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Today be Present in the Moment

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Being present in the moment is something I learned later in life and at some cost. Life can get hectic, bills, stress at work, you could fill in dozens of more distractions.

What do we mean by being present in the moment? If your children are tugging on you to pay attention to them. When your mind is somewhere else, focused on how you’re going to pay the rent, for example. Kids can sense when you’re not paying total attention.

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Even a spouse can sense when you are not really there. The mind is sifting through tons of garbage, not what is at hand. Just, not paying attention.

It’s easy to justify the stress overtaking the moment. “If I don’t focus on my work, we don’t eat.” That very well may be true to a point. Eight o’clock at night business is closed, you can give your spouse, or children some of your time.

Being able to be present at the moment with family is precious. You can’t get back time, ever! What I learned the hard way is that your stress will be there in the morning, why not leave it at the front door. Easier said than done!

Here are some things I do today so that I can be present at the moment:

  1. Stress if I allow overtaking my brain, makes matters worse. Learn to harness your fear. If you freak out, that is precisely what your Universe will deliver to you!
  2. Meditate daily. Learn to relax, focus your mind. It’s in these moments solutions will come to you. Peace will come to you!
  3. Breathe, you heard me breathe. During the day, stop and breathe. Take a couple deep cleansing breaths and then breath in through the nose and out through the mouth. Do this for about a minute only. Try it you will be amazed.
  4. Prioritize time for your family. They’re way more important than ANYTHING else you could be focused on. Happy breeds Happy in your home! You bring the stress and guess what, that’s what the family gets, stress. Stop it!
  5. Take a walk. I am not talking about going to the gym to take a step. Get outside and clear your head. Enjoy the world around you. Learn to relax. Walking helps to do this. This is not a workout walk, this is holding the hand of your spouse walk.

Don’t put this off until tomorrow, next month, you need to give this gift to yourself. Time is more precious than we imagine while stressed out. If you can’t be present at the moment for your family voluntarily, what would happen if heaven forbid you were forced to focus. A health reason, someone got injured, you could find time then.

Don’t waste this precious time in your life focused on the bills, work stress, hell everyone has that. Give those that love you, YOU! Don’t tell your children you’re too busy. Don’t tell your spouse you’re too busy.

Unaquivicably, I can tell you that all the stress, worry, I brought too my life didn’t make tinkers damn in the final outcome. Meaning, it only brought more of the same full frontal stress!

Stop at the moment breathe, smile, and enjoy.

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Beginners Guide to Meditation

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Meditation is a fantastic way to help still your mind. Allowing you to relax in ways I am confident you never have before. Meditating also will enable you to visualize what your heart desires. Getting you into a state of bliss.

The great news is this is not hard at all to do or practice. The steps to get started are easy to learn.

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Let’s get started with what you need before you begin to meditate:

  1. Using meditation music helps a lot. If you have headphones for your smartphone, this works great. Headphones help drown out ambient noise that can distract your concentration. The music will help you focus your mind.
  2. Have a place where you can either sit on a comfortable pillow or chair or lay down (you don’t want to fall asleep), soft but not so that you sleep. We want to be awake but entirely pleasant.
  3. If possible, turn off cell phone notifications. It’s essential not to break your concentration.
  4. The most important thing before you begin is that you’re comfortable. Wear comfortable clothes, bare feet, a warm temperature, and no distractions.
  5. Think about what you would like to focus on during your meditation practice. Try to think only about one thing, for example, pick one; relaxation, happiness, let go of stress. If you have something, then use it.
  6. Remember, there is a reason it’s called a practice! Over time you will get excellent.
  7. There is no real-time limit. What I teach is to continue for 5 minutes and continue until you feel like you have finished. Find the bliss, enjoy it, and leave your meditation practice on a peak note.

Now that you have the stuff you need, where to begin:

  1. Get into a comfortable position. It’s not a bad idea to stretch for a moment to loosen up your body, nothing fancy, just reach.
  2. Turn on the music and begin to relax.
  3. Take a few deep cleansing breaths through the nose and out through the mouth. Fill your lungs with happiness and joy, exhale all the dark.
  4. As you finish the cleansing breaths, begin to focus on your breathing. Take nice lung-filling breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth. There are no strains, just lovely and smooth breathing. Fill your body with Clean, healing oxygen and exhale dark black stress, tension, and so on.
  5. Continue to breathe and let your body completely relax. Remove any thought from your head; all you want to concentrate on is in with the good and out with the bad. Relax!
  6. As you feel yourself relaxing, enjoy the moment and be present in that moment. (A side note here: if you’re having trouble, can’t relax, or your head is running ninety to nothing, be patient. This may take a couple of sessions to master.)
  7. Look through your mind’s eye and see yourself happy, stress-free, and tension-free in a place that makes you happy. Feel the emotions, and be grateful for this moment.
  8. Rinse and Repeat! Practice daily.

The power of meditation can only be experienced. Whatever preconceived notions you might have, have an open heart and give it a try.

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Setting Boundaries

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When you examine how your life is working day-to-day. It’s essential to think about what is adding stress to your life. Could it be fixed by merely setting boundaries?

The answer to that is yes!

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It’s okay to set boundaries in relationships, with children little or grown. When we set expectations for what is acceptable in our lives and what is not, it’s incredible how much easier life becomes.

Work can also be a place where clear boundaries need to be set.

This change, however, most likely won’t come without some resistance. Here is a checklist to help with that conversation:

  • Set clear and easy to understand boundaries. If you need to write them out, do so. Just make sure that whoever is on the receiving end understands clearly.
  • Over a reason why you need this boundary. Explain the stress that it brings.
  • Don’t get upset if it takes a bit of time for the behavior to change.
  • Let the person know you’re not mad, it’s just bringing undue stress into your life.

With just a little conversation, we can set the stage for acceptable behavior.

If you struggle setting boundaries for family, friends, or coworkers. Take time to write out your thoughts on how this relationship could be a two-way street. Don’t just jump in without some real thought.

Sleep on your results reread them. If satisfied, sit down with the person and have a friendly chat. Set expectations and lay them out.

You don’t have to live at someone’s Becken call 24/7/365. Figure what you need to not have stress, put it out there and then hold that person or person’s accountable. It’s not unreasonable by any standard.

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Daily Quote lets Laugh

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“I looked up my family tree and found three dogs using it.”–Rodney Dangerfield

 

Laughing is the best cure-all!!!

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Glitzy a Spoiled Dog’s Life

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For those of you that have pets, I am sure some of you may be able to relate to having a spoiled dog. Glitzy is on the outer rim of spoiled, I love Glitzy and wouldn’t have it any other way.

Her latest antics are pretty fun and worth a story.

This will help set the stage for her latest thing knowing a little story of how she communicates with me.

One night a couple of years ago, Glitzy would come to me while I was on the couch and bark at me. She had food, water, bones, and everything to make a princess dog a princess dog. She just wouldn’t stop barking at me. dog, pet, Glitzy

I got up looking around, talking to her, “what do you want?” When I walked by the bedroom door, she walked in and jumped on the bed. Now, I figured out what she wanted; it was time to go to bed. So every night since that night around 9:00 PM she will come to me and bark because it’s time for bed.

If I obey her, the barking stops, if I don’t, it only gets worse!

So what is Glitzy’s new command for me you might ask???

For the last two nights, she wakes up. When she wants me to get up, she puts her front paws on me and pushes. Now she doubles that with her bossy bark.

So while trying to translate her bark into what the heck she wants. I am looking for her bone, doesn’t want that. Looking around the bed to see if I can see what she wants, I turn over and move the opposite direction of where I was laying, she, in turn, jumps over me and puts her paw to indicate covers please (she also has a command for sheets).

She decided I needed to roll over the other way so she could move to a new spot and have me so she could cuddle up next to me to go back to sleep under the covers.

OMG, spoiled! 

So now when Glitzy wants a new spot, she barks at me to move into a new position so she might be comfortable.