Single Mom Living My Best Life

My New Book just published today. Enjoy the Introduction and you have a link at the bottom of the page to visit my Author Page available at Amazon.

A Guide for Extraordinary Change

single mothers, mom, parenting

Introduction

‘When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, ‘I used everything you gave me.’”—Erma Bombeck

Well, let’s start with the obvious. I’m not a single Mom, and why should you listen to this dude?

How about answering a couple of questions first?

  1. What if you could learn self-confidence enough to crush all your goals?
  2. What if you could learn to earn more money than you ever have?

No, we’re not selling pipedreams!

I felt compelled to share my life experience, knowledge of business, my Christian faith for single moms that might be struggling to make ends-meat.

What I am suggesting to you is that if you lack confidence, don’t believe you can go any further than where you are right now. You could not be more wrong.

This book will teach you confidence building through faith.  How to overcome negative mindsets. Most importantly, how to not only sell how valuable you are but potentially find a career in sales. Perhaps even further in whatever endeavor YOU choose! How about an I want a job, not a have-to-have mundane job?

Sales skills can help you advance any job. When you can ethically build value in products or services, you offer. You will begin to see your career move like the wind. I will teach you to do this in a fun and engaging way.

Throughout the book, exercises, notes, and learning will occur. Get a notebook to have ready to do some fun work.

Taking our life and turning it on its axis, shaking it up, and on the other side is your joy, peace, and smile!

Many times, over the years, I have heard Pastors say. Bring everything to the Lord. Nothing is too big or small. Joel Osteen once said if God can bring into existence the Universe. Don’t you imagine he can bring into reality your dreams?

TD Jakes, who makes me laugh wonderfully. Talks about bringing wimpy prayers to God. He, too, uses the analogy God flung the universe into existence, and all you’re going to ask him for is, “Oh Lord, please, I need to pay my rent.” He, in a bold voice, says stop asking God to pay your rent but ask God for the means and way to have a mortgage.

With work and faith together in this book, we can move mountains.

Get all the stereotypical sales guy images out of your head, open your heart, and let’s learn! When I speak about sales skills if you can use your power of persuasion in the betterment of your life. Wow, watch what you can do!

Single moms of which by the way I was raised by one. Perhaps I have some insight given the struggles my Mother endured.

When I was three years old, my father took me, my little sister and mother to my maternal grandparents’ home. Dropped us off to never return. I can remember my mother from time-to-time crying uncontrollably.

Fast forward my life to times I remember how hard it was on my mom. One morning I remember when I was seven, maybe eight years old. My mother was in the bathroom, and I heard a crash and a break in the bathroom sink.

My mother had saved her money to by some sort of face cream, something just for her. It dropped and apparently broke in the sink to the point of being ruined. I remember hearing her crying so hard, saying, “I never ask for anything why?” “I saved for months to get this, oh God.”

It was haunting to me. I knew my mother’s heart was torn for something she had struggled so hard to get.

Over the years, my mother gave up her life for my sister and me. She never really dated because my sister and I had terrible times with she would leave us. We had abandonment issues so severe that my mother simply stopped trying to have her own life.

She also worked her ass off, never in my life can I remember that my mother took a sick day from work. Two times in her life, she was hospitalized for cysts in her breasts. Doctors wanted to do a biopsy. Thank God she was always okay.

My mother made clothes, and other personal items work well beyond what they should. Just so, my sister and I could have new things. Or just food on the table.

She made sure we got to ski competitively. That I had new skis each season. Paid for ski trips to races. As a child, you don’t realize what this is assuredly costing our family.

Now that my mother is in her eighties, I can reflect on what she did for me in my life. The sacrifice (although she would never say that) she made for me. I don’t think any of us would change our life.

For me, maybe at this moment do I now realize why this book and why you.

If I could bestow any bit of wisdom upon you. My mother in her day did not have the same access to the internet, cell phones, information as you do today. Her choice was to, at any cost, make sure my sister and I were cared for. She did that with grace.

Some of you will say well, that’s what a Mother is supposed to do. That be the case, my mother passed this test with grace. Today, however, I believe if you’re a single Mom, you might have an opportunity to not only be the Mom you want to be but to be the individual you dream of being. I tell ladies you can have both!

You have before you a world in which you have choices beyond just taking care of your children. You can also have a life with not only your children but one in which you can have an experience to the point that you say to God at the end of your days. “Thanks, that was a hell of a ride!”

Limits are only set by you. There is no stone tablet, no law, nothing to prevent you from achieving all that life has to offer.

My mother was a voracious reader all her life. Now sitting here writing this. It occurs to me that maybe, therefore, I wanted to write as my career!

Since I cannot change the trajectory of my Mother loving choices. Maybe, just maybe, I can share with you enough to help shape the trajectory of your life. I can share useful information, but this is a path you must walk.

You don’t know how the course of our life and the lives around us will shape us. I believe that I understand better why I am an author today than ever before.

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Move Forward Peace Is Here

If anyone ever told me how strong a fight, the enemy would put upon me. I might not have come to the battle. If you’re like me, the enemy can get a stronghold in your mind. Place the most terrible thoughts in your head. Sadly to the point of exhausting you from the fight in mind.

Keeping in faith seems like a futile task. You want to give up! What I do in these moments and believe me, I get there. My thoughts yesterday had me crying so hard I had to stop the car. Beat the steering wheel screaming get out of my head. Have you ever found yourself in the wrong place? We all have so you’re not alone.

This all occurred for me after sitting through two church services. You would think that I would have been on top of the world. Yet the enemy got in my head hard. I loved what the pastor preached, but I struggled to stay present at the moment. It got worse on the drive home.

Someone that is helping me out right now and that I love very much for doing so. Was working for me in a terrible place. The Pastor’s words were most welcome. At Church, our Life Groups were meeting in the evening.

I made myself attend the life group. People I don’t know since I am new to the area having only just moved at the first of this month back to West Texas.

The life group is made up of beautiful people from my new church home. As we had dinner together, I began to ask questions about faith and dark moments. Trials that the enemy puts before us. Sharp is the dark place the enemy will get your mind.

As these beautiful people spoke to me, I did find peace after a day of battle in my mind. Because you seek peace with the lord, the enemy will pull out all the stops to convince you that you’re not worthy. I learned that God already has placed goodness and peace in my heart. I merely need to accept it.

What’s challenging to understand for most of us, I think. It’s tough to comprehend that you just have to believe. Our lives are conditioned to question everything. My prayer to God for you and myself. God, you have given your son so that I can be forgiven for all my sins. Your promise is a life of joy and abundance. I pray for anyone reading this, and myself that you give us the wisdom and strength in your word to overcome anything the enemy throws at us. That we are active in the Lord and the POWER OF HIS MIGHT! We pray this prayer together in Jesus Holy Name. Thank you for this blessing!

The real point here is that even when you think you lost, find some way to muster the strength to keep going. Help is around the corner, so don’t stop. I didn’t and noticed a feeling of peace that I could hold onto. Order is yours, I promise you will find it if you keep moving forward with God.

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Faith in God

 

Faith Eludes Me

When thinking of faith, I quickly come to realize without it I’m lost, but holding onto it is merely a struggle. It eludes me often. Believing in something that you can’t tangibly hold onto, feel or smell. It goes against some preconceived notion in the mind that you can’t find something you can’t see.

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Faith in God

So for me looking outside my noodle is where I find reasons for hope. Two things have happened to me the last two times I have gone to church. Things that you can’t explain why these blessings happened, but they did.

First, as you can tell, I write and love photography. As I sat in church with my sister and brother-in-law. The pastor was asking the congregation at the end of the service if anyone wanted to accept Christ in their life or if you felt disconnected from Christ and want to renew your faith to raise your hand. As the Pastor asked one last time to restore your faith in God, I raised my hand. The usher brought over some materials for me to read and a cd. As I was beginning to sit down, the pastor completely stopped everything and motioned “Sir, Sir, yes you sir.” I looked up to realize he was speaking to me. He said, “God is speaking to me now, and he is saying you need to continue to work on your creative life; this is good.” The service continued.

This is coming from a man who has never met me ever. My first time in this church in my life. Nothing would have connected me to the pastor except for God. If that was not God talking to me through him, what was it then?

Over the past week, my struggle with faith has been put to the test in a barrage of negative thoughts and self-loathing. Fighting the enemy from the moment I awake until my eyes shut, passing out for pure exhaustion from the battle.

So to my amazement and the amazement of my sister, who knows that my past week has been a troubling challenge with the enemy. My headaches this week from the battles have been some nights overwhelming.

What makes this indeed, thought-provoking. At the end of church service today as the pastor was ending the service he said that before the ceremony God spoke to his heart and he wanted to pray for people who couldn’t find peace in their head, suffered from terrible headaches. So he prayed over that. Again I was completely taken aback.

If God is not speaking to me in these moments, then this guy is a clairvoyant of such immense gifts as to be unrivaled by anyone. It’s God, and I get that!

Even with two big fish smacked across my head saying hey buddy, this is God and I hear, sadly I still struggle a bit. However, I do pause more to say wait a minute; perhaps something is understood that I need to believe in.

What I’m suggesting to you is that if faith eludes you. Then put yourself in situations where God might have a chance to speak to your heart. Whether that is church, nature, watching your kids play. Whatever just get yourself in a place that God can talk to you. One big thing, prayer!

If you don’t hear God like I did this past week. Then like I’m suggesting get somewhere, especially church where with no expectation you just allow what happens to be.

For me only after I lost my faith, not wholly mind you but lost. God nudged me, and what came to my heart was believe. God hears us even when we think he’s not listening. Many times this past week, I honestly thought I was alone.

Battling through these tough times for anyone can be daunting. My point is we’re not alone with faith in God and probably not alone on this earth. Don’t lose hope, I give you my word I won’t if you won’t miss trust. Let’s make that pact together and let God know what you’ve done!

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