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Stay in Faith Even When You Feel Hurt

Faith is something I am learning does pay off. For the last few months more so than any other time in my life, faith guides my life, but it does have its challenges!

Today for example: not only do I not want a divorce, but I also have to pay for it. Even though I don’t want a divorce it’s God has seen fit for my life to take a new direction. So faith will mean that I accept this, don’t freak out.

The choice I am making is to be okay with the divorce. My destiny is not with my current wife. So instead of curling up into a ball in my bed, I choose to accept the separation. Doesn’t mean I have to like it I do not. Believe in God requires faith and sometimes faith involves sacrifice. None of us have to like it, but if you want God’s promises in your life, then you have to embrace change.

In the midst of a break-up, we all want to believe we can’t live without our spouse. The pain of loss is the same as if they (God forbid) passed away. The damage is painful, and it damn well hurts. However, when you examine the fact that what is happening is for a more significant reason not yet revealed. Where I was in my life I through “all-in” with my faith that God has a plan for my life.

Looking back on my life the pattern has been the same. So breaking old paradigms, setting a new course and letting life open up without me imposing my will. Don’t misunderstand I do things to make sure my life is moving forward. The amazing thing is that God has blessed me with many new things.

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Not new things like guy toys. What he has given me are strength and modern wisdom. The power to let go of my marriage to see what God’s plan is for my life. This indeed has been a journey of tears and sorrow. I pwill freely admit times hurt like hell, put myself in a very dark place in my head. Depression kicked my ass for a time.

It’s when at my darkest moment, contemplating hurting myself. Because life didn’t make sense for me to even stay on this earth. It was at this moment that it came to me, that if I was going to save my own life despite the fact that I honestly felt worthless.

Spiritual life here I come! It’s taken prayer, visualization, church, and Christian friends to help guide my way. In my darkest moments, I tell God I am not losing this time I am with God. If you’ve read my blog, you will know the miracles that have blessed my life in the last few months. Without hesitation, my life right now is a miracle gift from God.

So today when it sucks that I have to move on and forward. “I am.” Just like any other day I pray to God “this time is for you, not I and I am not losing anymore.”

If you’re going through a break-up or divorce. I as you feel the pain, loss, and hurt. Just don’t believe life is over. It’s not easy, but if you decide you win this time, your new destiny will be more than you imagined or asked God for. Stay strong and please send me a note below if you need to vent!

God Bless!!!

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Shovel vs. Bulldozer

One of the hardest lessons to learn when you begin to allow faith to run your life is to let go of your cares. You must get out of God’s way. Standing with your shovel digging your way out. All the while God is sitting on his vast D8 Dozer waiting for you to move out of the way.bulldozer,faith,spirtuality

When you hand over life to God, it’s time to do the work before you but get out of his way. Meaning doesn’t hold onto doubt or fear, let that go so God can do his job in your life. Don’t confuse things by thinking you can tell God you need something and then lie on the couch while God provides. Nope, you need to get off your butt and do some work.
Faith comes in the form of not doubting God will provide. If you do the work faithfully, God will help you the rest of the way.shovel, jesus, God, faith

However, when life throws you a curve ball that whizzes right past your head. You can’t waiver in your faith. Even when all the odds stacked against you, this is where faith can waiver.

So, this is what I mean by you have a shovel God has the bulldozer. You must clear a giant area of life, you can labor with a small spade, or you can allow God to move it with a bulldozer. Always your choice to make.

Your shovel is weighted down with doubt, fear, and wavering faith. God’s bulldozer fueled with your unwavering faith, your gratitude, your prayer and your love of him. This powers God’s bulldozer. Your obedience to him powers the biggest bulldozer in the world.
Faith will make a difference in your life that you won’t be able to measure. Stay strong when everything in your head is fighting you. Use the Bulldozer!

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Stay Connected When all is Well

Staying connected to God when everything is okay. We all have times where everything is just okay. No real crisis is going on; life is just running along with little distractions. During this period, it’s easy to disconnect from God a little. Skip a prayer here, forget to be grateful and make excuses well everything is okay.

The reason this article came to pass is I found myself in a place of just okay. Nothing stressful, no catastrophes, all is well. I noticed some disconnect from God. Silence came over my soul, and I began to feel alone. It was at that moment I understood that God is an everyday commitment from me.meditate,spiritual, connected

Keeping in faith with God is an everyday pursuit well worth I might add. Even in good times or idle times that are rocking along okay. We must keep connected to God through prayer. Going to God for our problems is one thing but going to God with a grateful heart when all is well. Now that’s a relationship.

For me, it was easy to recognize because I began to feel alone in my heart. Not alone in a physical sense but a spiritual feeling. Slowed down my head and told myself “wait a minute, you’re not staying connected to God.” Recommitted me to stay on course.

My quick point here is staying with God first place in your heart. Even when he has cleared the path for you and all is well. Stay connected in that relationship, it might be quiet for a moment, but God hears. He may just be giving you rest for your obedience in trusting him.

Get connected to your spiritual walk and life will open up in ways you never imagined. I am living proof, doing so every day!

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Staying Strong Tough Times

The past few months have been trying for me. A new season of my life is beginning while another part of my life is ending. Difficult to not work and live in both realities. New beginnings are a blessing, yet I mourn the loss I have suffered.

Making a difference this time is my commitment to God that I won’t lose. Falling apart because of my loss, not losing my job due to depression. These historically would rule my life. This time is different.

It recognizes a pattern that must brake for a real change. Yes, the pain of loss is some days overbearing. Do I allow the suffering of something to overtake my life, possibly destroy it again? Or do I ask God to show me a new way? I chose God!spiritual, prayer, family

For me to break the cycle of my life, it’s time to trust in something more than myself. If you read my work, you will hear me say over and over “live in your head you’re done,” live in your heart, and you’re free.” I’m not suggesting you don’t use your head to walk a clear path. What I am suggesting is you look to your soul for guidance down the road.

When you take God’s will over your will, that is when change, blessing and more than you could imagine beginning to happen. Call that which is not into existence in your life now. Thank God for prayer for the grace you seek. For example: “God thank you for my renewed life in you” even when you don’t feel that, call it into your life. Be grateful for that which you cannot see. I do this every day, and the changes are truly life-changing.

You can choose to live the same, and you call the shots. Everyone has free will to do as they please. What I mean about living in your head. Reach deep inside you and ask God to change your life. If you do, this God will bless you. I have had miracles happen that have put me to happy tears. Set in the work to change your life, it’s worth the investment!

If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired pardon the cliche. Then why not try a new way. What have you got to lose? The answer to that is you will lose a life of depression, loss, and turmoil that has devastating results. Choosing a life that has meaning is what I’ve done. Sharing through my writing my journey, not to convert you that you will have to decide on your own. I can bring you to the water it’s up to you to drink.

Beginning this journey took a real commitment. Saying change and creating change are two different things. Work will have to be done to evoke change. Quitting when things get tough NOT an option. The old you will fight with a vengeance to destroy the new you. Prepare yourself that the journey to come will require tears, endurance, strength beyond any you’ve put forth in your life.

Amazingly you will come through. If you slip, start over, if you wreck start over, if you cry begin above, if you quit entering again, but don’t give up! When I am complaining, lost and hurt because change is kicking my ass. I reach out to God and say, “I may be wavering in my faith, I may cuss the heavens because of the pain, but God I am not giving up.”

Journeys are not without obstacles. Don’t for one minute think you can’t overcome what the enemy puts in front of you. You can, and you will overcome. I did many times and even now struggle to hold on to my faith. Your faith will be tested. Keep an understanding that in your heart you will many times say “I’m not losing this time.”

Changing of the seasons in our lives can be difficult to understand. For me, the last months have been hard. I had indeed hoped to fix the Brocken problem, but that is not to be, it’s not God’s will for my life. So, accepting God’s will over my intention has been hard. If I am ever going to have lasting happiness, then I need to follow God’s lead.

For the average human, we want to control everything. When it comes down to it, we don’t manage jack squat. Life is going to happen despite our efforts, especially if life doesn’t go your way. Accepting that God controls my destiny, that if I in my heart allow that. Life opens in ways I never dreamed.

It hasn’t been easy to accept God over my own will. It continues to be a challenge that I give to God on a regular basis. Doing something your entire life and changing the course of your life is like turning a massive ship. You must be careful, and it does take time. Patience is a virtue, believe me, when I say, it most certainly is, so stay in faith even when you can’t find hope.

 Allow God to direct your steps. You will have the life you deserve! It’s that easy.

 

 

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Give Up Control Have Faith

One of the hardest things for me to let go of is my wanting to control aspects of my life. If you’re going to have faith in the Universe (God) you have to let, go. It can’t be a negotiation with God over what part of your life he will run and what part we will run.

 No matter what we must give him full control. It does not mean that you say okay God I need my life saved because of this issue whatever that might be. Then do nothing. It will take work on your part to have the patience that God works in his good time.

Learning to become a better person, doing good works in your life to bring a better you to the world. Worry about that over what the outcome will be. The outcome is completely out of your control. The moment you say I got this and you impose your will to that which is in disarray. Nothing positive happens, form that.

We must learn to live not in our head but our soul. You must think about this for a while. How do I do the work?

Here is an example of working in faith:

Let’s say your marriage is at total risk of divorce. Separated, not talking it’s terrible. You want to call your spouse all the time, trying to work it out. How do we get through this time letting God work through us? Let’s say you know you want this person, you know you want the marriage, but the other partner does not at this time.

Here is how we work from our spiritual side and not our head.

 

  • Pray to God for guidance for YOUR life. Ask him where he would like you to be. Don’t beg him to fix your marriage, never begin prayer. He hears you, don’t beg.
  • Start doing things that bring a better you to the marriage should it come to pass that you get back together. Read books, go to therapy, pray for God’s will to be done in your life. God’s will not
  • Allow for time to pass. If it’s God’s will for the two of you to be together, you will be. Be open to the idea that maybe this person is getting moved out of your life so that your destiny can reveal itself. You don’t know! Let life open to you, not because of you! Think!
  • The pain you suffer will pass. It’s the equivalent of someone passing away when we lose a spouse. Don’t listen to all the garbage in your head, “well if I could tell them this, they would understand” stop it now. If you look to the trash in your head, you will lose for sure.
  • Have faith that no matter what happens your life will be better for this trial. If you get back together and all is well. Or if you end up divorced and life presents a NEW season for you.

If you seriously want change, then you must be willing to change. Some pain will come to our heart. Here is the real kicker. It may not work out but on the other hand, it might. Have faith that everything will turn out just as it should. Be open-hearted to receive God’s favor.Happy, Marriage, Spouse

However, should you desire change to happen naturally? Then who knows what life has in-store for you. Believe me, and I do understand the pain of a breakup. At times it can be debilitating. We have to look up and say “okay God I don’t understand, and right now I don’t get it” then be willing to help ourselves, but let God handle our outcome.

I don’t doubt your pain. What I can tell you is if you follow in faith that life will open up to you as it should, life will get better. It will begin to get better quickly with faith. You may have to talk to God hundreds of times a day. That’s okay. He has an open ear ready to hear you. In situations like divorce, financial and loss we tend to beg God. Don’t beg in prayer.

When you pray, have it be about the outcome you desire. “I thank you, God, for the healing you have brought to the hearts of my spouse and me.” Pray as though you already have that which you desire as if you already have it. Don’t ask for something to be fixed; it already is through your faith in God.

God will unfold for you the destiny of your life. That may be something completely different than what you expected. The fantastic news is that it will be bigger, better, more joy, more peace and so much more than you could have ever supposed to happen. That is the fantastic gift that awaits you if you will only have faith!