Tying it All Together, Sneak Peek

This is a little sneak peek from the new book I am working on Tying it All Together. So many books out there that fix this or that. As part of the Life Research Project, we begin to pull all of my books into one. 

What was always lacking for me in self-improvement was solving a little piece of the puzzle when I needed a complete life change, total immersion. 

Enjoy this from a current book project Tying it All Together.

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“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”—Thomas A. Edison

First, we get out of our language anything to do with lack. The “I can’t” or “I don’t have” is not part of the English language of your new life.

Second, nay Sayers are just that. People who can’t do a thing themselves and naturally you can’t either if you listen to that bilge. What you’re now looking for are Mentors, people who uplift you.

Throughout history, people have done things that others said could not be done. Or invented things that folks need. All the while, naysayers are “It can’t be done.” Horse hockey!

Limiting beliefs are placed in our sub-conscious over years of saying I can’t. This is also not limited to just that phrase. Years and years of self-defeating language has us convinced we cannot.

Dogpile on top of that, family, friends, managers, whomever, telling you that you don’t have what it takes, you don’t have the education, people who do that are gifted. What? You can teach yourself anything.

Okay, I give. You can’t teach yourself to be a brain surgeon. My point with this statement is I doubt you’re looking to become a brain surgeon, don’t overthink what your ability can or cannot achieve. Start, try, give it a shot, jump, swim, just begin is the point!

So, in this chapter, we’re going to start replacing limiting language and thoughts. How you say, well I have an answer for that. Without this step in the process, later in the book, you will have more difficulty if you don’t make the changes now.

What do we have to change:

  1. Replace limiting thoughts with thoughts of okay how do I achieve this (the what is irrelevant at this point).
  2. Be aware of the language, the words that we use. I can’t, is NO longer a word in your mind’s dictionary. Don’t worry; I am going to share how to get rid of this stuff.
  3. Self-defeating actions. Self-sabotage, and worst of all, procrastination.

There is a lot more to the life changes than just the three I listed. You get a general idea.  As we move through chapters, we will cover a great deal more ground.

For many years we teach ourselves unknowingly that we can’t achieve certain things. Limiting beliefs are ingrained in our subconscious mind over the years. Taking time now to change this old habit and create new ones will take work and time.

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Positive Attitude unlocks, Happy, Hope, Joy, Peace, Prosperity

“If you have a positive attitude and constantly strive to give your best effort, eventually you will overcome your immediate problems and find you are ready for greater challenges.”–Pat Riley

What we’ve been talking about in this year on the blog has really focused our attention on the organized effort. Not letting fear overcome our positive attitude. Fighting through fear!

When we strive to these paradigms, ideas, and focus. We will overcome and handle more significant challenges as they come.pray,prayer, God

Every day, put your best foot forward. Steps forward create momentum this momentum will increase strength and the size of your actions. Cancel negative thoughts as they come. Somedays those negative thoughts can come in a barrage. Just let the enemy know he can throw the kitchen sink at you. God has you!

Just know in your heart that no matter how much you struggle to find any reason to be definite, sometimes just surrender to God. Tell him that he knows your heart today is a struggle, and you’re not giving up.

When you learn to maintain a positive attitude in the face of adversity. Incredible changes, blessing, and hope will reveal themselves to you. Stay strong!

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Conflict in your Head Getting Rid of It

“Conflict cannot survive without your participation.”–Wayne Dyer

What I loved about Wayne Dyer is his ability to evolve his spiritual awareness. He was open to receive the grace of the universe, God.

The quote rings so true for me. Conflict in my head is what slows me down. Not taking the time to resolve my thoughts to accept what is and faith for what will be.

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Staying in faith that God will work through my life if I just let him. I’m terrible about hanging onto the past. Mistakes that we make are not life sentences of internal pain. This exists when we participate in that conflict.

Letting go of it is not easy for some. We get okay with pain, wallow in our own self-loathing. Begging the question, how do we stop this behavior?

Learning to forgive yourself is where I started. Throughout my life, I have chosen unwisely many times. Costing me relationships, especially with family. How you can resolve yourself is to not do the old behavior. Live life as a better you!

Don’t accept the status quo!   

Today I don’t live as I did in the past. After enough loss in my life, what the hell us could I do? So you dive in and learn to live a life that YOU can be proud of. A secure measuring stick is to ask yourself when you’re doing something “would grandma approve?” When you are doing anything, we all know right from wrong!

This cliche when you have arrived at this place in your mind; “Sick and Tired of being Sick and Tired.” Crying, depressed, or ready to give up? DO NOT!

Change can hurt, change can take time. On the other side of change is the life God promises you will have. It’s not just going to happen this moment we all have to do the work. It’s so worth it!

Hurt comes in many forms. So this article applies if you’ve suffered loss from divorce, death, betrayal, or any number of things that were out of your control.

The pain you are going through is not as significant as how you deal with it. Learning to deal with our grief healthily takes work. It’s worth the time and effort necessary to change old paradigms. The promise of life, happiness, and joy exist.

I can hear you screaming, Okay, how:

  1. Throw everything in your head up to God. Pray and confess everything negative in your life. Let him know you are ready for a change.
  2. Breathe. Take time every day to just stop and breathe. Don’t say this is stupid until you actually try. I thought to breathe whatever. Just take a minute or two only and breathe.
  3. Learn to meditate. It’s super easy!
  4. Get toxic people out of your life. Don’t listen to someone’s poisonous bile. You control the person you are, not someone else.
  5. Patience. Nothing worth having comes overnight. Go at your pace, JUST GO. This is not a contest. Do things every day that help moves your life forward. Some days big stips, somedays small steps. Forward motion is always a good thing.

Okay, so five things to get you started. Now it’s your turn. GET STARTED!

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Idle Time Sucks, Let’s Change That

Idle time sucks. Your head gets filled with garbage of the past and anything else the enemy can throw up to remind you of darker times. Thus keeping you in the darker reaches of your life. Hence idle time sucks. I want to share a couple of things I am doing to find peace during idle time.

Today for me is one of those days. I had good morning closing two new clients, so that had me bouncing on cloud nine. Always great to move forward in business.

Then the day grinds down to a halt. My head begins to run amuck. Wow, let’s relive every mistake I’ve made in my life. Reruns of my life seem to be on a projector that just loops and loops.

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So, to get me out of my head. I said down with my laptop and started typing. At least I recognize what’s going on with my noodle. Question, why can’t we be okay during quiet times? So many of us struggle with being okay with being alone in our mind.

Yes, I have confessed my past that I am not proud of to God. When I’m busy everything rocks along, and I am to busy not to be at peace. Sometimes though it would be nice to be quiet, be in the moment but be okay. I am the problem in this scenario. We can choose to be happy or sad, but it must be a choice.

Today is also the first birthday I have spent in many years alone. Or at least without my wife. So, it’s been a good day for many reasons and a sad one. Reliving everything I have done, should have done, argh! No, not self-pity moment, but one of realization. Everything going on today is a choice. Recognizing that is the real achievement in my life.

Every day we all must make choices to be happy or have a bad day. The difficulty lies in your head. Living in your head causes all kinds of issues. Choosing to live in your heart, in your soul where God is now that’s a choice. A little easier said than done, but entirely within grasp.

What I do every day now is take moments to embrace God, search my heart for peace. I do this on my morning prayer walk at work. I walk outside for a time and talk to God. Visualize me happy, prosperous and at peace. Peace began to last longer and longer in my days. I don’t choose to recognize mediocrity in myself anymore.

Choose to walk in faith as I do every day. It truly helps, and you will begin to find peace in your head. Idle time will be something you look forward to not dreading. I pray you find the peace we all have from God. Have a blessed idle time day!

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