Life Detox

This is the first chapter of Life Detox. How we can cleanse, mind, body, and soul. Sometimes it’s just time to rip off the bandaid and be done with it! Choose to begin anew!

Chapter 1 

Why 

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”—Michael Jordan

Perfection is not the goal; persistence is our focus. 

You’ve all heard you need to find your way. True but, in this scenario, the why needs to be you’re sick-and-tired-of-being-sick-and-tired! Enough is enough. Well, I can tell you that over a year ago, that is where I found myself. 

(Get a pad of paper to do some writing) To make any lasting change, grab the paper! 

Here are some questions you need to ask yourself:

 

  • Is your life where you hoped it would be right now?

 

  • Are you depressed most of the time?
  • Are you merely going through the paces of daily life with no real direction, work, go home, that’s about all?
  • Are you unhappy? Why?
  • If money, time, education, depression were not the problem. What would fulfill your life?

 

 

Please take the time to put some real thought into the questions. If you follow along this way, we can save you a great deal of time. 

You must get very clear on what you would like to see your life become. One of the biggest epiphanies I’ve experienced don’t worry about the HOW, set your sail to the horizon of where you want your life. 

Imagine getting on a boat for a long journey. You set sail, and off you go. Along the way, you most assuredly will face rough seas. When you begin the rough journey seas, severe weather is not part of the equation when you decided to set sail. 

The end destination is more important than how we get there! If you had a chance to visit some beautiful faraway island, once in a lifetime opportunity. Would you not go because you MIGHT run into bad weather? Did you not go because you thought the how was more difficult — focusing on the “what if’s” instead of the outcome? 

Logic would suggest you have a plan that includes how. So how do you plot this course change in life without knowing how you’re going to traverse the course to a destination. When you set out on any journey let’s say a storm comes up, do you sail directly through it? No, you may have to recalibrate a new route. 

My point is you don’t know all the “how’s” that will change your course unexpectedly. However, if you worry yourself before you set sail, you’ll stifle any chance of real change! 

I can hear you! “How do you not worry about how?” These are bullet points that will explain: 

 

  • Have a clear definition of the result. Know what you want clearly! 

 

  • Learn to meditate on the result you desire, see it in your mind’s eye. Feel in every part of your being what it would feel like to have achieved that which you want most. 
  • Have unwavering faith it will happen. A prayer might sound like “God you know what I desire in my heart, I have faith you will provide everything I need for that, what you put in my heart to achieve. I don’t know how we will do this; I trust you have the way.
  • Pray for wisdom and guidance.
  • Set realistic expectations. Reach to be sure.

 

 

How to turn from wishful thinking to ACTION:

 

  • What is one step you can take right now to begin your journey? Forget the words significant steps, little steps. Every step forward creates forward momentum. 

 

  • Learn the difference between activity vs. productivity. 
  • Learn to plan your day for production — set reminders for tasks that produce results. Stay on task!
  • Take time to research and put into action what you learn to achieve your desire. Fill yourself as though you’re filling a pitcher with knowledge.
  • When self-doubt and the like hit your noodle, remember this, whatever negative thoughts you’re having it’s temporary. Work through it even when you think you cannot.

 

 

The how will come to you. Take steps every day, and you will begin to gain momentum. 

“When you begin to worry, go find something to do. Get busy being a blessing to someone; do something fruitful. Talking about your problem or sitting alone, thinking about it does no good! It serves only to make you miserable. Above all else, remember that worrying is useless. Worrying will not solve your problem.”–Joyce Meyer

A struggle for everyone.  When everything in your life is overwhelmingly worrisome. So how do we get through that?

When you begin to realize that no matter what you’re going through in life, it’s temporary. If you get flustered stifling any sort of progress the situation stalls or gets worse.

Begin to look at trials and tribulations as a coaching exercise. Learn to realize God is coaching you to become a world-class you! What do coaches do? They train you to go beyond what you believe you can do. Stretch yourself beyond your limiting beliefs.

Life is changing for me. I don’t look at difficulties as a problem, but a learning experience is preparing me to handle anything life can throw at me. Yes, at times, you can feel alone, lost, and defeated. At this moment I think of myself as running dead last in a race. I can choose to fail, or I can run my heart out and win.

God is merely working all of us out. He is training us to handle anything the enemy can throw to disrupt our life. Why can’t God fix my life? He is trying by letting you work through the pain to strengthen your resolve.

It hurts I can’t do it! God never puts more on our plate than we can handle. Hard to understand, but here is the skinny. Get through this because on the other side of pain is your destiny. Bigger and brighter than you can imagine.

Change the way you look at problems. They’re not happening at you they’re happing for you!

Here are some exercises you can do to change your state-of-mind: Crank up some music that gets you dancing. Music can immediately improve your state and put a smile on your face. 

 

  • Breathe. Take 60 seconds or so and breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth, beautiful and relaxing. 

 

  • Pray — nothing like a good prayer. You can hand God the garbage he is ready to be a blessing to you and carry it out. 
  • Meditate. Find the right place to meditate and relax your mind and body.

 

 

Take a walk. Get outdoors and walk to help relieve muscle stress. Throw on some headphones and good music. Change your state-of-mind, and you will change your life. 

Time outdoors can be incredibly cathartic to the soul. Taking in nature, walking by a river, standing on the beach, anywhere that God has touched the landscape. You can look up and happily say to God, “show off.” Smiling in awe of the world around you. 

When you can take these moments to find clarity in your head, good thoughts, new ideas, and fresh perspectives will become the norm. 

One thing that I did put up a bird-feeder. Birds are incredibly funny and beautiful to watch. I have found myself sitting for long periods just enjoying my birds and clearing my head when I’m not trying — just enjoying the moment.

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You Have to Live Today Anyway, be Happy, Have Fun, Smile

“When I wake up, I expect things to be good. If they’re not, then I try to set about trying to make them as good as I can ’cause I know I’m gonna have to live that day anyway. So why not try to make the most of it if you can? Some days, they pan out a little better than others, but you still gotta always just try.”–Dolly Parton

What is your expectation when you wake up every day? 

If you begin each day with a grateful heart, realize you may have bumps in the road today, but you have a Monster Truck that blows right over bumps, fences, construction, mud, snow, ice, you name it your Monster Truck resolve for life can blow right through!

Let’s do like Dolly says and work to make every day a bit better even when it might not be the rainbow/marshmallow day you were hoping for.

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Wake Up Happy!

Happiness truly begins with a grateful heart. Declare your gratitude each and every day. Several times per day. If we learn to be thankful for what we have, then God will bless our lives with more abundance.

We all have bad days and can find ourselves in a dark place. Everyone! Don’t fall prey to depression as best you can. Obviously, if you suffer, get help. Where and when you can smile, let God now that you’re grateful for the smallest of blessings. Moreover, you’re thankful for the benefits to come, happiness, health, and prosperity.

Smile and have a blessed day! 

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Impossible is Possible!

“It always seems impossible until it’s done.”–Nelson Mandela

It’s only impossible if you think it is. Nothing is if you believe in your heart, you can. You’re not too old, not too young, not enough education, not enough blah, blah, blah. You are if you BELIEVE YOU ARE!

Life takes work, life takes courage. Grab your courage, and let’s GO.

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Need to Stop Arguing this may Help

How to start a civil conversation when you and your spouse, significant other, are fighting to the point you can’t say a nice word. This takes both you coming to the table as a cease-fire.

This is a fantastic way to have a civil conversation. What our goal will be is to talk without fighting. If you can begin a civil discourse, then you can start to find healing words and a way back to happiness.

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For this, to work, you have to both agree to NOT talk about your fight. This is a total cease-fire of all ugliness! Each must come with an open heart. 

  1. Make a time where you can sit down totally uninterrupted. No alcohol, no wine, just coffee or a soda. The two of you ONLY. Kids need to-go-to grandmas.
  2. Each of you agrees with no curse words.
  3. Rock, paper, scissors to see who talks first. Best two out of three if needed.

So what is the conversation going to be?

Give this some thought before you sit down. Assuming you are agreed.

Pick something about your life that your partner does not really know about you. The story can be about anything except for a topic that Segways into your argument. 

The whole point of this is to talk about something that allows the two of you to communicate! Each takes a turn in telling a story, having a conversation that is merely the two of you talking.

If you’ve completed this, we have one more exercise.

What made you fall in love with each other? Have a conversation about what makes you happy together.

If you can do these two things then perhaps what you’re arguing about is not that big a deal. Sometimes, we just need to talk civilly and then remember why we love one another.

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Life Changes can be a Twirl & Hurl Ride

Successful people will tell you that one thing that sets them apart is they’re willing to take one more step than you. Meaning you must be ready to move through the marathon wall and not give up. Giving up is a habit that we can break!

The other difference is people confuse activity with productivity. Don’t just merely be busy be productive in every area of your life.

Life can be a twirl & hurl ride. Up and down repeatedly. Are you ready to put down the puke bag and live a life without tummy medicine? Of course, you are and so am I. Together we can walk a new path, set a new trajectory for our lives.

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Faith that you will succeed in all aspects of your life takes commitment. What you’re reading is an all-encompassing view of success. The relationship, Spiritual, Career, Family, and most importantly for you. Not a conceded look but you have the right to be successful for yourself.

Without an inner peace that life is a joy, it really won’t matter the rest. Finding a personal success in our lives is something to strive for. With it, you’re unstoppable!

Finding our way for some is an emotional roller coaster that gives a whole new meaning to “twirl and hurls.” Keeping our faith in all aspects of our lives that all is well, trusting in the positive and not the negative. Struggling through can be overwhelming. Don’t walk alone anymore. God is here you no longer have to be alone.

One thing that really stands out to me is without success in all aspects of our lives; then something is always missing. Success is not money if you believe that welcome to chasing your tail. Life balance in all areas is a real success. It’s not the measure of your wallet!

Seeing so many successful programs available that are only about business success. Nothing is really touching on the fact that if you don’t have success in your personal relationships, spiritual growth, personal growth, then any progress you might have outside of these areas will be fleeting at best.

 “Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.”—Joyce Brothers

What steps are needed to take to achieve success?

  1. Patience is most certainly required to achieve success in any part of life. Some things will come quickly and some slow. Getting frustrated will only delay progress. Remember imposing you will interrupt what God’s plan is for you.
  2. Do the work necessary to move life forward as best you can. Some days that may be small steps other giant steps. Moving forward, big or small is all good.
  3. Never let setbacks end the process. See them for what they are delays only. A dear friend in the Church explained it to me this way. Perhaps the delay is driven by God working out other situations so that your progress can continue. That if you had just hung in a bit more, the train would start moving again.
  4. Make time for growth. Don’t overwhelm yourself trying to do everything at one time. I find myself guilty of this. Trying to shove too much into a short period. Mark off time in your calendar to focus on one thing. Whether it’s for a few minutes or a couple of hours, be present at that moment!
  5. Open your heart to new ideas that perhaps not being familiar with have shunned away. Learning new ideas, techniques, and knowledge can move your life along in ways never dreamt of.

Have a master plan!

“Being busy does not always mean real work. The object of all work is production or accomplishment, and to either of these ends, there must be forethought, system, planning, intelligence, and honest purpose, as well as perspiration. Seeming to do is not doing.” — Thomas A. Edison

Sit down and identify how you intend to get from point A to point B. If you don’t have a clear plan spinning your wheels will be commonplace. Put on paper what you want to achieve, how you intend to get there and begin. You can revise your plan as your life evolves.

Once the process has begun updating progress and changes daily will help move along the process.

One thing that really helps me. Set reminders in your phone to remind you to stay on course.

Example:

  • Meditate with an open heart and mind.
  • Use affirmations to remind you that things are going to be okay.
  • Remind yourself everyday changes you desire to make in your life.

If you have never been to where you’re going in your life. Then a roadmap is a good idea. Goals, a plan, and progress reports will all help you get there. If you don’t plot a course, you will merely sail around in circles. The primary key to unlocking the power of your goals is visioned it like its already to you. You have already that which you desire to achieve.

Being grateful that you already have achieved the goal even though it has not manifested yet. It’s all just a matter of time. Believe with all that is you, that you have what you desire.

Doing this in every aspect of life. Health, Spiritual, Relationship, Business, or whatever you deem a worthy venture for yourself. Have a plan! If you have others in this process, bring them on board as part of your process. Mentors that uplift and challenge your status quo!

Absolute Commitment!

When it’s time to change people often bail when the going gets tough. The mind tricks us into believing it’s too hard or painful. The enemy is going to crack down hard to keep you in misery. Don’t be fooled into stopping progress. Don’t be tricked into mediocrity.

This takes practice, and that’s okay. Learning to want something with all your heart is easier said than done. Doubt, fear, and old paradigms can stifle progress. Leaning to have unwavering faith in the absence of results is something learned.

Prayer, meditation, visioning, affirmations, all must become a part of daily life experience. It’s not hard; it just takes commitment.

Anytime we change our lives for the better; often all hell breaks loose in our head. Doubt, fear, and worry. It’s easy to quit or freak out to the point we fail. Even when you come to the brink of disaster if you can stay in faith, believe even when you see nothing to think for.

Take a step right now. Don’t delay, get started this very moment. Take one action forward. This is how the journey begins, one phase at a time! You got this!

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