drifted out into life like a space void only to look back into the abyss. You get a pit in your stomach that gives way to wow this sucks. Not exactly the experience you envisioned as a younger you.

Hitting the last half of life looking in a rear-view mirror that looks like an apocalyptic mess. Challenging our thoughts with “what a waste.” It begins to stifle any outlook because age has overtaken youth. The idea “I’m not the same as I once was.”

If you’re boldly marching into a mid-life crisis, menopause, or qualify for an AARP® membership. This story is for you. More importantly, if life has not turned out as you planned or hoped, does this give you a feeling of doom?

Everything we’ve read self-help wise in our lives has said to look forward never look back. Easier said than done but very accurate.

Over a year ago, I faced the questions I am posing to you now and staring divorce in the face, that at the time I did not want. With that situation at hand, my mind forced me to look back over my life. What I saw was not the beautiful painting I had hoped it would be — instead, everything past has illuminated for me to see very clearly — damned ugly!

The real kicker is a good bit; you don’t want to change, but the ugly is ugly. This also brings up a question that is the nasty uglier because of the situation currently adding to our loss or stress.

Not only is loss bringing pain, but so is life as we’ve lived it to date. As you often see in text messages, WTF!

Where do we go from here? How can you pick yourself up out of hell and gaze into the mirror and say I love you?

The strength needed to face you is perhaps the solidity you’ve searched for all your life. The power that comes from faith the best is yet to come and believe it. Facing you in the mirror. What do you see?

The choices of what you see can be boundless when in the depths of pain. The pain can become so unbearable that terrible darkness can overtake your thoughts. Damn, what a dark place. Are you sufficiently depressed?

Here is where we learn what advice we would have given our younger self. From this fountain of youth comes wisdom to carry us into our Senior years with a new brighter outlook. The struggle to realize life was not over. It merely takes recalibration of our thoughts.

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Patience

One of the hardest traits in my life to learn, from my New Book: Mastering Life God’s Way:

Patience!

“I believe that a trusting attitude and a patient attitude go hand in hand. You see, when you let go and learn to trust God, it releases joy in your life. And when you trust God, you’re able to be more patient. Patience is not just about waiting for something… it’s about how you wait, or your attitude while waiting.”—Joyce Meyer

Without which, you will stifle growth by imposing your own will that goes against what your destiny shall become.

Keep in mind that life, you must allow destiny to adjust itself, change trajectory, for your destiny to unfold. Changing your life means a whole new direction, so you must allow God to move things around to fulfill your destiny.

Let’s say you want a fantastic job that is currently filled by an amazing person. Someone that has left a real mark in this life. Someone, that if you knew them personally would be a friend! Let’s say this person is going to retire in six months. God’s plan is for you to fall right into this job that currently you are totally unaware of. Without patience, you may give up just a few yards from the finish line. Don’t be that person!

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Nothing worth having happens overnight. Shortcuts get rich quick; you have to work seven days a week; it is all garbage. Beautiful flowers don’t bloom overnight. The sun does not rise all at once. Everything in our lives happens in the time our destiny is supposed to unfold before our eyes. Any faster, and you lose the real blessing.

God’s will, not our will. Let that naturally happen, and wow! When you impose your own will, we tend to want everything right now. Do this, and you will receive, tension, stress, overwhelmed mind, and misery. Then you’ll quit, instead of receiving the beautiful blessings headed your way.

Patience is the Key, Blessings, Success, and Life

“Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.”–Joyce Meyer 
Letting God do his work takes time. Patience allows God to see your faith, that you trust enough to allow your life’s destiny to open up as it should. When you lose hope because times get tough slows the progress.

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We all struggle with patience because we want everything right now. Living in a world that wants us to believe now!

The struggle is we don’t see an outcome being positive quickly enough then our first instinct is to jump in the middle of something that needs time. Yes, you have to do the work, what’s necessary to move things along.

There is a difference in taking steps to realize a change, or forcing something that is not altogether ready to manifest. For example, a relationship you push too hard when you push someone away because you don’t give them the time and space to come to the same place you are.

Worse still is you merely give up. “Oh this is not going to work, or it would have by now.” The Universe will align the sun, the moon, and the stars in your favor with Patience. Remember you cannot say I want a new job and then order a pizza and wait. You have to get out and do the work, look for a job, interview and keep chugging until you here “Welcome we want to hire you.”

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Patience will Open UP your Destiny

“I believe that an open attitude and a patient attitude go hand in hand. You see, when you let go and learn to trust God, it releases joy in your life. And when you trust God, you’re able to be more patient. Patience is not just about waiting for something… it’s about how you wait, or your attitude while waiting.”–Joyce Meyer

Patience is not something that comes quickly to me. However, the more I learn to have patience, the more blessings that move through my life. Everyone I believe wants what they want, and they want it now!

Prayer, faith, God

Patience!

Life, however, does not happen on our timeline but the timeline of the Universe, God. If we learn to do the work necessary to have a faith-filled life. Letting our destiny unfold as it should with no force from our own will. Then peace-of-mind lays upon us like a warm blanket.

Learn to do the work needed to move your life forward, have a calm faith-filled knowledge that all will come to you in good time. Fantastic pieces of your destiny will begin to flow to you like a river.

When adversity comes, and it will learn what lessons you can from it, gain strength so that you may move past. Patience will be tested but hold on!

Patience, faith, good work, and life will open up to you!

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