“Apple Computer would not have reached its current peak of success if it had feared to roll the dice and launch products that didn’t always hit the mark. In, the mid-1990s, the company was considered washed up, Steve Jobs had departed, and a string of lackluster product launches unrelated to the company’s core business”.– Naveen Jain

it’s time to overcome fear!

Fear of success, you would d think not a soul would have that. You would be wrong. Many folks have a fear of success. Sadly many will sabotage any chance for success, by saying “it’s too hard,” “I don’t have the resources,” or quit because it’s hard. Ever heard the phrase no pain no gain, (I know an old cliche)?

The actual difference about a winner and a loser: Getting up one more time! Being able to take a shot from life, get knocked the f&*k out and getting up one more time. In the face of what is the point, get up! If you can do that, you will succeed.

Most of us are afraid of the unknown so don’t feel like you’re the only one. If you jump out and leave yourself vulnerable what is the worst thing that might happen? Seriously? What the hell are any of us afraid of? Oh my God, we might fail! Okay, then what? If all you did was put yourself out there to achieve something more and you failed, now what? You didn’t die, you’re still standing, breathing, 10 fingers and 10 toes.

The worst thing you have to begin again. What the hell is wrong with that. You contemplate your next plan of attack. Choose a new path, what does that path look like? Stop being afraid to just try something new. Find something you’re not scared of. Perhaps it’s when you met someone you were really attracted to. Most people can talk more shit when it’s something that they really want than they ever imagined possible. Some of you would call that game. Why because they are passioned about the end result. Fear is no longer an issue.

Ladies when you’re trying to land that perfect guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. Your conversation is on it’s “A” game. Fear diminishes because your charms take over.  The end result decreases all fear.

What we’re saying here is find the passion in what you’re doing, what diminishes fear is game. Learn all you can about what it is you want to do. Have “game.” When you find the exact reason for what you wish to achieve, family, success, relationship or building the next great business. Find what truly passions you and then allow yourself to stumble, fall, bust your ass over and over. Until one day you take a shot and you don’t fall, you take hit after hit, and you’re still standing. You look around you and figure out you have the game, you have confidence in YOU.

So some of you are still sitting here saying easier said than done you ass. You don’t just change. Okay, I will give you that to some small measure. Until you make a conscious decision to change, I mean a no bullshit decision without any caveats. Then yes you will not find the change you seek.

Most people kick their own ass. You lose before you ever get in the ring to fight, by just telling yourself you can’t. Or you listen to naysayers that say you can’t, sadly these are usually people close to us family.

So stop telling people what you’re going to do and do it! Don’t tell a soul what you doing, misery loves the company and guesses what the only person that wants success for you, Damn well better be just you. Mothers will say, “oh yes honey I want you to be the President of the United States, but with one caveat don’t hurt yourself” sorry princess you don’t get jobs like that without taking some real shots to the gut (no offense Moms, people close to us love us and don’t want to see us in pain, that’s natural).

If you can’t take a shot from life right to the balls and get back up. Then expect the same result you now achieve. You have to put yourself out their take shot. It may be painful, it may hurt, but it won’t kill you! What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger don’t you love stupid cliches.

If needed stand in a room by yourself and scream at the top of your voice “I am not a scared pussy, and those that think I am can kiss my fucking ass.” Scream that as loud and crazy as you can. Stop reading and do it now if you’re not in front of children. If you are, scream in a pillow. Do something that gets your blood boiling, be mad at the world and tell the world NO MORE, I AM DONE, IT’S MY TURN TO WIN.

So you go out and try something it utterly fails, you look foolish, WHO THE FUCK CARES? What colossal injustice you suffered for a whopping few minutes. Next week, next few days I doubt anyone involved will even remember your screw up. So don’t be afraid to screw up because if you jack it up guess what your not so special that people honestly give two shits they’re dealing with their own shit.

Take time to find passion in what you want to try. Yell, scream, get excited about your whatever. Don’t be afraid to screw up. It’s not the end of the world if you do. Kid drops a high fly ball to center field and loses the game. What does a parent say, don’t worry son you will win the next one, it was a mistake, and you will get the next one. So yes folks guess what if you screw up you will get the next one.

You can overcome fear, I bet if someone bitch slapped your Mom, you could find the strength to fight back to protect her. If someone were hurting you or a family member, you would see the strength in yourself to fight back. So you can overcome fear with the right motivation. Merely being sick and tired of being sick and tired, should move your ass. Stop taking a beating to get up and hit back. Methodically of course!

Still not convinced you can overcome your fear? First off it’s okay. Fear can be debilitating if you let it. Things can be easier said than done, that does not mean impossible. Nor is it impossible for you to change.

Change can happen by taking baby steps. Do one thing, just a straightforward matter to overcome fear. Go to a coffee house and strike up a conversation with a total stranger. If nothing more than in passing saying “how about this weather?” If it’s awful, make it just getting off your ass and going out the door. We’re not candy coating things get off your ass and do one thing. I am not asking you out on a second date, do just one small step! That act in and of itself is a step forward, excellent job!!!